Have any marriages ever gone from dead bedroom to active again?

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Anonymous wrote:Depends on why it went dead, if it was childbirth it’ll be temporary if the spouse has proper support, if it was weight gain there’s like a 50% chance if health improves, if it’s betrayal then there’s like a 5% chance, if it’s contempt 0%.

After childbirth isn't dead bedroom!! That's recovery!!

Did her mouth also give birth and need to recover? No. It's a dead bedroom.

Yeah I wouldn’t sleep with you or give you a bj with that attitude. Do you have any idea how exhausting pregnancy and childbirth are? You’re an a$$

[Anonymous]

Not enough space for me to give too many details.
1st year of marriage was good then it became a dead bedroom of maybe twice a year, for the next 20 some years with one stretch of 2 years dry. It was literally hell for me, but I never fell out of love. She refused to talk about it, refused to see a therapist after the first visit. 18 yrs ago I left in the middle of the night and told her via phone I just couldn't do it anymore. She began taking hormones and we've been strong ever since. She actually initiates and very rarely ever turns me down. Later 60's now and having fun. She still refuses to take any responsibility or talk about it. YMMV

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not enough space for me to give too many details.
1st year of marriage was good then it became a dead bedroom of maybe twice a year, for the next 20 some years with one stretch of 2 years dry. It was literally hell for me, but I never fell out of love. She refused to talk about it, refused to see a therapist after the first visit. 18 yrs ago I left in the middle of the night and told her via phone I just couldn't do it anymore. She began taking hormones and we've been strong ever since. She actually initiates and very rarely ever turns me down. Later 60's now and having fun. She still refuses to take any responsibility or talk about it. YMMV

Did she ever take birth control? Oral contraceptives destroyed my sexual desire and I very quickly went off of them because it was so weird.

[Anonymous]

"Did she ever take birth control? Oral contraceptives destroyed my sexual desire and I very quickly went off of them because it was so weird."

She was on the pill prior to my meeting her and the first perhaps 5 years afterwards. Then perhaps 3-4 yrs of 'Natural Family Planning' of no intercourse during monthly cycles that turned into no intercourse at anytime mostly. The next 10 or so years on depo shots. Her desires never changed during any of that time. Our sex life was dead because she didn't believe in taking one for the team.
Our sex life didn't return until she was in perimenopause when I left the house and she finally began taking estrogen pills.
I doubt she was estrogen starved in her early 20's when we met and throughout all her adult life until late 40's. I think her sexual awakening was more the fact that I left with no discussion and was done with it. I don't want to dredge up all the drama we lived through that night and week, but her awakening happened suddenly and completely. All that time of dead bedroom, I venture to theorize it was her mind and not her body holding her back. I guess I'll never know her thoughts on the subject. She's very private and refined. I know this, she shaved her P completely bare for me a few weeks ago and I'm gonna have the best sex of my life for as long as I can.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Did she ever take birth control? Oral contraceptives destroyed my sexual desire and I very quickly went off of them because it was so weird."

She was on the pill prior to my meeting her and the first perhaps 5 years afterwards. Then perhaps 3-4 yrs of 'Natural Family Planning' of no intercourse during monthly cycles that turned into no intercourse at anytime mostly. The next 10 or so years on depo shots. Her desires never changed during any of that time. Our sex life was dead because she didn't believe in taking one for the team.
Our sex life didn't return until she was in perimenopause when I left the house and she finally began taking estrogen pills.
I doubt she was estrogen starved in her early 20's when we met and throughout all her adult life until late 40's. I think her sexual awakening was more the fact that I left with no discussion and was done with it. I don't want to dredge up all the drama we lived through that night and week, but her awakening happened suddenly and completely. All that time of dead bedroom, I venture to theorize it was her mind and not her body holding her back. I guess I'll never know her thoughts on the subject. She's very private and refined. I know this, she shaved her P completely bare for me a few weeks ago and I'm gonna have the best sex of my life for as long as I can.

Do you guys have kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on why it went dead, if it was childbirth it’ll be temporary if the spouse has proper support, if it was weight gain there’s like a 50% chance if health improves, if it’s betrayal then there’s like a 5% chance, if it’s contempt 0%.

After childbirth isn't dead bedroom!! That's recovery!!

Did her mouth also give birth and need to recover? No. It's a dead bedroom.

Eeew. Your wife is not a fleshlight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most dead bedroom are due to men. A lot of men peak sexually too soon. I know we have the super sexual couples on this forum having sex every day or every other day late into their 60s. The truth is they are in the minority. Men don't take care of themselves. They don't eat well. They don't sleep well. They don't manage stress . This neglect has a big impact on sex drive. Once a week becomes once a month, once a month becomes once every other month, then once a year, and then dead bedroom. It does not happen overnight.

Ugh, this is an almost spot on description of us. It sucks.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on why it went dead, if it was childbirth it’ll be temporary if the spouse has proper support, if it was weight gain there’s like a 50% chance if health improves, if it’s betrayal then there’s like a 5% chance, if it’s contempt 0%.

After childbirth isn't dead bedroom!! That's recovery!!

Did her mouth also give birth and need to recover? No. It's a dead bedroom.

If my husband ever said anything like that to me or about another woman, it WOULD be a dead bedroom. Fortunately, he's a good man.

It is consistently offensive that men think that giving a BJ would be LESS work than PIV. Tell me you've never done it without telling me, PP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on why it went dead, if it was childbirth it’ll be temporary if the spouse has proper support, if it was weight gain there’s like a 50% chance if health improves, if it’s betrayal then there’s like a 5% chance, if it’s contempt 0%.

After childbirth isn't dead bedroom!! That's recovery!!

Did her mouth also give birth and need to recover? No. It's a dead bedroom.

Eeew. Your wife is not a fleshlight.

"Oh sorry it's too much work to put your d*ck in my mouth for a couple of minutes" - ok, got it, you're not even trying, that's why the bedroom is dead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single sex positing (doggy) is the same as a dead bedroom. This is the only position DH can have sex in. Any other position he can't maintain an erection or seems bored. No oral, no caressing, no kissing. He is having sex with me not because he is horny, but because he feels he has to. I am 51 and he is 56.

What’s wrong with that position?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on why it went dead, if it was childbirth it’ll be temporary if the spouse has proper support, if it was weight gain there’s like a 50% chance if health improves, if it’s betrayal then there’s like a 5% chance, if it’s contempt 0%.

After childbirth isn't dead bedroom!! That's recovery!!

Did her mouth also give birth and need to recover? No. It's a dead bedroom.

Eeew. Your wife is not a fleshlight.

"Oh sorry it's too much work to put your d*ck in my mouth for a couple of minutes" - ok, got it, you're not even trying, that's why the bedroom is dead.

And you wonder why you’re an incel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Did she ever take birth control? Oral contraceptives destroyed my sexual desire and I very quickly went off of them because it was so weird."

She was on the pill prior to my meeting her and the first perhaps 5 years afterwards. Then perhaps 3-4 yrs of 'Natural Family Planning' of no intercourse during monthly cycles that turned into no intercourse at anytime mostly. The next 10 or so years on depo shots. Her desires never changed during any of that time. Our sex life was dead because she didn't believe in taking one for the team.
Our sex life didn't return until she was in perimenopause when I left the house and she finally began taking estrogen pills.
I doubt she was estrogen starved in her early 20's when we met and throughout all her adult life until late 40's. I think her sexual awakening was more the fact that I left with no discussion and was done with it. I don't want to dredge up all the drama we lived through that night and week, but her awakening happened suddenly and completely. All that time of dead bedroom, I venture to theorize it was her mind and not her body holding her back. I guess I'll never know her thoughts on the subject. She's very private and refined. I know this, she shaved her P completely bare for me a few weeks ago and I'm gonna have the best sex of my life for as long as I can.

Maybe she found it difficult to be attracted to a rapist? Jesus christ.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on why it went dead, if it was childbirth it’ll be temporary if the spouse has proper support, if it was weight gain there’s like a 50% chance if health improves, if it’s betrayal then there’s like a 5% chance, if it’s contempt 0%.

After childbirth isn't dead bedroom!! That's recovery!!

Did her mouth also give birth and need to recover? No. It's a dead bedroom.

Eeew. Your wife is not a fleshlight.

"Oh sorry it's too much work to put your d*ck in my mouth for a couple of minutes" - ok, got it, you're not even trying, that's why the bedroom is dead.

Yes, it is too much work, when one is recovering from CHILD BIRTH. What the f***.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on why it went dead, if it was childbirth it’ll be temporary if the spouse has proper support, if it was weight gain there’s like a 50% chance if health improves, if it’s betrayal then there’s like a 5% chance, if it’s contempt 0%.

After childbirth isn't dead bedroom!! That's recovery!!

Did her mouth also give birth and need to recover? No. It's a dead bedroom.

Eeew. Your wife is not a fleshlight.

"Oh sorry it's too much work to put your d*ck in my mouth for a couple of minutes" - ok, got it, you're not even trying, that's why the bedroom is dead.

Yes, it is too much work, when one is recovering from CHILD BIRTH. What the f***.

Ugg, some men deserve to be alone

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depends on why it went dead, if it was childbirth it’ll be temporary if the spouse has proper support, if it was weight gain there’s like a 50% chance if health improves, if it’s betrayal then there’s like a 5% chance, if it’s contempt 0%.

After childbirth isn't dead bedroom!! That's recovery!!

Did her mouth also give birth and need to recover? No. It's a dead bedroom.

Eeew. Your wife is not a fleshlight.

"Oh sorry it's too much work to put your d*ck in my mouth for a couple of minutes" - ok, got it, you're not even trying, that's why the bedroom is dead.

Yes, it is too much work, when one is recovering from CHILD BIRTH. What the f***.

Ugg, some men deserve to be alone

Right? How selfish and entitled can they be?! His wife just grew and pushed his progeny out of her vagina and he still pesters her to satisfy him? She can't even recover physically without her husband looking at her as a series of holes to satiate his sexual needs?