Why only women have relationship complaints?

[Anonymous]

Is it easier in same gender relationship?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They do, but it's pretty much all about sex, or lack thereof. They don't really care if the house is dirty; the kids don't go to good camps; dr's appointments for kids not scheduled... As long as they get regular sex, doesn't even have to be great sex, they have zero complaints.

Plus, this board is mainly women.

Your husband isn't a representative of all married men. So worry about fixing him instead.

Everything on here is a generalization. Have you read the threads on this forum?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They complain differently. They show their unhappiness with anger, mental and physical abuse, silent treatment. One locked me out of the house. Apparently I wasn't allowed to go out for a walk without him for safety reasons. Since explaining why I couldn't be outside alone, didn't even make sense to him, he just locked the chain from inside.
Had he complained before, we would have had a chance to work it out and start with small walks for me. It's like they hold it in until they can't handle anymore. I wasn't dealing with a regular person here, and whatever he had, got worse as time went by.
The last guy simply dislikes anything negative. He ignores any discussion that is not about happiness. He shuts down in the sight of anything negative. Some childhood trauma.
Men have complaints, but they postpone dealing with them and the lose their head.

I am very sorry for your negative experiences with men. But please please not all men react with anger, insult, physical abuse and/or silent treatment at times I feel like this forum is exclusively for women with bad experience with men. There are good men who express their issues with communication.

Now of course men and women are different and that's normal. We are biologically different.We tend to want to solve issues quickly and practically. And for women this approach may not be ideal because they prefer long discussions etc. and also our body languages are different. All of it is harmless. We just communicate differently.

Any man who solves conflict with a woman with violence, anger, silent treatment etc has deeper personal issues than have nothing to do with his anger.

In fact we are very measured when we communicate with women because we are well aware that our innate aggressively can make women safe. With other men we don't have such restraints. This is due to testosterone. We do know how to turn on/off that aggressivity depending on who are dealing with. We our spouses and kids we are much more gentle because we love them. However other men with whom we have issues, our aggressive nature comes out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh believe me, men complain. Trust me.

This

[Anonymous]

They have fewer complaints. Women are just better at relationships than men are. Women just care more and put more effort in.

[Anonymous]

Women have more demands. Look in the relationship forum. THehy need men to have a certain earning level, educational achievement, height, wealth, and so on. The slightest shortcoming and people on here will advise the woman to move on.

Men just have fewer demands and requirements, which also means there's less to complain about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men just want a nice, kind, nurturing, caring, loyal, compassionate woman to come home to. If they get that in one woman, they'll never leave you.

You left out have a nice rack and good cook, then yes I will never leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They do, but it's pretty much all about sex, or lack thereof. They don't really care if the house is dirty; the kids don't go to good camps; dr's appointments for kids not scheduled... As long as they get regular sex, doesn't even have to be great sex, they have zero complaints.

Plus, this board is mainly women.

And yet, a huge percentage of women stop having sex as soon as they get married. Seems like this should be a relatively easy problem to solve.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men just want a nice, kind, nurturing, caring, loyal, compassionate woman to come home to. If they get that in one woman, they'll never leave you.

You left out have a nice rack and good cook, then yes I will never leave.

They may not leave, but that doesn’t mean they won’t cheat or do (or not do) things that make their DW miserable enough to file for divorce.

Look at all of the amazing women/great relationships where the DH still cheats because he thinks he can get away with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men just want a nice, kind, nurturing, caring, loyal, compassionate woman to come home to. If they get that in one woman, they'll never leave you.

Completely false. Maybe for 10% of men. Just beware. Many men want multiple of these people plus a model on the side.

[Anonymous]

Men who respond to OP- zero.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women have more demands. Look in the relationship forum. THehy need men to have a certain earning level, educational achievement, height, wealth, and so on. The slightest shortcoming and people on here will advise the woman to move on.

Men just have fewer demands and requirements, which also means there's less to complain about.

But they have larger demands for other things. Men start wars and bankrupt countries or grow them into extreme wealth bankrupting some other country. Women don't start wars. Men want to take over businesses and homes. Men want complete freedom to do whatever they want even if it's video games all day long or spending the majority of their income on some passion of his. Women are more practical but due to this also have higher standards. A lot of their standards also revolve around raising children which is a higher responsibility than skydiving and has a huge safety component for someone else.

[Anonymous]

Men have more physical violence whereas women have more social violence. There was a video a year back where some guy went up to each girl he had ever dated in his lifetime alone with his current wife and just shot them when they opened up the door. He got to like 10 of them. Men, do you really regularly worry about this type of thing happening to you? Do you not understand how your wife complaining about your clothes on the floor is seen as less of an issue than worrying about death through physical violence?

[Anonymous]

There is a great comedy sketch about this. https://www.youtube.com/shorts/nAk_CFd2cyc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men don't bother to verbalize their complaints due to fear of retaliation or they just have no complaints?

Men have worse communication skills. Plus they have more ability to win in a physical fight.