Why now old friend?

[Anonymous]

Last night I was in the phone with an old friend. We haven’t lived near each other in 30 years but we do get together every five years or so. I was talking about my husband and she casually mentioned that she had had a two week fling with him just before he and I started dating. Before I could say anything she provided some graphic detail about it. I said “really, I never heard about it.” Then she said well that’s your problem, not mine. Why would she bring this up 30 years later?When I asked my husband about it he said yes but talking about ex GFs wasn’t his thing and that I never talked about mine which is true. I can’t imagine telling an old friend that I had banged her husband many years ago. Why would someone do that?

[Anonymous]

Depression, mid-life crisis, substance abuse, or early signs of dementia. Sorry OP that is random and weird!

[Anonymous]

Women are really the worst to each other. Sorry, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women are really the worst to each other. Sorry, OP.

Don’t parrot this misogynistic lie. This is irrelevant to OP’s post.

OP, time to cut ties. She’s weird.

[Anonymous]

Your friend is going through something and it is stirring up unprocessed emotions and insecurity within her that probably have nothing to do with you or your dh.

[Anonymous]

Ugh… So all these years and you didn’t know?
Geezzzz

[Anonymous]

If it's true, and your relationship is fine, why would you care?

She probably had to tiptoe around your insecurities for 30 years and didn't feel like coddling you anymore so she told you the truth.

[Anonymous]

Your husband sounds sketchy. How has it not come up that he was f***ing your best friend right before you got together? Gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband sounds sketchy. How has it not come up that he was f***ing your best friend right before you got together? Gross.

OP here- she wasn’t my best friend and my husband and I have never spoken in detail about past relationships especially anything short term. She has always had some insecurities so this may be part of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your husband sounds sketchy. How has it not come up that he was f***ing your best friend right before you got together? Gross.

OP here- she wasn’t my best friend and my husband and I have never spoken in detail about past relationships especially anything short term. She has always had some insecurities so this may be part of it.

This would be the end of the friendship, period. She wanted to unsettle you (at best) and/or inflict pain (at worst). Providing graphic details and then blaming you for not knowing suggests she already decided the friendship was over and was blowing it up. I'm sorry. That's not nice.

[Anonymous]

IDK, but you're entitled to a preference for who you have as a friend. I wouldn't have her as a friend going forward. She's either cruel, suddenly for an unknown reason or she's developed some mental problems.

[Anonymous]

I guess old friend is now a former friend.
Keep an eye out. She might be on the prowl again.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:IDK, but you're entitled to a preference for who you have as a friend. I wouldn't have her as a friend going forward. She's either cruel, suddenly for an unknown reason or she's developed some mental problems.

She's nuts

[Anonymous]

That’s so weird she told you. Maybe she’s going through a hard time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it's true, and your relationship is fine, why would you care?

She probably had to tiptoe around your insecurities for 30 years and didn't feel like coddling you anymore so she told you the truth.

+1.

How is this an issue? It's random and inconsequential.