Should schools be underwriting private education for the already privileged?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:By your logic, no one with a stay at home mother should be considered for financial aid since they are purposefully not maximizing their earnings. Yikes!

That’s actually a disqualifier for aid at my kids’ school, unless the stay at home parent has a compelling reason (e.g. taking care of sick parents or special needs kid, or medical issue themselves).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what you are saying is that a school should only be filled with rich families who are full pay where tuition isn't an obstacle or families who are poor or first generation families YOU feel are worth receiving the money? So middle class families who YOU think have privilege do not deserve any aid so should be locked out of private schools? Glad you aren't on the admissions committee of any of these schools! And how much privilege is too much? How do you determine this? Schools have their own priorities and want a diverse class to make it stronger. You are free to give or not give to a school requesting a donation. Did you send your kids to private school? They are filled with all types. You don't sound like a supportive friend.

NP. Yes that is what I am saying. This group of slightly UMC white children of Hill staff, ACLU lawyers and NYT reporters who went to Penn and Columbia is emphatically not who I want to subsidize with my meager discretionary income after I pay full freight. These are my literal peers, except with more children and a dramatically better work-life balance than I have

Sidwell and Sheridan of course can do what they want, but I’m not going to underwrite this

[Anonymous]

This level of pettiness is insanity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what you are saying is that a school should only be filled with rich families who are full pay where tuition isn't an obstacle or families who are poor or first generation families YOU feel are worth receiving the money? So middle class families who YOU think have privilege do not deserve any aid so should be locked out of private schools? Glad you aren't on the admissions committee of any of these schools! And how much privilege is too much? How do you determine this? Schools have their own priorities and want a diverse class to make it stronger. You are free to give or not give to a school requesting a donation. Did you send your kids to private school? They are filled with all types. You don't sound like a supportive friend.

NP. Yes that is what I am saying. This group of slightly UMC white children of Hill staff, ACLU lawyers and NYT reporters who went to Penn and Columbia is emphatically not who I want to subsidize with my meager discretionary income after I pay full freight. These are my literal peers, except with more children and a dramatically better work-life balance than I have

Sidwell and Sheridan of course can do what they want, but I’m not going to underwrite this

Wow. I think you are more offended that they have not chosen more lucrative careers with their education than you are about the financial aid. Lots of highly educated people choose to go into journalism or nonprofit work because it calls to them or they want to make the world a better place. Not everyone wants to be a greedy heartless, soulless person like you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what you are saying is that a school should only be filled with rich families who are full pay where tuition isn't an obstacle or families who are poor or first generation families YOU feel are worth receiving the money? So middle class families who YOU think have privilege do not deserve any aid so should be locked out of private schools? Glad you aren't on the admissions committee of any of these schools! And how much privilege is too much? How do you determine this? Schools have their own priorities and want a diverse class to make it stronger. You are free to give or not give to a school requesting a donation. Did you send your kids to private school? They are filled with all types. You don't sound like a supportive friend.

NP. Yes that is what I am saying. This group of slightly UMC white children of Hill staff, ACLU lawyers and NYT reporters who went to Penn and Columbia is emphatically not who I want to subsidize with my meager discretionary income after I pay full freight. These are my literal peers, except with more children and a dramatically better work-life balance than I have

Sidwell and Sheridan of course can do what they want, but I’m not going to underwrite this

Wow. I think you are more offended that they have not chosen more lucrative careers with their education than you are about the financial aid. Lots of highly educated people choose to go into journalism or nonprofit work because it calls to them or they want to make the world a better place. Not everyone wants to be a greedy heartless, soulless person like you.

NP. Yes but there’s also a good portion of them who choose these types of jobs because they have less time requirements, more job flexibility and allow them to have more ‘work-life balance.’ I would love to have that too but I had to choose a job that would pay my daughter’s tuition bill. And I’m sure as h— not paying for their kid’s tuition as well. You can’t have your cake and eat it too.

[Anonymous]

Here's an idea - then just don't contribute to the annual fund!

[Anonymous]

Their jobs are fine and they have plenty of money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:By your logic, no one with a stay at home mother should be considered for financial aid since they are purposefully not maximizing their earnings. Yikes!

That’s actually a disqualifier for aid at my kids’ school, unless the stay at home parent has a compelling reason (e.g. taking care of sick parents or special needs kid, or medical issue themselves).

That’s silly as child care costs can be more than one’s income.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids go to an expensive private school, some of their most impressive peers are the kids of highly educated teachers or government employees with impressive degrees. I have no idea who gets financial aid but I send my kids to this school to be surrounded by kids from families who value strong education and hard work, not necessarily those who live in the biggest houses.

Kids from families who value strong education and hard work. But not the poor ones. No, not the poor ones.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So what you are saying is that a school should only be filled with rich families who are full pay where tuition isn't an obstacle or families who are poor or first generation families YOU feel are worth receiving the money? So middle class families who YOU think have privilege do not deserve any aid so should be locked out of private schools? Glad you aren't on the admissions committee of any of these schools! And how much privilege is too much? How do you determine this? Schools have their own priorities and want a diverse class to make it stronger. You are free to give or not give to a school requesting a donation. Did you send your kids to private school? They are filled with all types. You don't sound like a supportive friend.

NP. Yes that is what I am saying. This group of slightly UMC white children of Hill staff, ACLU lawyers and NYT reporters who went to Penn and Columbia is emphatically not who I want to subsidize with my meager discretionary income after I pay full freight. These are my literal peers, except with more children and a dramatically better work-life balance than I have

Sidwell and Sheridan of course can do what they want, but I’m not going to underwrite this

Wow. I think you are more offended that they have not chosen more lucrative careers with their education than you are about the financial aid. Lots of highly educated people choose to go into journalism or nonprofit work because it calls to them or they want to make the world a better place. Not everyone wants to be a greedy heartless, soulless person like you.

NP. Yes but there’s also a good portion of them who choose these types of jobs because they have less time requirements, more job flexibility and allow them to have more ‘work-life balance.’ I would love to have that too but I had to choose a job that would pay my daughter’s tuition bill. And I’m sure as h— not paying for their kid’s tuition as well. You can’t have your cake and eat it too.

You should have applied for FA.

[Anonymous]

No sympathy for anyone sending their kids to schools that cost that much. Chose something else or button it.

[Anonymous]

Agree. Donations help only affluent middle class people. Not sure is justified. You are not donating to support disadvantaged families. Donations should be zero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So what you are saying is that a school should only be filled with rich families who are full pay where tuition isn't an obstacle or families who are poor or first generation families YOU feel are worth receiving the money? So middle class families who YOU think have privilege do not deserve any aid so should be locked out of private schools? Glad you aren't on the admissions committee of any of these schools! And how much privilege is too much? How do you determine this? Schools have their own priorities and want a diverse class to make it stronger. You are free to give or not give to a school requesting a donation. Did you send your kids to private school? They are filled with all types. You don't sound like a supportive friend.

Some middle class put a lot of effort to send their kids to private. Why some middle class should receive financial aid ? Why not the poor ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My kids go to an expensive private school, some of their most impressive peers are the kids of highly educated teachers or government employees with impressive degrees. I have no idea who gets financial aid but I send my kids to this school to be surrounded by kids from families who value strong education and hard work, not necessarily those who live in the biggest houses.

Kids from families who value strong education and hard work. But not the poor ones. No, not the poor ones.

You missed my point, I don't care about their income or wealth, just their values.

[Anonymous]

It doesn’t bother me at all that they get financial aid but it does affect how I think about the plea for additional donations above my full pay for multiple kids. I make a small donation each year but no amount of give the gap is going to sway me.