How to deal with this

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What does her father say about her behaviour? How does he react when she yells at you or other kids?

She yells at her father too. I am sick he was making tacos and juggling kids drop off and pick up, she was ordering him how she likes her tacos, he cant even fix it herself. When her father asked her not to leave things outside for him to pick up. Like milk and yogurt were left outside and she didnt pick up her plates. She lashed out and started telling him that he does not talk to her properly.

I don't understand why you both let her behave this way. This has obviously been going on for years, it will be a lot harder to fix now. My suggestion would be a good family therapist for all of you. Not a request for her to attend, but a condition of continuing support.

[Anonymous]

Does she have her own car?

[Anonymous]

Encourage her to travel. On her own dime of course .

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Is this the first time she’s come home from college? Maybe she’s dealing with some adjustments.

What are the kinds of things she says you didn’t do for her!

No she has been home before multiple times. She says I do not meet her emotional needs. She treats me like trash, how do I meet her emotional needs.

Ask her to write out specifically what emotional needs you are not meeting and how she would like you to meet them.

Also get a family therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does her father say about her behaviour? How does he react when she yells at you or other kids?

She yells at her father too. I am sick he was making tacos and juggling kids drop off and pick up, she was ordering him how she likes her tacos, he cant even fix it herself. When her father asked her not to leave things outside for him to pick up. Like milk and yogurt were left outside and she didnt pick up her plates. She lashed out and started telling him that he does not talk to her properly.

I don't understand why you both let her behave this way. This has obviously been going on for years, it will be a lot harder to fix now. My suggestion would be a good family therapist for all of you. Not a request for her to attend, but a condition of continuing support.

BTW, letting her act out like this is both a bad example for your other kids, and unfair to them. They deserve a quiet and stable environment, which it doesn't sound lke they are getting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she have her own car?

No she uses our car when she needs

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Does she have her own car?

No she uses our car when she needs

Not with that behaviour. Tell her she can use the car when she can act appropriately. It's a privilege, not a right.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does her father say about her behaviour? How does he react when she yells at you or other kids?

She yells at her father too. I am sick he was making tacos and juggling kids drop off and pick up, she was ordering him how she likes her tacos, he cant even fix it herself. When her father asked her not to leave things outside for him to pick up. Like milk and yogurt were left outside and she didnt pick up her plates. She lashed out and started telling him that he does not talk to her properly.

I don't understand why you both let her behave this way. This has obviously been going on for years, it will be a lot harder to fix now. My suggestion would be a good family therapist for all of you. Not a request for her to attend, but a condition of continuing support.

BTW, letting her act out like this is both a bad example for your other kids, and unfair to them. They deserve a quiet and stable environment, which it doesn't sound lke they are getting.

I agree, I feel so bad for my youngest, ever since he has had a memory he has seen this environment created by her. My daughter on the other hand had a stable loving childhood. I am not sure where we went wrong with her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Encourage her to travel. On her own dime of course .

She was planning on traveling during spring break with her room mate but they could not agree on itinerary.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does her father say about her behaviour? How does he react when she yells at you or other kids?

She yells at her father too. I am sick he was making tacos and juggling kids drop off and pick up, she was ordering him how she likes her tacos, he cant even fix it herself. When her father asked her not to leave things outside for him to pick up. Like milk and yogurt were left outside and she didnt pick up her plates. She lashed out and started telling him that he does not talk to her properly.

I don't understand why you both let her behave this way. This has obviously been going on for years, it will be a lot harder to fix now. My suggestion would be a good family therapist for all of you. Not a request for her to attend, but a condition of continuing support.

BTW, letting her act out like this is both a bad example for your other kids, and unfair to them. They deserve a quiet and stable environment, which it doesn't sound lke they are getting.

I agree, I feel so bad for my youngest, ever since he has had a memory he has seen this environment created by her. My daughter on the other hand had a stable loving childhood. I am not sure where we went wrong with her.

Mmmm, no. You're complicit here, you and your husband.

I'm beginning to wonder if this is real or you're just stuck at your ILs in Wisconsin and are bored.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Is this the first time she’s come home from college? Maybe she’s dealing with some adjustments.

What are the kinds of things she says you didn’t do for her!

No she has been home before multiple times. She says I do not meet her emotional needs. She treats me like trash, how do I meet her emotional needs.

Ask her to write out specifically what emotional needs you are not meeting and how she would like you to meet them.

Also get a family therapist.

She says I worry a lot and do not think well before saying things to her and that upsets her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does her father say about her behaviour? How does he react when she yells at you or other kids?

She yells at her father too. I am sick he was making tacos and juggling kids drop off and pick up, she was ordering him how she likes her tacos, he cant even fix it herself. When her father asked her not to leave things outside for him to pick up. Like milk and yogurt were left outside and she didnt pick up her plates. She lashed out and started telling him that he does not talk to her properly.

I don't understand why you both let her behave this way. This has obviously been going on for years, it will be a lot harder to fix now. My suggestion would be a good family therapist for all of you. Not a request for her to attend, but a condition of continuing support.

BTW, letting her act out like this is both a bad example for your other kids, and unfair to them. They deserve a quiet and stable environment, which it doesn't sound lke they are getting.

I agree, I feel so bad for my youngest, ever since he has had a memory he has seen this environment created by her. My daughter on the other hand had a stable loving childhood. I am not sure where we went wrong with her.

Mmmm, no. You're complicit here, you and your husband.

I'm beginning to wonder if this is real or you're just stuck at your ILs in Wisconsin and are bored.

really you think I am making this up? I have been so depressed, have not been able to work out, got physically ill , seriously felt likt life is not worth living and all this sounds like my imagination to you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does her father say about her behaviour? How does he react when she yells at you or other kids?

She yells at her father too. I am sick he was making tacos and juggling kids drop off and pick up, she was ordering him how she likes her tacos, he cant even fix it herself. When her father asked her not to leave things outside for him to pick up. Like milk and yogurt were left outside and she didnt pick up her plates. She lashed out and started telling him that he does not talk to her properly.

I don't understand why you both let her behave this way. This has obviously been going on for years, it will be a lot harder to fix now. My suggestion would be a good family therapist for all of you. Not a request for her to attend, but a condition of continuing support.

BTW, letting her act out like this is both a bad example for your other kids, and unfair to them. They deserve a quiet and stable environment, which it doesn't sound lke they are getting.

I agree, I feel so bad for my youngest, ever since he has had a memory he has seen this environment created by her. My daughter on the other hand had a stable loving childhood. I am not sure where we went wrong with her.

Mmmm, no. You're complicit here, you and your husband.

I'm beginning to wonder if this is real or you're just stuck at your ILs in Wisconsin and are bored.

really you think I am making this up? I have been so depressed, have not been able to work out, got physically ill , seriously felt likt life is not worth living and all this sounds like my imagination to you.

Well, you posted the exact same thing on two different threads. That doesn't usually bode well for believability. But beyond that it does sound very "woe is me" with no accountability at all. Also you never mentioned feeling like life is not worth living until just now. Lots of people are giving you advice but you have yet to say anything that sounds like you have any intention of taking the advice.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does her father say about her behaviour? How does he react when she yells at you or other kids?

She yells at her father too. I am sick he was making tacos and juggling kids drop off and pick up, she was ordering him how she likes her tacos, he cant even fix it herself. When her father asked her not to leave things outside for him to pick up. Like milk and yogurt were left outside and she didnt pick up her plates. She lashed out and started telling him that he does not talk to her properly.

I don't understand why you both let her behave this way. This has obviously been going on for years, it will be a lot harder to fix now. My suggestion would be a good family therapist for all of you. Not a request for her to attend, but a condition of continuing support.

BTW, letting her act out like this is both a bad example for your other kids, and unfair to them. They deserve a quiet and stable environment, which it doesn't sound lke they are getting.

I agree, I feel so bad for my youngest, ever since he has had a memory he has seen this environment created by her. My daughter on the other hand had a stable loving childhood. I am not sure where we went wrong with her.

Mmmm, no. You're complicit here, you and your husband.

I'm beginning to wonder if this is real or you're just stuck at your ILs in Wisconsin and are bored.

really you think I am making this up? I have been so depressed, have not been able to work out, got physically ill , seriously felt likt life is not worth living and all this sounds like my imagination to you.

Well, you posted the exact same thing on two different threads. That doesn't usually bode well for believability. But beyond that it does sound very "woe is me" with no accountability at all. Also you never mentioned feeling like life is not worth living until just now. Lots of people are giving you advice but you have yet to say anything that sounds like you have any intention of taking the advice.

You are right! you got me, this is a fake post. I like to spread lies on anonymous boards.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does her father say about her behaviour? How does he react when she yells at you or other kids?

She yells at her father too. I am sick he was making tacos and juggling kids drop off and pick up, she was ordering him how she likes her tacos, he cant even fix it herself. When her father asked her not to leave things outside for him to pick up. Like milk and yogurt were left outside and she didnt pick up her plates. She lashed out and started telling him that he does not talk to her properly.

I don't understand why you both let her behave this way. This has obviously been going on for years, it will be a lot harder to fix now. My suggestion would be a good family therapist for all of you. Not a request for her to attend, but a condition of continuing support.

BTW, letting her act out like this is both a bad example for your other kids, and unfair to them. They deserve a quiet and stable environment, which it doesn't sound lke they are getting.

I agree, I feel so bad for my youngest, ever since he has had a memory he has seen this environment created by her. My daughter on the other hand had a stable loving childhood. I am not sure where we went wrong with her.

Mmmm, no. You're complicit here, you and your husband.

I'm beginning to wonder if this is real or you're just stuck at your ILs in Wisconsin and are bored.

really you think I am making this up? I have been so depressed, have not been able to work out, got physically ill , seriously felt likt life is not worth living and all this sounds like my imagination to you.

Well, you posted the exact same thing on two different threads. That doesn't usually bode well for believability. But beyond that it does sound very "woe is me" with no accountability at all. Also you never mentioned feeling like life is not worth living until just now. Lots of people are giving you advice but you have yet to say anything that sounds like you have any intention of taking the advice.

You are right! you got me, this is a fake post. I like to spread lies on anonymous boards.

Sounds about right.