Ok to celebrate coming out day ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The celebration is of being true to who you are and what you understand about yourself, and it’s a community thing to express that people who come out are supported by their community in that journey.

As opposed to the idea that LGBTQ people should hide who they are and that the community will vilify them if they don’t.

I get what you are saying but the school also celebrates LBGTQ+ already. So what’s the goal of that additional celebration?

Pride is about community, activism, and history, as well as identity.

Coming out is a celebration of individual disclosure and bravery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We communally celebrate all kinds of life events— birthdays, retirements, engagements, weddings, graduations, even choosing a college. People literally celebrate their child’s gender when it is in utero.

Coming out is another life event that we can recognize communally, and proactively doing so can help counter negative reactions.

If you think coming out is negative, no, you would not want your child at a school that supports it.

The thing is that I thought all those reasons for celebrating I thought took place already in LGBTQ+ day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What do you mean by "celebrate" and what do you think is going to happen?

Is this just a "holiday" on the school/class calendar?

+1 This is my question

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We communally celebrate all kinds of life events— birthdays, retirements, engagements, weddings, graduations, even choosing a college. People literally celebrate their child’s gender when it is in utero.

Coming out is another life event that we can recognize communally, and proactively doing so can help counter negative reactions.

If you think coming out is negative, no, you would not want your child at a school that supports it.

The thing is that I thought all those reasons for celebrating I thought took place already in LGBTQ+ day.

When is LGBTQ+ day celebrated?

[Anonymous]

I have never heard of this and my daughter is a lesbian.
There are a lot of made up holidays on the calendar that aren’t celebrated. This seems like a weird one to celebrate. If anything, do something for pride during pride month. This seems to me like some admin person that got one of those automated calendars with every holiday on it and so is sending out a message for every day that’s marked on the calendar she bought.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We communally celebrate all kinds of life events— birthdays, retirements, engagements, weddings, graduations, even choosing a college. People literally celebrate their child’s gender when it is in utero.

Coming out is another life event that we can recognize communally, and proactively doing so can help counter negative reactions.

If you think coming out is negative, no, you would not want your child at a school that supports it.

The thing is that I thought all those reasons for celebrating I thought took place already in LGBTQ+ day.

I just explained the distinction- emphasis on community and history vs. individuals.

Of course there will be some overlap. People also celebrate both engagements and weddings. There are religious holidays that have significant overlap. Armed Forces Day, Veterans Day, and Memorial Day are different facets of celebrating the military that some people felt were important to designate as separate.

Some people feel that coming out is a facet of the LGBTQ journey that is significant enough to recognize separately and in addition to Pride.

You might not feel the same way.

[Anonymous]

I've heard of Coming Out Day, but agree with PP that this is probably just the result of some auto-complete calendar that puts everything on the calendar that might be important to someone in the community.

It does not mean the 6 year-olds are doing an in-class "celebration."

[Anonymous]

Stupid and unnecessary virtue signaling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never heard of this and my daughter is a lesbian.
There are a lot of made up holidays on the calendar that aren’t celebrated. This seems like a weird one to celebrate. If anything, do something for pride during pride month. This seems to me like some admin person that got one of those automated calendars with every holiday on it and so is sending out a message for every day that’s marked on the calendar she bought.

Yikes. Your daughter got unlucky to have you as a mom.

It's one day. Okay TWO if you count LGBTQ+ day. My God. Must you blow out every candle that isn't about you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All the gay and lesbian people I know have all told me they knew they were that way, even if they didn't know the word for it, between ages 5-7. Which IS around 1st grade. Plus, kids have parents who are same-sex couples. So this lets the kids know it's okay to be open about that at school. AND, teaches kids from homophobic families that it's no big deal and in fact some of their little friends have parents who are same-sex couples.

How would kids know that at such an early age, way before puberty and any interest in romantic relationships? In my circle, I can think of a 6 year old wants to grow up to be a cat. Another wants to marry his best friend so they can play on the same soccer team.

[Anonymous]

We democrats are never going to win again until we settle down on this. I don’t understand how we got from “being gay is normal and acceptable” to people seating if elementary schools celebrate/should celebrate coming out day, if OP confirms the school is actually doing. Obviously there’s no need to celebrate or even acknowledge something like that in elementary school. Same way we don’t celebrate straight marriage.
We need to protect everyone’s rights. I also would rather stop focusing on this topic and trans issues until the fascists have been stopped.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All the gay and lesbian people I know have all told me they knew they were that way, even if they didn't know the word for it, between ages 5-7. Which IS around 1st grade. Plus, kids have parents who are same-sex couples. So this lets the kids know it's okay to be open about that at school. AND, teaches kids from homophobic families that it's no big deal and in fact some of their little friends have parents who are same-sex couples.

How would kids know that at such an early age, way before puberty and any interest in romantic relationships? In my circle, I can think of a 6 year old wants to grow up to be a cat. Another wants to marry his best friend so they can play on the same soccer team.

6 year olds understand that their parents have once dated and are now married/were married and that their future will hold this as well by their own autonomy. So even if they are pre-sexual, they get that there are units that form by choice and maybe they don't picture that unit with someone from the opposite sex and while some one day will, others won't. Some of those people will look back and think, oh, so I was always this way!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is celebrated on October 11th. That’s fine. Not sure why needs to be celebrated in 1st grade. Even if my kid is homosexual, I don’t expect them to come out in elementary school. Am I missing something ?

I think this is more about exposure that there are different types of relationships. Maybe some of your son's classmates has two moms or dads? Even if they don't, they will in due time and by introducing it early, it helps normalize it and helps create a more inclusive and less homophobic society.

And that's exactly why Gen Z, the generation that has been most exposed to these types of initiatives, is one of the most right wing generations in a long time.

Generational Logic 101: whatever the adults push hard will be rejected in time because people want to set their own path.

[Anonymous]

My only question if this something that could be celebrated outside school, or NEEDS to be celebrated in school. I can think of hundreds of days that are as equal or more important than coming out day and are not celebrated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yikes! I’d keep my kids home that day.

Good other kids don’t need to be around your ignorant spawn