POS HSV-2

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you take precautions, you’ll be fine. Talk to a doc. I’ve had five minor outbreaks in the 13 years I’ve been married and DH and I have been condom-free that whole time. He hasn’t gotten it.

I don't have this but my best friend does. Doesn't come up much now but she had kids with no issues and 20 years in her husband is still negative. Observing from a distance, I am way less freaked by this than others seem to be and now think it's kind of ridiculous for it to bea bi deal breaker people think it is. She also has had very few outbreaks.

[Anonymous]

Over 10 percent of adults have HSV-2. Most full STD testing panels don't include it because it is so common. HSV-1 is more common. Ironically, although HSV-2 is known as genital herpes and HSV-1 is known as oral herpes, both versions can be transmitted through genital or oral contact.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Over 10 percent of adults have HSV-2. Most full STD testing panels don't include it because it is so common. HSV-1 is more common. Ironically, although HSV-2 is known as genital herpes and HSV-1 is known as oral herpes, both versions can be transmitted through genital or oral contact.

Who cares how common it is? Do you want it? Or a Lifetime of meds? Explaining to partners & putting others at risk ?

Eww

[Anonymous]

Do not fornicate. have sex only with your spouse, you will be okay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over 10 percent of adults have HSV-2. Most full STD testing panels don't include it because it is so common. HSV-1 is more common. Ironically, although HSV-2 is known as genital herpes and HSV-1 is known as oral herpes, both versions can be transmitted through genital or oral contact.

Who cares how common it is? Do you want it? Or a Lifetime of meds? Explaining to partners & putting others at risk ?

Eww

I’ve had it for 20 years and I literally take medication once every 1-2 years when I think one might be coming on. It usually doesn’t materialize. My spouse has never caught it.

I have a good friend who has been rejected by a few guys because of this. Funny thing, she is an incredible woman (hence her being super up front about it) and they missed out over something seriously minor. She ended up with a phenomenal guy. People DGAF about HPV, but that’s the one that can literally kill you.

Seriously, I find most adults still have an adolescent attitude about HSV but are super casual about other STDs that are more than just an inconvenience. Also, y’all already have herpes, just FYI. That’s why you have or will get your shingles vax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over 10 percent of adults have HSV-2. Most full STD testing panels don't include it because it is so common. HSV-1 is more common. Ironically, although HSV-2 is known as genital herpes and HSV-1 is known as oral herpes, both versions can be transmitted through genital or oral contact.

Who cares how common it is? Do you want it? Or a Lifetime of meds? Explaining to partners & putting others at risk ?

Eww

I’ve had it for 20 years and I literally take medication once every 1-2 years when I think one might be coming on. It usually doesn’t materialize. My spouse has never caught it.

I have a good friend who has been rejected by a few guys because of this. Funny thing, she is an incredible woman (hence her being super up front about it) and they missed out over something seriously minor. She ended up with a phenomenal guy. People DGAF about HPV, but that’s the one that can literally kill you.

Seriously, I find most adults still have an adolescent attitude about HSV but are super casual about other STDs that are more than just an inconvenience. Also, y’all already have herpes, just FYI. That’s why you have or will get your shingles vax.

The issue with herpes is that women would tell their male partners and women take precautions taking anti virals.
I've never met an HSV-2 positive MAN who would believe taking anti-virals to keep me safe is necessary. HSV2 positive men just told tell women or think we need to accept the risk and they don't use condoms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over 10 percent of adults have HSV-2. Most full STD testing panels don't include it because it is so common. HSV-1 is more common. Ironically, although HSV-2 is known as genital herpes and HSV-1 is known as oral herpes, both versions can be transmitted through genital or oral contact.

Who cares how common it is? Do you want it? Or a Lifetime of meds? Explaining to partners & putting others at risk ?

Eww

I’ve had it for 20 years and I literally take medication once every 1-2 years when I think one might be coming on. It usually doesn’t materialize. My spouse has never caught it.

I have a good friend who has been rejected by a few guys because of this. Funny thing, she is an incredible woman (hence her being super up front about it) and they missed out over something seriously minor. She ended up with a phenomenal guy. People DGAF about HPV, but that’s the one that can literally kill you.

Seriously, I find most adults still have an adolescent attitude about HSV but are super casual about other STDs that are more than just an inconvenience. Also, y’all already have herpes, just FYI. That’s why you have or will get your shingles vax.

A former LTG had it and she was up front about it. She was on Valtrex; had not had an outbreak in a long time and it was clearly dormant.

Still, she was also open that it could still technically be transmitted; condoms don’t always protect because an outbreak can occur “on the outside” and contact skin not covered by the condom.

Because it was dormant and suppressed by Valtrex, we went ahead. But I nearly always wore a condom; about 95% of the time (and 100% for anal). I never contracted it.

After we broke up, she married and had what I assume was a normal pregnancy / delivery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over 10 percent of adults have HSV-2. Most full STD testing panels don't include it because it is so common. HSV-1 is more common. Ironically, although HSV-2 is known as genital herpes and HSV-1 is known as oral herpes, both versions can be transmitted through genital or oral contact.

Who cares how common it is? Do you want it? Or a Lifetime of meds? Explaining to partners & putting others at risk ?

Eww

I’ve had it for 20 years and I literally take medication once every 1-2 years when I think one might be coming on. It usually doesn’t materialize. My spouse has never caught it.

I have a good friend who has been rejected by a few guys because of this. Funny thing, she is an incredible woman (hence her being super up front about it) and they missed out over something seriously minor. She ended up with a phenomenal guy. People DGAF about HPV, but that’s the one that can literally kill you.

Seriously, I find most adults still have an adolescent attitude about HSV but are super casual about other STDs that are more than just an inconvenience. Also, y’all already have herpes, just FYI. That’s why you have or will get your shingles vax.

This. My now exDH tried to tell me that his HSV-1 infection was just an oral cold sore outbreak that was triggered due to stress. He took Valtrex and tried to avoid certain interactions with me to minimize risk. Later I found out that he had actually visited the Dr. about the cold sore because he had slept with prostitutes while on an overseas work trip. I asked him to get tested with a full STD panel, including both HSV, and share it with me, and he didn't manage to do that. There was so much yuck about this situation -- that OFC it was not safe for me to stay with him.

I say this because, while it may be possible to manage a relationship where only one partner has HSV, one would have to be pretty convinced that the spouse was a reliable partner

The issue with herpes is that women would tell their male partners and women take precautions taking anti virals.
I've never met an HSV-2 positive MAN who would believe taking anti-virals to keep me safe is necessary. HSV2 positive men just told tell women or think we need to accept the risk and they don't use condoms

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over 10 percent of adults have HSV-2. Most full STD testing panels don't include it because it is so common. HSV-1 is more common. Ironically, although HSV-2 is known as genital herpes and HSV-1 is known as oral herpes, both versions can be transmitted through genital or oral contact.

Who cares how common it is? Do you want it? Or a Lifetime of meds? Explaining to partners & putting others at risk ?

Eww

I’ve had it for 20 years and I literally take medication once every 1-2 years when I think one might be coming on. It usually doesn’t materialize. My spouse has never caught it.

I have a good friend who has been rejected by a few guys because of this. Funny thing, she is an incredible woman (hence her being super up front about it) and they missed out over something seriously minor. She ended up with a phenomenal guy. People DGAF about HPV, but that’s the one that can literally kill you.

Seriously, I find most adults still have an adolescent attitude about HSV but are super casual about other STDs that are more than just an inconvenience. Also, y’all already have herpes, just FYI. That’s why you have or will get your shingles vax.

This. My now exDH tried to tell me that his HSV-1 infection was just an oral cold sore outbreak that was triggered due to stress. He took Valtrex and tried to avoid certain interactions with me to minimize risk. Later I found out that he had actually visited the Dr. about the cold sore because he had slept with prostitutes while on an overseas work trip. I asked him to get tested with a full STD panel, including both HSV, and share it with me, and he didn't manage to do that. There was so much yuck about this situation -- that OFC it was not safe for me to stay with him.

I say this because, while it may be possible to manage a relationship where only one partner has HSV, one would have to be pretty convinced that the spouse was a reliable partner

The issue with herpes is that women would tell their male partners and women take precautions taking anti virals.
I've never met an HSV-2 positive MAN who would believe taking anti-virals to keep me safe is necessary. HSV2 positive men just told tell women or think we need to accept the risk and they don't use condoms

I’m confused. Do you know that cold sores are HSV or…. ????

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My new partner is positive for HSN-2. They are on valtrex taken regularly.

Outbreak is how they found out they have it. But they were dormant for 3 years.

What are the risks for oral and PIV?

Never heard of it. Good luck.

You've never heard of herpes?

[Anonymous]

When I was in this situation, a friend with more experience told me that partners who disclose up front that they have it are likely decent people with concern for you and your health, and not to dismiss that information. I proceeded, dlowly, with the relationship and we got married. 20+ years and I have not gotten it. He has not had an outbreak in all that time (no meds), so long-term dormancy can happen too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When I was in this situation, a friend with more experience told me that partners who disclose up front that they have it are likely decent people with concern for you and your health, and not to dismiss that information. I proceeded, dlowly, with the relationship and we got married. 20+ years and I have not gotten it. He has not had an outbreak in all that time (no meds), so long-term dormancy can happen too.

Do you use condoms?

[Anonymous]

Oh joy it's our annual herpes is the devil thread!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Over 10 percent of adults have HSV-2. Most full STD testing panels don't include it because it is so common. HSV-1 is more common. Ironically, although HSV-2 is known as genital herpes and HSV-1 is known as oral herpes, both versions can be transmitted through genital or oral contact.

Who cares how common it is? Do you want it? Or a Lifetime of meds? Explaining to partners & putting others at risk ?

Eww

I’ve had it for 20 years and I literally take medication once every 1-2 years when I think one might be coming on. It usually doesn’t materialize. My spouse has never caught it.

I have a good friend who has been rejected by a few guys because of this. Funny thing, she is an incredible woman (hence her being super up front about it) and they missed out over something seriously minor. She ended up with a phenomenal guy. People DGAF about HPV, but that’s the one that can literally kill you.

Seriously, I find most adults still have an adolescent attitude about HSV but are super casual about other STDs that are more than just an inconvenience. Also, y’all already have herpes, just FYI. That’s why you have or will get your shingles vax.

A former LTG had it and she was up front about it. She was on Valtrex; had not had an outbreak in a long time and it was clearly dormant.

Still, she was also open that it could still technically be transmitted; condoms don’t always protect because an outbreak can occur “on the outside” and contact skin not covered by the condom.

Because it was dormant and suppressed by Valtrex, we went ahead. But I nearly always wore a condom; about 95% of the time (and 100% for anal). I never contracted it.

After we broke up, she married and had what I assume was a normal pregnancy / delivery.

Did you ever give her oral?

[Anonymous]

I'm an old virgin but have a bf who gets cold sores and doesn't take meds for it. Wondering if I should tell him to take it or what before we have sex.