“What do I do with this sauce?”

[Anonymous]

Whenever my husband has a dish that comes with some sauce on the side he asks me “what do I do with this sauce?” He knows this annoys me and I tell him he can do whatever he wants with it. He asked me again tonight and I said okay rule of thumb so you don’t have to ask me anymore is that you can dip your food in it, pour it on top, or leave it alone if you don’t want it. He got upset and said I was being rude and I said I’m sorry I’m not trying to be rude but please don’t ask me this anymore I’m not a sauce whisperer. He also can’t seem to put anything in the microwave without asking me how long to put it in. He knows this annoys me. My answer is always the same, “until it’s hot! I don’t have the magic answer for how long that takes.” I love my husband but these two things get on my damn nerves. Am I being unreasonable?? I don’t know how else to nicely shut this down.

[Anonymous]

My son (20 yo) always asks me how long to microwave stuff lol. I tell him to start with 30 seconds and go from there.

[Anonymous]

“You are supposed to take it in one gulp, like a shot.”

“43 seconds, stir it counter-clockwise, then rotate three times and put it back in for 18 seconds.”

Repeat these two things every single time.

[Anonymous]

If it has a mayonnaise base, you need to get rid of it before anyone else sees it.

[Anonymous]

You are not being unreasonable. Grown ups should know how to use sauce and microwaves. But is it worth being upset about? I’d say no. If this is the kind of stuff that you are upset about you have it pretty good and just try to enjoy life while it’s good.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are not being unreasonable. Grown ups should know how to use sauce and microwaves. But is it worth being upset about? I’d say no. If this is the kind of stuff that you are upset about you have it pretty good and just try to enjoy life while it’s good.

This. He's so ridiculous for needing to ask you what to do with sauce, but I can't see myself getting upset over it. I'd probably just fondly roll my eyes.

[Anonymous]

Does your husband think he’s being cute? He sounds annoying.

The microwave thing isn’t uncommon. There are comedy bits about it.

[Anonymous]

I get why it's annoying. Id probably ignore him. Is this maybe a class thing? Did he grow up not eating out and he's worried 5 doing the wrong thing similar to using the wrong fork?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Whenever my husband has a dish that comes with some sauce on the side he asks me “what do I do with this sauce?” He knows this annoys me and I tell him he can do whatever he wants with it. He asked me again tonight and I said okay rule of thumb so you don’t have to ask me anymore is that you can dip your food in it, pour it on top, or leave it alone if you don’t want it. He got upset and said I was being rude and I said I’m sorry I’m not trying to be rude but please don’t ask me this anymore I’m not a sauce whisperer. He also can’t seem to put anything in the microwave without asking me how long to put it in. He knows this annoys me. My answer is always the same, “until it’s hot! I don’t have the magic answer for how long that takes.” I love my husband but these two things get on my damn nerves. Am I being unreasonable?? I don’t know how else to nicely shut this down.

You are being reasonable.

This is grown-ass-man learned helplessness, and you need to shut it down every chance you can, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If it has a mayonnaise base, you need to get rid of it before anyone else sees it.

OMG, I spit out my drink...ha ha

[Anonymous]

My dh is one of those people who just isn’t wired to care about food. He doesn’t remember what things taste like. He never has cravings. He never thinks about food. He doesn’t know much about it. He eats salads without dressing. He’ll ask me at a restaurant if he’s ever had a particular dish before and whether he liked it. If this were him, I wouldn’t mind telling him what the sauce was for (the meat, the veggies), whether it’s hot and spicy, if it contains something with a strong flavor (like blue cheese).

Our whole household asks me how long to microwave food. I have an uncanny knack for getting things hot enough without being too hot. I take it as a compliment that they trust my judgment and treat it as expertise, lol.

We have different quirks that make us irrationally anger over trivial things. The trash can in our bathroom is small, so it makes me frustrated if dh throws big dry cleaning bags in it so it’s overflowing. I just want him to throw out larger pieces of trash in the kitchen trash can. I drive him crazy because I have problems with technology that no one else has. I can literally click an icon, have nothing happen, then anyone else clicks the same icon and it works. It’s always like that for me, so I say technology hates me, and that drives dh crazy because technology doesn’t work that way.

Everybody’s got something their partner does that annoys them.

[Anonymous]

I have a huge pet piece about food being ruined by over microwaving so I really love it when people ask my microwave opinion. I’ve got serious microwave skills.

But the sauce thing would probably irritate me because it does seem pretty obvious. Your answer seemed to me accurate. You can pour it, dip into into, or ignore it. Probably best to dip first to see if it’s good before you decide on one of the other two options, though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get why it's annoying. Id probably ignore him. Is this maybe a class thing? Did he grow up not eating out and he's worried 5 doing the wrong thing similar to using the wrong fork?

OP-he grew up middle class in a household that was pretty ignorant about food. His dad basically only eats steak, potatoes and canned green beans. I feel bad but after 10 years I can only say the same thing so many times. If I ignore him he’s going to say I’m rude. I give him the same answer every time I’m not sure why he doesn’t learn from it. I feel like a broken record sometimes

[Anonymous]

OP, you need to stop serving sauce on the side for him. He wants his dish 'done'. This is not your job. Just put bottles on the table and he can figure it out. But no more non-obvious serving dishes of sauce as his brain can't seem to handle it.

Microwave- put a sticker on it with instructions. I had to do that at work when people thought I (a person who doesn't even cook) was a microwave ninja.

[Anonymous]

You guys are never going to last. Your contempt for him will grow.