Women should approach more if they want to date 'in-person'

[Anonymous]

Guys, you can’t shoot your load if you don’t first shoot your shot.

[Anonymous]

Weeding out some whiny loser who won't approach a woman because he's not in a "talkative mood" is actually one of the many reasons why women who know their own value insist on men being the ones to approach.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But it worked because she did what she was supposed to do ..she kept making eye contact and got some time by herself so you would approach her.

it's a 5-story tall gallery - there were other baddies who I initially crossed paths with but the museum was so large I didn't see them again over the course of the evening.

that strategy works in smaller more intimate spaces. not pretty large/public areas

Again, she kept making sure she was around you so you would see her. So this strategy worked in a large event.

DP. That is exhausting. Plus the climate has changed. Most men now believe women do not want to be approached. It is time for women to put them selves out there and make the first move. Women have no excuses.

I’m sure you are popular with that attitude!

I’m confused about OP though. It sounds like he is the one who missed an opportunity by not actually responding when she DID in fact make clear she was interested.

[Anonymous]

FWIW, you initiated, OP. If you hadn’t made a comment on her scarf, she would not have talked to you. Women set men up, you have to initiate, they have to lob it back. It’s a fun game. Too bad everyone is too distracted by their phone to play.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But it worked because she did what she was supposed to do ..she kept making eye contact and got some time by herself so you would approach her.

it's a 5-story tall gallery - there were other baddies who I initially crossed paths with but the museum was so large I didn't see them again over the course of the evening.

that strategy works in smaller more intimate spaces. not pretty large/public areas

Again, she kept making sure she was around you so you would see her. So this strategy worked in a large event.

DP. That is exhausting. Plus the climate has changed. Most men now believe women do not want to be approached. It is time for women to put them selves out there and make the first move. Women have no excuses.

It’s not exhausting. Jesus, are you a porn addict or something? It’s part of a very fun game and it’s the reason the human species still exists.

[Anonymous]

So do you take her home?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was at an art event last night and crossed paths with a woman, who was with another woman and a guy. We first crossed paths walking past each other on the stairs and looked at each other and kept walking.

I later saw her separated from the other woman in one of the galleries and at first didn't feel like chatting with her (i wasn't in a talkative mood) so I mulled around the gallery and made a comment about her scarf as she was about to leave. Anyways we started chatting and 5 mins into the convo, she says "when I saw you on the stairs as you walked past us, i told my girlfriend how handsome you were"...

ladies...shoot your shot. If i never said something, we would've never connected.

it's exhausting to always be the one to shoot first. i don't mind doing it (it's the only way i meet people since i'm not online) but in 2025 women need to embrace more agency.

No matter what women do, it is always wrong. You have to turn something positive into something negative. If a woman had come up to you when you weren't feeling 'chatty' you would have called her harassing you and not reading the room.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But it worked because she did what she was supposed to do ..she kept making eye contact and got some time by herself so you would approach her.

it's a 5-story tall gallery - there were other baddies who I initially crossed paths with but the museum was so large I didn't see them again over the course of the evening.

that strategy works in smaller more intimate spaces. not pretty large/public areas

Again, she kept making sure she was around you so you would see her. So this strategy worked in a large event.

DP. That is exhausting. Plus the climate has changed. Most men now believe women do not want to be approached. It is time for women to put them selves out there and make the first move. Women have no excuses.

It’s not exhausting. Jesus, are you a porn addict or something? It’s part of a very fun game and it’s the reason the human species still exists.

Right? Imagine *successfully* flirting with a woman at a gallery and then coming here to whine about it and be resentful. OP is an incel whether or not he knows it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I challenge single women to get 1 number or ask out someone a minimum once a week in person.

as a guy, the threshold should average 4-5 approaches a week....but women can do 1.

are you going to let some weird software bro coding up the hinge back-end software stack be the genesis of your next relationship?

Most single women these days are happy single so they aren't going to ask for one dude's phone number!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But it worked because she did what she was supposed to do ..she kept making eye contact and got some time by herself so you would approach her.

it's a 5-story tall gallery - there were other baddies who I initially crossed paths with but the museum was so large I didn't see them again over the course of the evening.

that strategy works in smaller more intimate spaces. not pretty large/public areas

“Baddies?”

Wut.

Wrong forum.

95%+ of the posters here won't know what this means. Lol

[Anonymous]

OP, you literally just proved that if a man wants a woman and she gives signals, he will approach. So why do women have to approach first again?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Weeding out some whiny loser who won't approach a woman because he's not in a "talkative mood" is actually one of the many reasons why women who know their own value insist on men being the ones to approach.

+1

Bizarre and outdated (wannabe) pickup artist vibes.

Also, stop telling women what to do. We could take or leave your specific (or septic, as autocorrect wanted to say) D.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:But it worked because she did what she was supposed to do ..she kept making eye contact and got some time by herself so you would approach her.

it's a 5-story tall gallery - there were other baddies who I initially crossed paths with but the museum was so large I didn't see them again over the course of the evening.

that strategy works in smaller more intimate spaces. not pretty large/public areas

Again, she kept making sure she was around you so you would see her. So this strategy worked in a large event.

DP. That is exhausting. Plus the climate has changed. Most men now believe women do not want to be approached. It is time for women to put them selves out there and make the first move. Women have no excuses.

It’s not exhausting. Jesus, are you a porn addict or something? It’s part of a very fun game and it’s the reason the human species still exists.

It's part of a "very fun" game where women don't want to play by the same rules as the guy.

[Anonymous]

Sure, I did all the time when I was single. Get a sense of the scene and find the most attractive guy there and smile and if they smiled back go up to them. About half the time they smiled back they would come up to me first but if not, I'd make that move and chat them up to see what they were about. They were always at least flattered even if end up going anywhere.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sure, I did all the time when I was single. Get a sense of the scene and find the most attractive guy there and smile and if they smiled back go up to them. About half the time they smiled back they would come up to me first but if not, I'd make that move and chat them up to see what they were about. They were always at least flattered even if end up going anywhere.

*even if it didn’t end up going anywhere