interesting post in fbook group that caused a fight.

[Anonymous]

Wouldn't it be like how ostriches hide their head in sand when there is danger? How would it help your child if you cut them off?

[Anonymous]

NP. Never in a million years will a grandchild of mine live in a homeless shelter or in their car or whatever if I have the means to prevent that. My God.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. Never in a million years will a grandchild of mine live in a homeless shelter or in their car or whatever if I have the means to prevent that. My God.

And your kids will live with you for the rest of your lives, completely dependent because they know you will keep helping no matter what. And the cycle will continue with the grandchildren too. All bad decisions just mean for help and less personal responsibility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Never in a million years will a grandchild of mine live in a homeless shelter or in their car or whatever if I have the means to prevent that. My God.

And your kids will live with you for the rest of your lives, completely dependent because they know you will keep helping no matter what. And the cycle will continue with the grandchildren too. All bad decisions just mean for help and less personal responsibility.

Whatever you need to tell yourself to sleep better at night.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. Never in a million years will a grandchild of mine live in a homeless shelter or in their car or whatever if I have the means to prevent that. My God.

And your kids will live with you for the rest of your lives, completely dependent because they know you will keep helping no matter what. And the cycle will continue with the grandchildren too. All bad decisions just mean for help and less personal responsibility.

You are a fool. Good luck with your black & white thinking. I'm sure your adult kids will limit contact at some point.

[Anonymous]

I think I'd kick it 1950s style and offer to adopt or at least house my grandchild. A mom that young, who deliberately got pregnant, is probably not too stable.

[Anonymous]

I would never cut off my child because they were giving me a grandchild. Listen to yourself!

Id support them however I could, including watching my grandchild so they could work and continue schooling.

The real question is, do you want your grandchild raised by a possibly crazy teenager (the girl in your story) with no money and whose family has cut them off? And never see them? Or do you want your grandchild raised by two parents who have educations, jobs, and a loving grandparent who financially helps their young parents? Gee, which situation do I want my grandchild in?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my son or daughter decided to keep a baby and live with their partner, despite my encouragement to get an abortion, I would help them raise the child so they could keep their hopes of college alive and/or get a full-time job to support their family.

I got married at 23 and had my first at 25, while in grad school. I don't necessarily think a baby at 18 is the end of the world, but for this to be a success, the young people need family support. If you back out of that situation, I would consider you a monster.

+1

I wouldn't consider giving mt grandchild a stable upbringing enabling my son's poor decisions. I might actually ask for custody of the child and request my son and the mother work on stability for their child in the future.

A young woman who took out her IUd to get pregnant on purpose is not going to give custody of the baby to her partners mother. If you even broach this subject, she will be (rightfully) appalled.

[Anonymous]

I like how you are all assuming these teenagers want to go to school and become successful adults.

[Anonymous]

Look at what Kamala Harris' mother did when her little sister Maya got pregnant in her senior year of high school. The entire family rallied around her and fully supported her. Because of the stability and acceptance she received, she was able to graduate from Stanford Law, and raised a child that graduated from Harvard Law. Throwing your young family members to the wolves in the most vulnerable period of their life is so weird and hateful to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look at what Kamala Harris' mother did when her little sister Maya got pregnant in her senior year of high school. The entire family rallied around her and fully supported her. Because of the stability and acceptance she received, she was able to graduate from Stanford Law, and raised a child that graduated from Harvard Law. Throwing your young family members to the wolves in the most vulnerable period of their life is so weird and hateful to me.

so is doing something stupid that is completely preventable.

[Anonymous]

I would help minimally. I have no desire to be a parent again as a newly empty nester. I need a break.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Look at what Kamala Harris' mother did when her little sister Maya got pregnant in her senior year of high school. The entire family rallied around her and fully supported her. Because of the stability and acceptance she received, she was able to graduate from Stanford Law, and raised a child that graduated from Harvard Law. Throwing your young family members to the wolves in the most vulnerable period of their life is so weird and hateful to me.

It’s pretty hateful to throw your mom in a full time unpaid nanny position and feel cool about it because you want to still get a fancy education after making crap choices. This girl better worship the ground her mom walks on now if she’s alive.

[Anonymous]

OP is a troll who is sock-puppetting his or her own thread with hateful rhetoric.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think I could ever cut off a child or grandchild unless they were an addict or something and I had no alternative.

I don’t want my daughter to have a child at 18 but if she does, I guess I’ll just grieve and do my best to support them.