“What do I do with this sauce?”

[Anonymous]

His questions are a habit, almost like a tic. In long term relationships, our innocuous habits start to annoy our significant others. It's a thing.

[Anonymous]

Just tell him not to eat the sauce because it will make him fat.

[Anonymous]

Have you ever point blank asked him what he’s expecting you to say since you’ve already said, pour it, dip in it, or ignore it? What other options are there that he’s looking to hear?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: Whenever my husband has a dish that comes with some sauce on the side he asks me “what do I do with this sauce?” He knows this annoys me and I tell him he can do whatever he wants with it. He asked me again tonight and I said okay rule of thumb so you don’t have to ask me anymore is that you can dip your food in it, pour it on top, or leave it alone if you don’t want it. He got upset and said I was being rude and I said I’m sorry I’m not trying to be rude but please don’t ask me this anymore I’m not a sauce whisperer. He also can’t seem to put anything in the microwave without asking me how long to put it in. He knows this annoys me. My answer is always the same, “until it’s hot! I don’t have the magic answer for how long that takes.” I love my husband but these two things get on my damn nerves. Am I being unreasonable?? I don’t know how else to nicely shut this down.

Tell him to turn his brain back on and figure it on it himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does your husband think he’s being cute? He sounds annoying.

The microwave thing isn’t uncommon. There are comedy bits about it.

Yes

This also sounds like some dumb reflex comment someone trained themselves to say since they are socially inept.

Is your husband able to have normal back and forth conversations Op?
Or is his idea of a conversation reading a sign aloud or pointing out something on the table or viewing area?
Ie it’s a cover

Relevant context. Did Op respond?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Please name what sauces you are using. Truly interested to see what is so confusing.

Everywhere has source in the side and you add to taste, ie add to your taste preference.

Why is it so damn difficult for him to make decisions? He has no decision making process or instinct? He can’t remember what he likes or prefers? He’s special needs or learning disabled? He has piss poor communication skills? He’s running on automatic and not processing life in front of him?

What’s the driver here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Whenever my husband has a dish that comes with some sauce on the side he asks me “what do I do with this sauce?” He knows this annoys me and I tell him he can do whatever he wants with it. He asked me again tonight and I said okay rule of thumb so you don’t have to ask me anymore is that you can dip your food in it, pour it on top, or leave it alone if you don’t want it. He got upset and said I was being rude and I said I’m sorry I’m not trying to be rude but please don’t ask me this anymore I’m not a sauce whisperer. He also can’t seem to put anything in the microwave without asking me how long to put it in. He knows this annoys me. My answer is always the same, “until it’s hot! I don’t have the magic answer for how long that takes.” I love my husband but these two things get on my damn nerves. Am I being unreasonable?? I don’t know how else to nicely shut this down.

You should start elaborately flagging down the waiter and asking them questions about the sauce loudly. “EXCUSE ME! MY HUSBAND ISNT SURE WHAT TO DO WITH THIS SAUCE! WHAT ARE HIS OPTIONS?” Leave a big tip. After a few times he’ll be too embarrassed to ask you any more.

Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever point blank asked him what he’s expecting you to say since you’ve already said, pour it, dip in it, or ignore it? What other options are there that he’s looking to hear?

So he’s either being passive aggressive - since he disagrees with her previous responses he keeps asking the same questions over and over over.

Or, he’s clueless / dense and only retain his hyper interest information - family and wife stuff be damned.

[Anonymous]

Tell his to dip his balls in it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Whenever my husband has a dish that comes with some sauce on the side he asks me “what do I do with this sauce?” He knows this annoys me and I tell him he can do whatever he wants with it. He asked me again tonight and I said okay rule of thumb so you don’t have to ask me anymore is that you can dip your food in it, pour it on top, or leave it alone if you don’t want it. He got upset and said I was being rude and I said I’m sorry I’m not trying to be rude but please don’t ask me this anymore I’m not a sauce whisperer. He also can’t seem to put anything in the microwave without asking me how long to put it in. He knows this annoys me. My answer is always the same, “until it’s hot! I don’t have the magic answer for how long that takes.” I love my husband but these two things get on my damn nerves. Am I being unreasonable?? I don’t know how else to nicely shut this down.

You should start elaborately flagging down the waiter and asking them questions about the sauce loudly. “EXCUSE ME! MY HUSBAND ISNT SURE WHAT TO DO WITH THIS SAUCE! WHAT ARE HIS OPTIONS?” Leave a big tip. After a few times he’ll be too embarrassed to ask you any more.

Lol

I was thinking that OP should print up instructions about how to use sauce and hand them to her husband at every meal, but this is better

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Have you ever point blank asked him what he’s expecting you to say since you’ve already said, pour it, dip in it, or ignore it? What other options are there that he’s looking to hear?

So he’s either being passive aggressive - since he disagrees with her previous responses he keeps asking the same questions over and over over.

Or, he’s clueless / dense and only retain his hyper interest information - family and wife stuff be damned.

I think the person who said this is a weird tic is probably right. All humans are annoying in some ways. You live with them because despite, life is better than it would be without. But you can also sort of understand why some women decide they are done with love.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: Whenever my husband has a dish that comes with some sauce on the side he asks me “what do I do with this sauce?” He knows this annoys me and I tell him he can do whatever he wants with it. He asked me again tonight and I said okay rule of thumb so you don’t have to ask me anymore is that you can dip your food in it, pour it on top, or leave it alone if you don’t want it. He got upset and said I was being rude and I said I’m sorry I’m not trying to be rude but please don’t ask me this anymore I’m not a sauce whisperer. He also can’t seem to put anything in the microwave without asking me how long to put it in. He knows this annoys me. My answer is always the same, “until it’s hot! I don’t have the magic answer for how long that takes.” I love my husband but these two things get on my damn nerves. Am I being unreasonable?? I don’t know how else to nicely shut this down.

You should start elaborately flagging down the waiter and asking them questions about the sauce loudly. “EXCUSE ME! MY HUSBAND ISNT SURE WHAT TO DO WITH THIS SAUCE! WHAT ARE HIS OPTIONS?” Leave a big tip. After a few times he’ll be too embarrassed to ask you any more.

Thank you, I needed a laugh today

[Anonymous]

Eat it!

[Anonymous]

I'd come up with increasingly ridiculous answers for him, i.e. "dump it over your head" "take it outside to fertilize our tomato bushes" "use it for tiling grout in the bathroom" until he gets the picture. I wouldnt care how offended he was- a ridiculous question deserves a ridiculous answer. He needs to grow up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd come up with increasingly ridiculous answers for him, i.e. "dump it over your head" "take it outside to fertilize our tomato bushes" "use it for tiling grout in the bathroom" until he gets the picture. I wouldnt care how offended he was- a ridiculous question deserves a ridiculous answer. He needs to grow up.

Absolutely this. You can start with these ideas. But you can make it a fun game for yourself instead of being annoyed.

As for the microwave you could say "67 minutes," "3 light years," "four score."