Is it disrespectful to ignore the dress code?

[Anonymous]

Disrespectful. Rude. Tacky. All of it. The host probably won’t say anything. Other guests will talk about it.

[Anonymous]

To me, formal means a long dress/tux.. I would bet $$ the host.'s idea of formal means "no jeans " Best guess, people will be dressed all over the place. As others have stated, what you say depends on the person who plans to wear jeans.

[Anonymous]

She will just be humiliating herself. Let it go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As the host, I'd be annoyed, but I wouldn't say anything.

But I also wouldn't have a huge birthday party for myself as an adult.

+1 to both of these.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She will just be humiliating herself. Let it go.

This.

She could easily wear black dress pants and a silk or sequined blouse/jacket to attempt to blend in.

Formal likely means cocktail dress if it’s a birthday party.

[Anonymous]

Some people have terrible social skills. Accept that fact and move on.

[Anonymous]

Good ettiquette dictates people follow the dress code. It also means that the host should do everything to make that guest feel comfortable.

As a host I would actually feel sorry for that guest - could they not pull an outfit together? - they must feel uncomfortable and out of place.... but no, I wouldn't think about it deeper than that.

[Anonymous]

If you can't muster enough respect for the host/hostess to dress appropriately, do not accept the invitation.

[Anonymous]

A kid? Wouldn't bother me at all

An adult? I would assume you're one of those "look at me and how I'm not a sheep and I do what I want!" Types. Who are generally pretty obnoxious to be around.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the guest doesn't have formal wear that fits or can't afford it. Regardless, it's the responsibility of the host to ensure all guests are comfortable.

[Anonymous]

Yes I believe that it is EXTREMELY disrespectful to wear jeans 👖 to a formal event in a ballroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good ettiquette dictates people follow the dress code. It also means that the host should do everything to make that guest feel comfortable.

As a host I would actually feel sorry for that guest - could they not pull an outfit together? - they must feel uncomfortable and out of place.... but no, I wouldn't think about it deeper than that.

+1, I would wonder if the invitation wasn't clear or they didn't have clothes. I would assume they must be embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have formal clothing.
I am very casual and wear a uniform for work.
So do you want me to come casual or do you want me to skip?
What matters more, asthetics or friendships?

[Anonymous]

Black jeans and a glittery top. Jeans and a black turtleneck channel Steve Jobs.

Next time just don't invite the poors. Kidding but very casual person you don't ever dress businesslike?

[Anonymous]

Formal means formal for me. I would rather be overdressed than underdressed.

I normally clarify what formal means to the host and I also ask other invitees what they will be wearing. There are different kinds of formal, and since I am from an immigrant culture, I also have formal and dressy outfits from my own culture