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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]They complain differently. They show their unhappiness with anger, mental and physical abuse, silent treatment. One locked me out of the house. Apparently I wasn't allowed to go out for a walk without him for safety reasons. Since explaining why I couldn't be outside alone, didn't even make sense to him, he just locked the chain from inside.
Had he complained before, we would have had a chance to work it out and start with small walks for me. It's like they hold it in until they can't handle anymore. I wasn't dealing with a regular person here, and whatever he had, got worse as time went by.
The last guy simply dislikes anything negative. He ignores any discussion that is not about happiness. He shuts down in the sight of anything negative. Some childhood trauma.
Men have complaints, but they postpone dealing with them and the lose their head.[/quote]

I am very sorry for your negative experiences with men. But please please not all men react with anger, insult, physical abuse and/or silent treatment at times I feel like this forum is exclusively for women with bad experience with men. There are good men who express their issues with communication.

Now of course men and women are different and that's normal. We are biologically different.We tend to want to solve issues quickly and practically. And for women this approach may not be ideal because they prefer long discussions etc. and also our body languages are different. All of it is harmless. We just communicate differently.

Any man who solves conflict with a woman with violence, anger, silent treatment etc has deeper personal issues than have nothing to do with his anger.

In fact we are very measured when we communicate with women because we are well aware that our innate aggressively can make women safe. With other men we don't have such restraints. This is due to testosterone. We do know how to turn on/off that aggressivity depending on who are dealing with. We our spouses and kids we are much more gentle because we love them. However other men with whom we have issues, our aggressive nature comes out.[/quote]

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