“What do I do with this sauce?”
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Anonymous
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My DH does stuff like this and I finally said that I would no longer tolerate him outsourcing his thinking to me. It hasn't stopped him completely but I could see the wheels slowly turning and he realized that he was outsourcing the most dull, mundane, but necessary parts of life to me. Just the back-and-forth of communicating his dumb questions took more mental energy and time than if he were to just think through the situation, yet he couldn't see that.
I get how you feel, OP- it is really frustrating to be with an otherwise smart person and to see how selectively they apply their intelligence and expect others to pick up the boring, tedious parts of life for them. He's learned way more difficult things in order to sustain a long career, get graduate degrees, etc., but still shamelessly makes the argument that it's too hard to learn or remember. |
Anonymous
| Just answer, “I don’t know.” |
Anonymous
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He needs to get his own sauce.
That’s an annoying request - ugh |
Anonymous
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'Shove it up your a-- honey',
'If you can piss six feet in the air straight up and not get wet i'll tell you', |
Anonymous
| Your husband’s on the spectrum right? |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
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“Oh i dunno. Just try something?”
Repeat ad infinitum |
Anonymous
| I can totally see why so many women get sick of having sex with their husbands. Little boys always asking mommy to fix things or how they work are not sexually stimulating at all. |
Anonymous
Sigh. Not a day goes by on DCUM where a DH isn't diagnosed as "on the spectrum" based on nothing. |
Anonymous
A grown man who asks "what do I do with this sauce" on the regular is surely neurodivergent in some way. |
Anonymous
| Men are just accustomed to asking the women in their lives where they want the sauce, every time. It's polite. |
Anonymous
Yes This also sounds like some dumb reflex comment someone trained themselves to say since they are socially inept. Is your husband able to have normal back and forth conversations Op? Or is his idea of a conversation reading a sign aloud or pointing out something on the table or viewing area? Ie it’s a cover |
Anonymous
| This behavior would drive me up the wall. Even my kids don’t ask me these mundane questions |
Anonymous
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How often does this really come up? Do you create meals with sauce on the side? If so, stop it. And when you order takeout, decline the sauce for him.
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Anonymous
| No matter what the sauce is, just tell him to dump it on top. And for the microwave tape a guide to the front of the microwave. |