Have any marriages ever gone from dead bedroom to active again?

[Anonymous]

Ours recovered- he got in great shape helped a lot.
I also got in shape and got my boobs done. Been good for about 10 years now after 4 or 5 years of little kids.

[Anonymous]

"Maybe she found it difficult to be attracted to a rapist? Jesus christ."

HaHa. Not only are you ignorant, but very rude also.
A rapist would be having sex. Any normal man would be repulsed at having sex with a woman that didn't desire it. You need to get a life PP

I've asked myself a million times if the tables were turned, what would I be willing to do. I guess one would never know unless put into the situation. I honestly think though that I love her enough that I would've done anything for her pleasure. I still feel that way. I'd take one for the team any time she desired, all without her even knowing of my distaste. That's the real rub, having known her love didn't extend to a little sacrifice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Maybe she found it difficult to be attracted to a rapist? Jesus christ."

HaHa. Not only are you ignorant, but very rude also.
A rapist would be having sex. Any normal man would be repulsed at having sex with a woman that didn't desire it. You need to get a life PP

I've asked myself a million times if the tables were turned, what would I be willing to do. I guess one would never know unless put into the situation. I honestly think though that I love her enough that I would've done anything for her pleasure. I still feel that way. I'd take one for the team any time she desired, all without her even knowing of my distaste. That's the real rub, having known her love didn't extend to a little sacrifice.

If you think your wife should have sex with you when she doesn't want to aka "take one for the team", that's absolutely a rapist mindset. Just close your eyes and think of the queen? GFY, that's all you deserve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most dead bedroom are due to men. A lot of men peak sexually too soon. I know we have the super sexual couples on this forum having sex every day or every other day late into their 60s. The truth is they are in the minority. Men don't take care of themselves. They don't eat well. They don't sleep well. They don't manage stress . This neglect has a big impact on sex drive. Once a week becomes once a month, once a month becomes once every other month, then once a year, and then dead bedroom. It does not happen overnight.

In what world are you living? That’s so far from the reality. In my world, dead bedrooms are mostly due to women. They want sex les often than men. Most married men I know in my circle are cheating or have cheated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most dead bedroom are due to men. A lot of men peak sexually too soon. I know we have the super sexual couples on this forum having sex every day or every other day late into their 60s. The truth is they are in the minority. Men don't take care of themselves. They don't eat well. They don't sleep well. They don't manage stress . This neglect has a big impact on sex drive. Once a week becomes once a month, once a month becomes once every other month, then once a year, and then dead bedroom. It does not happen overnight.

In what world are you living? That’s so far from the reality. In my world, dead bedrooms are mostly due to women. They want sex les often than men. Most married men I know in my circle are cheating or have cheated.

Girl, get a better circle! There’s no cheating that I know of in my circle. I’m happy that the people I know at least have the discretion to keep it to themselves.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most dead bedroom are due to men. A lot of men peak sexually too soon. I know we have the super sexual couples on this forum having sex every day or every other day late into their 60s. The truth is they are in the minority. Men don't take care of themselves. They don't eat well. They don't sleep well. They don't manage stress . This neglect has a big impact on sex drive. Once a week becomes once a month, once a month becomes once every other month, then once a year, and then dead bedroom. It does not happen overnight.

In what world are you living? That’s so far from the reality. In my world, dead bedrooms are mostly due to women. They want sex les often than men. Most married men I know in my circle are cheating or have cheated.

Wow you really surround yourself with other losers huh? How sad to know so few men of value and honor.

[Anonymous]

Not happening .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"Maybe she found it difficult to be attracted to a rapist? Jesus christ."

HaHa. Not only are you ignorant, but very rude also.
A rapist would be having sex. Any normal man would be repulsed at having sex with a woman that didn't desire it. You need to get a life PP

I've asked myself a million times if the tables were turned, what would I be willing to do. I guess one would never know unless put into the situation. I honestly think though that I love her enough that I would've done anything for her pleasure. I still feel that way. I'd take one for the team any time she desired, all without her even knowing of my distaste. That's the real rub, having known her love didn't extend to a little sacrifice.

Aren’t these statements at odds? Any normal man would be disgusted to have sex with a woman who doesn’t want it - yet you want your wife to lie back and let you F**k her as a wifely duty. You’re upset she doesn’t let you rape her to satisfy you and you consider that “love”. Were you sexually abused as a child? What kind of person thinks this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Single sex positing (doggy) is the same as a dead bedroom. This is the only position DH can have sex in. Any other position he can't maintain an erection or seems bored. No oral, no caressing, no kissing. He is having sex with me not because he is horny, but because he feels he has to. I am 51 and he is 56.

This is strange. Are you fat or have a big gut?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not enough space for me to give too many details.
1st year of marriage was good then it became a dead bedroom of maybe twice a year, for the next 20 some years with one stretch of 2 years dry. It was literally hell for me, but I never fell out of love. She refused to talk about it, refused to see a therapist after the first visit. 18 yrs ago I left in the middle of the night and told her via phone I just couldn't do it anymore. She began taking hormones and we've been strong ever since. She actually initiates and very rarely ever turns me down. Later 60's now and having fun. She still refuses to take any responsibility or talk about it. YMMV

Many women lose desire for their husbands when the husbands are too nice. Anytime a wife removes sex from the marriage, the right thing to say is you will ending the marriage. Being understanding or giving her time will make it worse. This will bring her desire back, assuming you are not abusive, obese, bad hygiene or a couch potato.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"Maybe she found it difficult to be attracted to a rapist? Jesus christ."

HaHa. Not only are you ignorant, but very rude also.
A rapist would be having sex. Any normal man would be repulsed at having sex with a woman that didn't desire it. You need to get a life PP

I've asked myself a million times if the tables were turned, what would I be willing to do. I guess one would never know unless put into the situation. I honestly think though that I love her enough that I would've done anything for her pleasure. I still feel that way. I'd take one for the team any time she desired, all without her even knowing of my distaste. That's the real rub, having known her love didn't extend to a little sacrifice.

Aren’t these statements at odds? Any normal man would be disgusted to have sex with a woman who doesn’t want it - yet you want your wife to lie back and let you F**k her as a wifely duty. You’re upset she doesn’t let you rape her to satisfy you and you consider that “love”. Were you sexually abused as a child? What kind of person thinks this?

Np. Taking one for the team is not even remotely closed to getting raped. You sound too dense to know the difference. Men and women take one for the team in a marriage when it comes to sex and many other things.

[Anonymous]

Mine did because he stopped drinking

[Anonymous]

Maybe you need to take a hard look at your options and finances. In Europe, this is why so many men have mistresses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most dead bedroom are due to men. A lot of men peak sexually too soon. I know we have the super sexual couples on this forum having sex every day or every other day late into their 60s. The truth is they are in the minority. Men don't take care of themselves. They don't eat well. They don't sleep well. They don't manage stress . This neglect has a big impact on sex drive. Once a week becomes once a month, once a month becomes once every other month, then once a year, and then dead bedroom. It does not happen overnight.

In what world are you living? That’s so far from the reality. In my world, dead bedrooms are mostly due to women. They want sex les often than men. Most married men I know in my circle are cheating or have cheated.

The biggest myth is that men want more sex than women. Peri and menopause for example make women very horny exactly at a time when their husbands start experiencing ED and decrease in libido.

[Anonymous]

We are in a dead bedroom and it's been a year. I went from 260lbs to 150lbs. I have a lot lose skin, my boobs are gone, my butt is gone, I think my husband doesn't find me attractive anymore even though he comes up with all kind of made excuses. I suggested he goes to therapy since he claimed to be stressed, but then he refuses to do so. The few times we have tried having sex he just couldn't have an erection. I'm crushed!