Why now old friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IDK, but you're entitled to a preference for who you have as a friend. I wouldn't have her as a friend going forward. She's either cruel, suddenly for an unknown reason or she's developed some mental problems.

And why would this bother OP? It's not like her DH cheated with a friend. It was before OP dated her DH. And it lasted for 2 seconds, so her DH did not catch any deep feelings for her friend.

[Anonymous]

My opinion is that she's having issues in her life and was hoping that mentioning it would cause issues in your life. Especially the part when she said its not her problem shows her character and I wouldn't claim this person as a friend.

[Anonymous]

It seems she has no happiness in her life. Has she always been this crude? Block her number.

[Anonymous]

I slept with my friend's husband about a month before I met DH and about 6 months before he met her (he was part of our overall friend group, she was a college friend that moved to the area). I can't really picture any reason I would bring this up to her, especially years and years later.

Was it said in a funny/joking manner? Or did she sound like she was trying to stir something up.

I don't think my friend would particularly care, it was nearly 20 years ago. But I also can't imagine saying "haha did you know I slept with your DH 18 years ago?"

[Anonymous]

I feel like your husband or her should have brought it up at one point before you got married.

However, it is true you don't usually compare notes.

I feel like that was shady of her to do and you probably want to keep your distance.

In the end, you are the one who is with him now.

[Anonymous]

Your husband dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My opinion is that she's having issues in her life and was hoping that mentioning it would cause issues in your life. Especially the part when she said its not her problem shows her character and I wouldn't claim this person as a friend.

100%, no 1000% this.

I cut out not one but two such "friends" while DH and I were dating. They didn't know him before we got together, but did really weird things around him or for him, fully expecting to stir the pot in our relationship. It was really strange. I also had a "friend" hit on my then long-term boyfriend; he was the one who finally told me about it because I was totally blind and trusting.

I would let your "old friend" go, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s so weird she told you. Maybe she’s going through a hard time.

+1 misery loves company.

[Anonymous]

That is kind of weird.

I was out the other night, chatting with a woman I know who is married to a guy I briefly dated years ago. She's amazing, and I think he is very lucky to have found her. I have no idea if she knows we dated, but I decided long ago to never say a word about it. You just don't know how people are going to handle that info.

[Anonymous]

She is going slightly mad

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Last night I was in the phone with an old friend. We haven’t lived near each other in 30 years but we do get together every five years or so. I was talking about my husband and she casually mentioned that she had had a two week fling with him just before he and I started dating. Before I could say anything she provided some graphic detail about it. I said “really, I never heard about it.” Then she said well that’s your problem, not mine. Why would she bring this up 30 years later?When I asked my husband about it he said yes but talking about ex GFs wasn’t his thing and that I never talked about mine which is true. I can’t imagine telling an old friend that I had banged her husband many years ago. Why would someone do that?

You were talking about your husband... What did you say? Because if you were talking about how much he likes sports, this is kinda weird. But if you were talking about his bedroom habits, this makes perfect sense.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Last night I was in the phone with an old friend. We haven’t lived near each other in 30 years but we do get together every five years or so. I was talking about my husband and she casually mentioned that she had had a two week fling with him just before he and I started dating. Before I could say anything she provided some graphic detail about it. I said “really, I never heard about it.” Then she said well that’s your problem, not mine. Why would she bring this up 30 years later?When I asked my husband about it he said yes but talking about ex GFs wasn’t his thing and that I never talked about mine which is true. I can’t imagine telling an old friend that I had banged her husband many years ago. Why would someone do that?

You were talking about your husband... What did you say? Because if you were talking about how much he likes sports, this is kinda weird. But if you were talking about his bedroom habits, this makes perfect sense.

No way does talking about “bedroom habits” with a spouse of many years make any sense.

[Anonymous]

She’s horny and wants some D

[Anonymous]

Meh, it was before you were with him, so no biggie there, but I'd probably forgo "catching up" any more

[Anonymous]

How cold and calculated…so she is lingering and waiting for your marriage to fall apart so she can slither in like the stalking snake she is? Your husband has you looking crazy too, you should know this information already. She might have done it purposely to blow up your marriage. I would be turning my awareness way up and make sure she doesn’t get into your house and start boiling rabbits…