Girlfriend moved in and turned my life upside down

[Anonymous]

Living non toxic life doesn't mean you are allowed to exert toxicity of control over other people. A living situation needs to work for both parties, one shouldn't be forced to make all the changes because other is oh so superior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love her but moving in with her has ruined our relationship. She is super clean and very judgmental if I don’t do XYZ in a timely manner. She lives a
non-toxic life and has banned most of the common things I’m used to using. She has pushed her health foods on me. She takes up a lot of space and is messy when it comes to her belongings. This isn’t jitters..I just don’t like living with her.

You are NOT a match and that's ok. Don't move forward with this relationship. I think it's best to end it before she pressures you into marriage and kids because you will just be 1000000X more miserable than you are now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love her but moving in with her has ruined our relationship. She is super clean and very judgmental if I don’t do XYZ in a timely manner. She lives a
non-toxic life and has banned most of the common things I’m used to using. She has pushed her health foods on me. She takes up a lot of space and is messy when it comes to her belongings. This isn’t jitters..I just don’t like living with her.

Quit your complaining or do something about it. Kick her out.

[Anonymous]

You need to end this, it's not going to get any better. You will just keep suffering in silence.

[Anonymous]

There is a strong probability that if you two got married, you'll be reduced to a lazy ass ADHD who is just a daily nuisance and how she'll be better off divorcing you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is why I'm a big fan of living together before marriage. You don't realize these things until you actually live together and share the same space. My friend is going through this with her bf right now with the non-toxic lifestyle. Of course she noticed it before they lived together, but now she's realizing how incompatible it makes them.

You're not meant to be together long term.

Same. Even if you know this stuff about a person, you don’t realize how hard it is to live with someone until you actually do.

[Anonymous]

I mean, when you're in love you're willing to overlook a lot of things without even realizing that's what you're doing. If you're noticing and it's annoying you this much, it's going to be a thousand times worse once the honeymoon phase is over.

Tell her it's not working out, and stand your ground. If you're not compatible it's not going to get better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Have you lived with a romantic partner before? How old are you?

34. Divorced. No kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell us more about things youre not allowed to use or eat in her home, and we will tdll you whether its over the top and time to run.

She is sensitive to scents and likes the s tire house to be mostly scent free or limited. No candles, no air fresheners,
bo harsh cleaners, switched my laundry detergent to dye free and got rid of the frantic softener. Told me to switch out my old spice or dove products for cleaner ones. Bought me a care package with said items she prefers.

She is very clean unless in the bathroom. She leaves all her products all over the sink.

She believes in all organic eating. I eat healthy but don’t care what is organic and what isn’t. Our grocery bill has sky rocketed because of it. She wants me to cut back on red meat, no alcohol, and drink super nasty stuff like beet juice and these health drinks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I love her but moving in with her has ruined our relationship. She is super clean and very judgmental if I don’t do XYZ in a timely manner. She lives a
non-toxic life and has banned most of the common things I’m used to using. She has pushed her health foods on me. She takes up a lot of space and is messy when it comes to her belongings. This isn’t jitters..I just don’t like living with her.

How old are you?

Have you posted on DCUM before?

34. Divorced. No.

My ex-wife was never like this. We split up for different reasons, though I’ve never had to deal with her being controlling.

[Anonymous]

So, you aren't a match
Op, end the relationship and each of you concentrate on finding a better match.

[Anonymous]

Time to break up if you can't find middle ground.

[Anonymous]

You’re an adult .. Ask her to move out.
The end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love her but moving in with her has ruined our relationship. She is super clean and very judgmental if I don’t do XYZ in a timely manner. She lives a
non-toxic life and has banned most of the common things I’m used to using. She has pushed her health foods on me. She takes up a lot of space and is messy when it comes to her belongings. This isn’t jitters..I just don’t like living with her.

This sounds like that movie "How To Lose A Guy In 10 Days".
You need to get her under control or else it will get worse, and you will wind up a "yes dear" beaten man OP.

[Anonymous]

Break up.