Why only women have relationship complaints?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They do, but it's pretty much all about sex, or lack thereof. They don't really care if the house is dirty; the kids don't go to good camps; dr's appointments for kids not scheduled... As long as they get regular sex, doesn't even have to be great sex, they have zero complaints.

Plus, this board is mainly women.

This is a ridiculous stereotype. I'm a man and most of my male friends are married.They have complained or confided in me about numerous things including:
Their wife cheating while they were on active duty
Their wife's illness
Their wife being mostly interested in going to church every night
Their wife not working and leaving them to pay all the bills
Their wife not supporting their career aspirations

None of my male friends have complained about sex with their wives. I imagine problems exist but they haven't shared them with me. My point is men have complaints too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men don't bother to verbalize their complaints due to fear of retaliation or they just have no complaints?

Their complaints are so self centered and petty and self-indicting, that when they try to say them aloud or in writing, they just stop. Too much cognitive dissonance and they go watch something else. A few will go on a narcissistic bender and blame their wife for everything they do and say, and fail to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lesbian couples are more likely to get divorced than gay male couples. Women can't tolerate other women either?

This is due to a variety of factors not the least of which is plenty of gay male couples are basically a marriage in name only, meaning both sides are non monogamous and allowed to hook up with plenty of different partners. Also there's a good percentage of lesbians who have become lesbian because they were traumatized by some man and have sworn of men, and may have emotional/relationship issues as a result of said trauma.

So it's a choice now for "a good percentage", huh? I thought it was an inborn orientation meriting protected class status.

The things you learn on DCUM...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most women can't stand their MILs, most men are fine with theirs.

Not a good comparison. Same gender vs different gender.

[Anonymous]

Yes, women have more "complaints" (i take HUGE issue with that word - just because a woman is expressing feelings or thoughts doesn't mean they're "complaints"). Women are tired. Women STILL perform the lion's share of childcare and home duties, plus are expected to work ft. They are taking care of their parents and their children and people at work and have nothing left for themselves.
These are societal facts. Yes, there are anecdotes and they are meaningless. As a whole in this country, women are doing it all and are fed up.
Men act like children. They "help" around the house, they "babysit" their children, they are completely disconnected from daily life. They don't fill out forms, do dr appointments, summer camp, conferences, food shopping, cooking, shopping for his family for the holidays, planning every family event and making it happen, vacations, drop off/pick up, every school holiday and half-day.

Of course they don't complain. They wake up, think about themselves, and go to sleep. Then they take out the trash or kill a bug and expect a parade or a bj in return.

Again - I'm sure people will chime in that their dh isn't like that, etc, but these are actual facts. Unless you are part of the Trump MAGA fact cult in bizarro world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, women have more "complaints" (i take HUGE issue with that word - just because a woman is expressing feelings or thoughts doesn't mean they're "complaints"). Women are tired. Women STILL perform the lion's share of childcare and home duties, plus are expected to work ft. They are taking care of their parents and their children and people at work and have nothing left for themselves.
These are societal facts. Yes, there are anecdotes and they are meaningless. As a whole in this country, women are doing it all and are fed up.
Men act like children. They "help" around the house, they "babysit" their children, they are completely disconnected from daily life. They don't fill out forms, do dr appointments, summer camp, conferences, food shopping, cooking, shopping for his family for the holidays, planning every family event and making it happen, vacations, drop off/pick up, every school holiday and half-day.

Of course they don't complain. They wake up, think about themselves, and go to sleep. Then they take out the trash or kill a bug and expect a parade or a bj in return.

Again - I'm sure people will chime in that their dh isn't like that, etc, but these are actual facts. Unless you are part of the Trump MAGA fact cult in bizarro world.

Yup, you definitely sound like a complainer. In fact, you ooze it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most women can't stand their MILs, most men are fine with theirs.

Not a good comparison. Same gender vs different gender.

Most men are fine with their FILs too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, women have more "complaints" (i take HUGE issue with that word - just because a woman is expressing feelings or thoughts doesn't mean they're "complaints"). Women are tired. Women STILL perform the lion's share of childcare and home duties, plus are expected to work ft. They are taking care of their parents and their children and people at work and have nothing left for themselves.
These are societal facts. Yes, there are anecdotes and they are meaningless. As a whole in this country, women are doing it all and are fed up.
Men act like children. They "help" around the house, they "babysit" their children, they are completely disconnected from daily life. They don't fill out forms, do dr appointments, summer camp, conferences, food shopping, cooking, shopping for his family for the holidays, planning every family event and making it happen, vacations, drop off/pick up, every school holiday and half-day.

Of course they don't complain. They wake up, think about themselves, and go to sleep. Then they take out the trash or kill a bug and expect a parade or a bj in return.

Again - I'm sure people will chime in that their dh isn't like that, etc, but these are actual facts. Unless you are part of the Trump MAGA fact cult in bizarro world.

Those women are often justified but women who don't have husband or kids or house are so irritated even while dating, feeling entitled and sticking psychological labels right and left.

[Anonymous]

Men look to solve problems not wallow and bleat into an echo chamber. Our dissatisfaction is the sane as yours but we want it fixed and we don’t want to talk about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men look to solve problems not wallow and bleat into an echo chamber. Our dissatisfaction is the sane as yours but we want it fixed and we don’t want to talk about it.

You can’t fix it if you don’t discuss it…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men look to solve problems not wallow and bleat into an echo chamber. Our dissatisfaction is the sane as yours but we want it fixed and we don’t want to talk about it.

You can’t fix it if you don’t discuss it…

Ok, we only want to talk about it once, maybe twice if the issue needs some further clarification.

[Anonymous]

Many men seem to believe “this is as good as it gets” even when there are significant problems, so they suck it up without bothering to try to address the problems. And then some of them come across a woman who blows some smoke up their butt, and then they cheat and sometimes leave only to wind up in another troubled relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, women have more "complaints" (i take HUGE issue with that word - just because a woman is expressing feelings or thoughts doesn't mean they're "complaints"). Women are tired. Women STILL perform the lion's share of childcare and home duties, plus are expected to work ft. They are taking care of their parents and their children and people at work and have nothing left for themselves.
These are societal facts. Yes, there are anecdotes and they are meaningless. As a whole in this country, women are doing it all and are fed up.
Men act like children. They "help" around the house, they "babysit" their children, they are completely disconnected from daily life. They don't fill out forms, do dr appointments, summer camp, conferences, food shopping, cooking, shopping for his family for the holidays, planning every family event and making it happen, vacations, drop off/pick up, every school holiday and half-day.

Of course they don't complain. They wake up, think about themselves, and go to sleep. Then they take out the trash or kill a bug and expect a parade or a bj in return.

Again - I'm sure people will chime in that their dh isn't like that, etc, but these are actual facts. Unless you are part of the Trump MAGA fact cult in bizarro world.

Wait, I can get a BJ just taking out the trash, sign me up !!! You sound wonderful. And I’ll kill the bug no extra charge.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men look to solve problems not wallow and bleat into an echo chamber. Our dissatisfaction is the sane as yours but we want it fixed and we don’t want to talk about it.

You have clearly never heard of Reddit.

[Anonymous]

Men who are capable of having or are in relationships do not use reddit outside of job/hobby related stuff