Nightmare “new” neighbor

[Anonymous]

Jealous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone assuming mental problems where there is no evidence of one.

The more likely explanation is your neighbor has no experience taking care of a "grand dame" of a house, whether he's spent his whole life having things handed to him or he's just never been responsible for property upkeep, and probably doesn't care to live up to your neighborhood's expectations of the house. Single men eat takeout. It's not a symptom of disease.

This. I have relatives that have decent to good jobs and children in private school, but aren’t clean, fastidious people. They have cleaners and yard clean up, and their houses and yards are somehow still a mess. Like bathrooms with empty tampon containers on the floor and full tampon containers on the sink and clutter and papers in the kitchen. Not hoarding level, but just really messy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband's 2nd cousin has always been lazy and a hoarder and about 15 years ago he inherited his mothers home, in a water community in Annapolis. Last time we visited 10 years ago we didn't go inside for fear of rats...plus he didn't invite us in. It is a million $ plus neighborhood and some flipper is going to love that place when he passes (he's in his late 70s) as it is probably only worth the price of the land it sits on as he has ruined the house so much.

Rule of the thumb. People living in properties that are considered tear down by neighborhood standards are not going to be motivated to be constantly fixing up, refreshing curb appeal and spending 10s of thousands on landscaping and constant care to keep manicured fronts people with unlimited disposable income can who build new homes. They will never get their money back from any improvements, so they keep bare minimum standards. OP describes situation of extreme neglect and vermin, this is an issue. But people here constantly moan about moving to a tear down neighborhood and being disappointed with the aesthetics of how people maintain homes that are only sold for the price of the land and get immediately demolished. Would you bother spending money fixing landscaping when you know it will be torn down in weeks after you sell the house?
2+2=4.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone assuming mental problems where there is no evidence of one.

The more likely explanation is your neighbor has no experience taking care of a "grand dame" of a house, whether he's spent his whole life having things handed to him or he's just never been responsible for property upkeep, and probably doesn't care to live up to your neighborhood's expectations of the house. Single men eat takeout. It's not a symptom of disease.

This. I have relatives that have decent to good jobs and children in private school, but aren’t clean, fastidious people. They have cleaners and yard clean up, and their houses and yards are somehow still a mess. Like bathrooms with empty tampon containers on the floor and full tampon containers on the sink and clutter and papers in the kitchen. Not hoarding level, but just really messy.

They are very busy and don’t have ability to be picking up every mess. Usually this work falls on the woman of the house. If she is working full time she is too tired to have to constantly tidy up after everyone and just gives up. It’s very time consuming to maintain perfect home even for a SAHM with school aged kids. When you get invited to a neat home it’s because it’s been cleaned up before you arrived. Your family or close friends may not care to try to impress you with appearances, so you see their home in its natural state. Even if you have a weekly cleaner your house can get messy every day with people not taking care putting things away, taking trash out or disposing of it properly. I calculated how long it takes to keep a neat kitchen, and it’s at least 1 hour each day.. To clean a messier kitchen after cooking dinner and kids serving themselves and putting all things away, etc. it’s easily 2 hours.

You need FT housekeeper or a live in whose job is to keep things neat daily, that’s what rich people do who live in immaculate homes.

Outdoors is even easier to look messy because of fallout from the trees, rain, debris, dirt. If you don’t have an outdoor cleaner on regular basis it will get messy and unkempt even with monthly lawn care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone assuming mental problems where there is no evidence of one.

The more likely explanation is your neighbor has no experience taking care of a "grand dame" of a house, whether he's spent his whole life having things handed to him or he's just never been responsible for property upkeep, and probably doesn't care to live up to your neighborhood's expectations of the house. Single men eat takeout. It's not a symptom of disease.

This. What in the world are all of these responses assuming he has a mental issue. He inherited a home. He doesn’t care about upkeep. Upkeep is time and money. Men are messy.

[Anonymous]

You can move.

We moved about a year ago after awful folks moved in next door. Unfortunately it was the only way to get away from being irritated on the daily. The houses were very close together -- separated by about 20 feet. We moved farther out and are on 5 acres now, lol.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone assuming mental problems where there is no evidence of one.

The more likely explanation is your neighbor has no experience taking care of a "grand dame" of a house, whether he's spent his whole life having things handed to him or he's just never been responsible for property upkeep, and probably doesn't care to live up to your neighborhood's expectations of the house. Single men eat takeout. It's not a symptom of disease.

This. I have relatives that have decent to good jobs and children in private school, but aren’t clean, fastidious people. They have cleaners and yard clean up, and their houses and yards are somehow still a mess. Like bathrooms with empty tampon containers on the floor and full tampon containers on the sink and clutter and papers in the kitchen. Not hoarding level, but just really messy.

They are very busy and don’t have ability to be picking up every mess. Usually this work falls on the woman of the house. If she is working full time she is too tired to have to constantly tidy up after everyone and just gives up. It’s very time consuming to maintain perfect home even for a SAHM with school aged kids. When you get invited to a neat home it’s because it’s been cleaned up before you arrived. Your family or close friends may not care to try to impress you with appearances, so you see their home in its natural state. Even if you have a weekly cleaner your house can get messy every day with people not taking care putting things away, taking trash out or disposing of it properly. I calculated how long it takes to keep a neat kitchen, and it’s at least 1 hour each day.. To clean a messier kitchen after cooking dinner and kids serving themselves and putting all things away, etc. it’s easily 2 hours.

You need FT housekeeper or a live in whose job is to keep things neat daily, that’s what rich people do who live in immaculate homes.

Outdoors is even easier to look messy because of fallout from the trees, rain, debris, dirt. If you don’t have an outdoor cleaner on regular basis it will get messy and unkempt even with monthly lawn care.

This is all just one long rationalization for having a messy house. It is not true that no one has a neat house. We have a cleaner come every two weeks and our house has always been tidy, even when we were both working demanding careers and had small children. There may be other reasons people have messy houses — depression, ADHD, etc— but it is not normal, and stop telling yourself it is.

[Anonymous]

Rodents are the problem. Call the city … so sorry and hope that the problem resolves.

[Anonymous]

What a nuisance. The parents may not have been as considerate as you imagine, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone assuming mental problems where there is no evidence of one.

The more likely explanation is your neighbor has no experience taking care of a "grand dame" of a house, whether he's spent his whole life having things handed to him or he's just never been responsible for property upkeep, and probably doesn't care to live up to your neighborhood's expectations of the house. Single men eat takeout. It's not a symptom of disease.

This. I have relatives that have decent to good jobs and children in private school, but aren’t clean, fastidious people. They have cleaners and yard clean up, and their houses and yards are somehow still a mess. Like bathrooms with empty tampon containers on the floor and full tampon containers on the sink and clutter and papers in the kitchen. Not hoarding level, but just really messy.

They are very busy and don’t have ability to be picking up every mess. Usually this work falls on the woman of the house. If she is working full time she is too tired to have to constantly tidy up after everyone and just gives up. It’s very time consuming to maintain perfect home even for a SAHM with school aged kids. When you get invited to a neat home it’s because it’s been cleaned up before you arrived. Your family or close friends may not care to try to impress you with appearances, so you see their home in its natural state. Even if you have a weekly cleaner your house can get messy every day with people not taking care putting things away, taking trash out or disposing of it properly. I calculated how long it takes to keep a neat kitchen, and it’s at least 1 hour each day.. To clean a messier kitchen after cooking dinner and kids serving themselves and putting all things away, etc. it’s easily 2 hours.

You need FT housekeeper or a live in whose job is to keep things neat daily, that’s what rich people do who live in immaculate homes.

Outdoors is even easier to look messy because of fallout from the trees, rain, debris, dirt. If you don’t have an outdoor cleaner on regular basis it will get messy and unkempt even with monthly lawn care.

This is all just one long rationalization for having a messy house. It is not true that no one has a neat house. We have a cleaner come every two weeks and our house has always been tidy, even when we were both working demanding careers and had small children. There may be other reasons people have messy houses — depression, ADHD, etc— but it is not normal, and stop telling yourself it is.

+1. Three kids under 7, 2 dogs, 2 parents working full time, cleaner every other week and our house is spotless and everything has a place. You just have to commit to doing the work.

[Anonymous]

nightmare neighbor? you seem like the nightmare neighbor. not saying that you are..how about you try being a good community member and seeing if you can help him out? where is it?

[Anonymous]

How is this your problem? If you don't like it, move.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone assuming mental problems where there is no evidence of one.

The more likely explanation is your neighbor has no experience taking care of a "grand dame" of a house, whether he's spent his whole life having things handed to him or he's just never been responsible for property upkeep, and probably doesn't care to live up to your neighborhood's expectations of the house. Single men eat takeout. It's not a symptom of disease.

This. I have relatives that have decent to good jobs and children in private school, but aren’t clean, fastidious people. They have cleaners and yard clean up, and their houses and yards are somehow still a mess. Like bathrooms with empty tampon containers on the floor and full tampon containers on the sink and clutter and papers in the kitchen. Not hoarding level, but just really messy.

They are very busy and don’t have ability to be picking up every mess. Usually this work falls on the woman of the house. If she is working full time she is too tired to have to constantly tidy up after everyone and just gives up. It’s very time consuming to maintain perfect home even for a SAHM with school aged kids. When you get invited to a neat home it’s because it’s been cleaned up before you arrived. Your family or close friends may not care to try to impress you with appearances, so you see their home in its natural state. Even if you have a weekly cleaner your house can get messy every day with people not taking care putting things away, taking trash out or disposing of it properly. I calculated how long it takes to keep a neat kitchen, and it’s at least 1 hour each day.. To clean a messier kitchen after cooking dinner and kids serving themselves and putting all things away, etc. it’s easily 2 hours.

You need FT housekeeper or a live in whose job is to keep things neat daily, that’s what rich people do who live in immaculate homes.

Outdoors is even easier to look messy because of fallout from the trees, rain, debris, dirt. If you don’t have an outdoor cleaner on regular basis it will get messy and unkempt even with monthly lawn care.

This is all just one long rationalization for having a messy house. It is not true that no one has a neat house. We have a cleaner come every two weeks and our house has always been tidy, even when we were both working demanding careers and had small children. There may be other reasons people have messy houses — depression, ADHD, etc— but it is not normal, and stop telling yourself it is.

+1. Three kids under 7, 2 dogs, 2 parents working full time, cleaner every other week and our house is spotless and everything has a place. You just have to commit to doing the work.

You all use a cleaning service? I would never. They are absolutely stealing things like TP, toothpaste, laundry detergent, etc from you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why is everyone assuming mental problems where there is no evidence of one.

The more likely explanation is your neighbor has no experience taking care of a "grand dame" of a house, whether he's spent his whole life having things handed to him or he's just never been responsible for property upkeep, and probably doesn't care to live up to your neighborhood's expectations of the house. Single men eat takeout. It's not a symptom of disease.

This. I have relatives that have decent to good jobs and children in private school, but aren’t clean, fastidious people. They have cleaners and yard clean up, and their houses and yards are somehow still a mess. Like bathrooms with empty tampon containers on the floor and full tampon containers on the sink and clutter and papers in the kitchen. Not hoarding level, but just really messy.

They are very busy and don’t have ability to be picking up every mess. Usually this work falls on the woman of the house. If she is working full time she is too tired to have to constantly tidy up after everyone and just gives up. It’s very time consuming to maintain perfect home even for a SAHM with school aged kids. When you get invited to a neat home it’s because it’s been cleaned up before you arrived. Your family or close friends may not care to try to impress you with appearances, so you see their home in its natural state. Even if you have a weekly cleaner your house can get messy every day with people not taking care putting things away, taking trash out or disposing of it properly. I calculated how long it takes to keep a neat kitchen, and it’s at least 1 hour each day.. To clean a messier kitchen after cooking dinner and kids serving themselves and putting all things away, etc. it’s easily 2 hours.

You need FT housekeeper or a live in whose job is to keep things neat daily, that’s what rich people do who live in immaculate homes.

Outdoors is even easier to look messy because of fallout from the trees, rain, debris, dirt. If you don’t have an outdoor cleaner on regular basis it will get messy and unkempt even with monthly lawn care.

This is all just one long rationalization for having a messy house. It is not true that no one has a neat house. We have a cleaner come every two weeks and our house has always been tidy, even when we were both working demanding careers and had small children. There may be other reasons people have messy houses — depression, ADHD, etc— but it is not normal, and stop telling yourself it is.

+1. Three kids under 7, 2 dogs, 2 parents working full time, cleaner every other week and our house is spotless and everything has a place. You just have to commit to doing the work.

You all use a cleaning service? I would never. They are absolutely stealing things like TP, toothpaste, laundry detergent, etc from you.

My cleaning woman and landscaper have been with me for 40 years, they have never stolen one thing . The President of the US has over and over again

[Anonymous]

We had the same situation except the adult kid they gave the house to used it to cook meth. Could be worse!