Girlfriend moved in and turned my life upside down

[Anonymous]

I love her but moving in with her has ruined our relationship. She is super clean and very judgmental if I don’t do XYZ in a timely manner. She lives a
non-toxic life and has banned most of the common things I’m used to using. She has pushed her health foods on me. She takes up a lot of space and is messy when it comes to her belongings. This isn’t jitters..I just don’t like living with her.

[Anonymous]

sp dump her and kick her out.

[Anonymous]

This is why I'm a big fan of living together before marriage. You don't realize these things until you actually live together and share the same space. My friend is going through this with her bf right now with the non-toxic lifestyle. Of course she noticed it before they lived together, but now she's realizing how incompatible it makes them.

You're not meant to be together long term.

[Anonymous]

Ask her to move out!
Sorry Op.

[Anonymous]

Good thing you found this out now, however a lot of these things had to be apparent before you move in together unless she changed completely. I would say there isn’t much point In continuing the relationship as you aren’t compatible.

[Anonymous]

You learned that you are not compatible and you don't want a life with her. Break up and move on.

[Anonymous]

Break up with her. Help her find and pay for a temporary place for a few weeks until she can find a place. Or move out for a few weeks yourself and let her stay there till she can find a place.

[Anonymous]

She sounds controlling. This is not a characteristic you want in a life partner. A partner who loves you doesn't spend their time judging you and banning things in your life and telling you what you can and can't do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She sounds controlling. This is not a characteristic you want in a life partner. A partner who loves you doesn't spend their time judging you and banning things in your life and telling you what you can and can't do.

+1 I mean, if you’re a slob and don’t clean up after yourself, or practice common courtesy on behalf of your partner, that’s one thing. But the controlling aspect - trying to control what you eat, your activities…that’s not good.

[Anonymous]

Life is short, break up with her.
If she’s messy, it does not sound like she lives a non-toxic life either.

[Anonymous]

Have you lived with a romantic partner before? How old are you?

[Anonymous]

This is not the sort of thing that gets better, unless she has some giant wake-up call and turns things around.

She does sound controlling and disrespectful of you and your things. I don’t know what a “non-toxic life” is, but it sounds like it comes from TikTok and her telling me what I can and can’t have in the house would bother me.

If she’s not willing to discuss things and compromise now, when you’re a couple of young adults newly in love and unburdened by kids and a mortgage and other responsibilities, she’s not likely to do it later when things get harder and more real and the gooey early love feelings have faded away.

I’d approach her like an adult and tell her the things that aren’t working for you. Either she’ll figure out a way to change, or she’ll push back. See how it goes.

[Anonymous]

Tell us more about things youre not allowed to use or eat in her home, and we will tdll you whether its over the top and time to run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love her but moving in with her has ruined our relationship. She is super clean and very judgmental if I don’t do XYZ in a timely manner. She lives a
non-toxic life and has banned most of the common things I’m used to using. She has pushed her health foods on me. She takes up a lot of space and is messy when it comes to her belongings. This isn’t jitters..I just don’t like living with her.

How old are you?

Have you posted on DCUM before?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love her but moving in with her has ruined our relationship. She is super clean and very judgmental if I don’t do XYZ in a timely manner. She lives a
non-toxic life and has banned most of the common things I’m used to using. She has pushed her health foods on me. She takes up a lot of space and is messy when it comes to her belongings. This isn’t jitters..I just don’t like living with her.

You aren't married. If you two can't find a middle ground, you aren't for each other. This is the reason everyone should try living together for at at least a year before picking a wedding date.