Name calling you are willing to accept

[Anonymous]

None. I wouldn't even call my husband stupid, much less worse than that. Intelligent people don't resort to name calling when in an argument.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None. I wouldn't even call my husband stupid, much less worse than that. Intelligent people don't resort to name calling when in an argument.

Not to parse words here, but.. is “don’t be so stupid!” name calling? I don’t think so. PP who said we are our own boundary on this is exactly right.

[Anonymous]

In 20 years, I told my husband to F off once and I have said “stop being a jackass” a few times.

He told me to stop having a shitty attitude once and to stop acting like a “b” once.

Neither of us are going to divorce over these few instances when we are each self aware enough to know that we likely had crossed a bit of a line when the language was used. But we don’t yell at each other and are very respectful as the general rule. The F off moment was during a stressful travel moment when I had had no sleep. That doesn’t make it ok, but I think my husband can see the bigger picture that this was very uncharacteristic of me and a lot was happening in that moment (and he most definitely was not contributing to the solution in the moment either).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In 20 years, I told my husband to F off once and I have said “stop being a jackass” a few times.

He told me to stop having a shitty attitude once and to stop acting like a “b” once.

Neither of us are going to divorce over these few instances when we are each self aware enough to know that we likely had crossed a bit of a line when the language was used. But we don’t yell at each other and are very respectful as the general rule. The F off moment was during a stressful travel moment when I had had no sleep. That doesn’t make it ok, but I think my husband can see the bigger picture that this was very uncharacteristic of me and a lot was happening in that moment (and he most definitely was not contributing to the solution in the moment either).

And for what it’s worth, none of these statements were ever made in a “heated” way. It has been more of a “come on” kind of way.

[Anonymous]

None.

[Anonymous]

We only call each other names when quoting our favorite shows.

[Anonymous]

That’s absolutely unacceptable. Sounds like there is a high level of disrespect and contempt.

[Anonymous]

DH and I had a conversation and mutually agreed that we would never call each other names. We stayed true to it. It's just not something either of us would be willing to accept.

[Anonymous]

When I'm really mad I call him shrimp dick

[Anonymous]

What? None.

[Anonymous]

Name calling I am willing to accept
"Baby"
"Babe"
"Darling"
"Honey"
"Sweet thang"

B.... or C...? Not a snowballs chance in hell.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Back and forth in a fight. Frankly, I woul rather hear about it than have anger or resentment squashed down or come out in passive aggressive ways.

And words are just words. It’s the meaning behind them. I work on an inpatient psych unit, and I have been called a “housewife” with more vitriol than I have been called a “m—ther f—er who sucks your father’s c—-.”

Considering this is the relationship forum, I'm guessing OP meant these phrases used in a romantic partnership fight. Not a fight with your mentally ill patients.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I'm really mad I call him shrimp dick

Probably good for your G spot

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:None? That sounds the healthiest obviously.

Names back and forth in a fight?

Being called a C*nT? And/or B*&cH?

Worse, which I won’t spell out and actually I’m not sure but maybe I’m not super imaginative .

Why are you with someone who abuses you? This is verbal abuse. You deserve better! You do NOT deserve to be spoken to like this. Please leave this person, they are not safe for you.

There are men who won't call you names. There are men who will love and respect you. Please take care of yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:None. I wouldn't even call my husband stupid, much less worse than that. Intelligent people don't resort to name calling when in an argument.

Not to parse words here, but.. is “don’t be so stupid!” name calling? I don’t think so. PP who said we are our own boundary on this is exactly right.

I mean, isn't it? On what occasion would you say that to your husband? I think calling someone stupid is rude and unproductive. Does it even describe the behavior accurately or clearly explain how you feel about what he did? To me, it doesn't. So I prefer to use words that make sense and further discussion. If my husband left a bag of trash on the bag porch, for example, and the dogs got into it when they went outside, I suppose I could say "don't be so stupid!" but what purpose does that serve? Can you give me an example where that works, and by works I mean helps the person who did the thing to understand what they did and how you felt about it?