Nightmare “new” neighbor
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Anonymous
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Considerate and lovely neighbors gave their $3m home to adult child who doesn’t work or care for the house. Seems like the home, which is the grand dame on the block is falling into abject disrepair. Another neighbor said that they have seen rodents, perhaps from trash left (food containers) or dog poop left on the yard.
Someone has spoken to him gently about this. It didn’t go well. Is there anything the neighbors can do? |
Anonymous
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Contact the parents? Honestly, if they're giving him a home to live in, it might indicate that he has special needs or hidden disability and doesn't have all the executive function to do all the normal things people do. I know my son with severe ADHD and mild autism would probably do better in an apartment.
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Anonymous
| Your local government should have a number to contact re the rodents. |
Anonymous
Is he married? You could say something to his wife. You could even make a list of vendors you have used for various things (Orkin, etc) and drop it off and say you always do this when neighbors move in and forgot to do it when they moved in? You you keep in touch with the parents you can mention it to them. |
Anonymous
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Call the local government about rodents, especially if they’re rats which can become a public health issue. Seeing rats was the only thing that got our city involved in a house someone inherited but didn’t live in so it stood empty. The adult son would just randomly stop by to use the house as a storage facility.
We complained about not cutting the grass, about leaving trash all over the yard but the city finally contacted the owner when we said we saw rats/vermin and it was documented. |
Anonymous
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Do you have contact to former owners? Can you contact them and let them know what is going on? How do you know they gave him the house and just not letting him live there? Some parents allow it if you do proper upkeep or pay rent.
My mom owns a beach home, neighbor died, two kids inherited. One kid let their adult "child" (40s!) move in during Covid. What a mess. Crap in the yard, put in a makeshift firepit within feet of a building on my mom's property (not allowed), screaming, fights with random men, it is awful. Awhile ago the cops kept showing up and she was screaming and throwing crap out to some guy who she let move in. Adult child is a nightmare, clearly has issues and sends my mom nasty emails with the adults who own it (dad and uncle) on copy. My mom finally replied to the email and mapped out what an awful neighbor she was. My mom explained she would deal with the owners but no longer the adult child who inhabits the home. The owners didn't respond. My mom has landscapers since she isn't there always and this person harassed the landscapers so much they quit. She said she would call ICE (they are citizens but WTH) on them. It is a small private street where the neighbors all know each other and never had an issue like this before. The year-rounders watch out for the people who don't live near round (including paying them to check on homes etc). I have known basically everyone on the street my entire life. It is awful, but the owners refuse to do anything about it and just let the adult kid create havoc! I have elementary kids and this person has random people coming and going all the time. I don't feel comfortable with my kids roaming on their own because of the random people always around and broken crap in the yard, etc. |
Anonymous
It's really sad all around. The parents are between a rock and a hard place: they cannot change their child with serious mental problems, and don't want to have them die in the street. Meanwhile, the neighbors suffer. |
Anonymous
| Where are the parents living? I’m all for them helping their child in need but who gives a troubled single man a $3M family home with all the upkeep? What about a nice condo instead? |
Anonymous
| I don't think you know what a nightmare neighbor really is. |
Anonymous
| MYOB |
Anonymous
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Why is everyone assuming mental problems where there is no evidence of one.
The more likely explanation is your neighbor has no experience taking care of a "grand dame" of a house, whether he's spent his whole life having things handed to him or he's just never been responsible for property upkeep, and probably doesn't care to live up to your neighborhood's expectations of the house. Single men eat takeout. It's not a symptom of disease. |
Anonymous
| My husband's 2nd cousin has always been lazy and a hoarder and about 15 years ago he inherited his mothers home, in a water community in Annapolis. Last time we visited 10 years ago we didn't go inside for fear of rats...plus he didn't invite us in. It is a million $ plus neighborhood and some flipper is going to love that place when he passes (he's in his late 70s) as it is probably only worth the price of the land it sits on as he has ruined the house so much. |
Anonymous
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This is why I don't understand why people hate HOAs so much. An HOA could fine the hell out of him for this, but if you don't have one, you are SOL.
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Anonymous
| Whose name is on the deed? The parents or the child? |
Anonymous
| OP, parents were contacted awhile ago. Nothing happened. Not sure about the deed, but I imagine they are still on it. |