Why only women have relationship complaints?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Many men seem to believe “this is as good as it gets” even when there are significant problems, so they suck it up without bothering to try to address the problems. And then some of them come across a woman who blows some smoke up their butt, and then they cheat and sometimes leave only to wind up in another troubled relationship.

Oh please. Men dont cheat because of women. The amount of men who cheat because of dissatisfaction is small. Men and women cheat because they can. Its a factor in their personality no matter the person. There is no way some woman giving birth to his son is disatisfying him. He cheats then because he's stunted and there is time to cheat while she's busy with the baby. Similarly many women complain about stuff they shouldn't because its second nature. People are flawed including men with or without the woman's help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men don't bother to verbalize their complaints due to fear of retaliation or they just have no complaints?

Ignorance is bliss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men don't bother to verbalize their complaints due to fear of retaliation or they just have no complaints?

Oh, they have complaints. How many men in LT relationships are you very close to? They aren't going around spewing their complaints to random people, and mostly men aren't super close to women who aren't their wives unless they are childhood friends, sisters, or APs.

Yes, they have complaints. I think you just don't hear them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They do, but it's pretty much all about sex, or lack thereof. They don't really care if the house is dirty; the kids don't go to good camps; dr's appointments for kids not scheduled... As long as they get regular sex, doesn't even have to be great sex, they have zero complaints.

Plus, this board is mainly women.

This is a ridiculous stereotype. I'm a man and most of my male friends are married.They have complained or confided in me about numerous things including:
Their wife cheating while they were on active duty
Their wife's illness
Their wife being mostly interested in going to church every night
Their wife not working and leaving them to pay all the bills
Their wife not supporting their career aspirations

None of my male friends have complained about sex with their wives. I imagine problems exist but they haven't shared them with me. My point is men have complaints too.

Would a man complain about the lack of sex to another man?

In any case, just read the forum.. most men just complain about the lack of sex, not...

Their wife cheating while they were on active duty
Their wife's illness
Their wife being mostly interested in going to church every night
Their wife not working and leaving them to pay all the bills
Their wife not supporting their career aspirations

[Anonymous]

Two reasons:

1) men have much lower expectations of relationships than women. Women want a powerful breadwinner who is also kind and empathetic and 6' or over. A man just want a nice person who isn't fat.

2) it is 10,000 easier for the average woman to date than man. A woman can walk into a bar and leave with someone without effort. So aan believes he is stuck with what he has and puts up with it.

Women just think about romance more than men. How many men watch The Bachelor or had Friends watching parties in college?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, women have more "complaints" (i take HUGE issue with that word - just because a woman is expressing feelings or thoughts doesn't mean they're "complaints"). Women are tired. Women STILL perform the lion's share of childcare and home duties, plus are expected to work ft. They are taking care of their parents and their children and people at work and have nothing left for themselves.
These are societal facts. Yes, there are anecdotes and they are meaningless. As a whole in this country, women are doing it all and are fed up.
Men act like children. They "help" around the house, they "babysit" their children, they are completely disconnected from daily life. They don't fill out forms, do dr appointments, summer camp, conferences, food shopping, cooking, shopping for his family for the holidays, planning every family event and making it happen, vacations, drop off/pick up, every school holiday and half-day.

Of course they don't complain. They wake up, think about themselves, and go to sleep. Then they take out the trash or kill a bug and expect a parade or a bj in return.

Again - I'm sure people will chime in that their dh isn't like that, etc, but these are actual facts. Unless you are part of the Trump MAGA fact cult in bizarro world.

spot on. Watch this video from 3:20 on

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They do, but it's pretty much all about sex, or lack thereof. They don't really care if the house is dirty; the kids don't go to good camps; dr's appointments for kids not scheduled... As long as they get regular sex, doesn't even have to be great sex, they have zero complaints.

Plus, this board is mainly women.

So funny. Let the kitchen get dirtier and dirtier and dishes pile up in the sink, the laundry go unwashed, the kids get neglected, etc, and watch men suddenly find their voice to complain.

Men dont have to complain because women do it all for them. Why would they complain when being married benefits men so much?

This. The institution of marriage was created by men, for men’s benefit. Why complain?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Exactly. How many men are nice, kind, nuturing, caring, loyal, and compassionate? Why are men so fixated these days on the negatives of women? What are they bringing to the table?

"Nice, kind nurturing". Oh please, great characteristics for a gay friend but no woman wants a guy like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh believe me, men complain. Trust me.

And they complain to other women about their relationship. You just need a translator:

I’m not attracted to her anymore = “Wife got fat after 3 kids in 7 years.”

I refuse to be the shoulder cried on, but I have a bunch of female coworkers who just lap it up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Exactly. How many men are nice, kind, nuturing, caring, loyal, and compassionate? Why are men so fixated these days on the negatives of women? What are they bringing to the table?

"Nice, kind nurturing". Oh please, great characteristics for a gay friend but no woman wants a guy like this.

Hmm…I don’t see a lot of posts with women complaining that their husbands are thoughtful, help out with housework when they are busy at work, stay with them in the hospital after surgery, notice when they are sick and care for them, or are regularly waking up with the baby or kids at night.
If you see some posts that women complain when their husbands are nice to them, I would like to see it.