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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Over 10 percent of adults have HSV-2.  Most full STD testing panels don't include it because it is so common.  HSV-1 is more common. Ironically, although HSV-2 is known as genital herpes and HSV-1 is known as oral herpes, both versions can be transmitted through genital or oral contact. [/quote]

Who cares how common it is? Do you want it?  Or a Lifetime of meds? Explaining to partners & putting others at risk ?

Eww [/quote]
I’ve had it for 20 years and I literally take medication once every 1-2 years when I think one might be coming on. It usually doesn’t materialize. My spouse has never caught it.

I have a good friend who has been rejected by a few guys because of this. Funny thing, she is an incredible woman (hence her being super up front about it) and they missed out over something seriously minor. She ended up with a phenomenal guy. People DGAF about HPV, but that’s the one that can literally kill you.

Seriously, I find most adults still have an adolescent attitude about HSV but are super casual about other STDs that are more than just an inconvenience. Also, y’all already have herpes, just FYI. That’s why you have or will get your shingles vax. [/quote]

This.  My now exDH tried to tell me that his HSV-1 infection was just an oral cold sore outbreak that was triggered due to stress.  He took Valtrex and tried to avoid certain interactions with me to minimize risk.  Later I found out that he had actually visited the Dr. about the cold sore because he had slept with prostitutes while on an overseas work trip.  I asked him to get tested with a full STD panel, including both HSV, and share it with me, and he didn't manage to do that.  There was so much yuck about this situation -- that OFC it was not safe for me to stay with him.

I say this because, while it may be possible to manage a relationship where only one partner has HSV, one would have to be pretty convinced that the spouse was a reliable partner

The issue with herpes is that women would tell their male partners and women take precautions taking anti virals. 
I've never met an HSV-2 positive MAN who would believe taking anti-virals to keep me safe is necessary. HSV2 positive men just told tell women or think we need to accept the risk and they don't use condoms[/quote][/quote]

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