Losing respect for dh over passivity about the election

[Anonymous]

You actually expect your DH to canvas? Wow. Not your call. If you pi$$ him off enough, he will vote for the other party.

[Anonymous]

I don’t know a single person who has been swayed by phone calls, canvassing, post cards whatever. a total waste of time.

Decide if you want your marriage to die on this hill. I would be super annoyed if my DH asked me to do this crap. As if I already don’t have million things on my plate.

Also-do you know these babies/women who have died? You are creating scenarios in your head. Yes there are a few states who have gone out of their way to make it harder but those same states never made it easy in the first place. For example, some of those states had one clinic-one. Let’s say that place was 3 hours from the person who needed it-it’s just as much work for them to go there as it is to drive over to another state where it’s easier.

Fun fact-I had an abortion when I was 17. In NC when you needed parent authorization at that time. I actually drove to DC to get it. And that was way before Roe was reversed. Just something to think about. it’s not like it was always super easy before.

[Anonymous]

PPs said it all. You are out of line, OP and I’m as liberal as they come.

[Anonymous]

+1000

[Anonymous]

You sound like an extremist lunatic. Please leave him alone

[Anonymous]

He should run for the hills.

[Anonymous]

05:47. You said it. For the presidential election it's a total waste of time. For other candidates who are not as well known it could have some effect

[Anonymous]

Did you know that a lot of political science and economics research has been devoted to trying to figure out why people vote at all, because economic models of individual behavior indicate that it is not individually rational to vote? I guess your husband is economically rational. You, on the other hand, well... lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Whether he does phone banking/canvassing or not will not change the outcome of the election. You are trying to control something that you actually do not have control over. Your dh is being realistic. You are redirecting your anxiety about the election into anger at him. This is a you problem, not a him problem.

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t know a single person who has been swayed by phone calls, canvassing, post cards whatever. a total waste of time.

Decide if you want your marriage to die on this hill. I would be super annoyed if my DH asked me to do this crap. As if I already don’t have million things on my plate.

Also-do you know these babies/women who have died? You are creating scenarios in your head. Yes there are a few states who have gone out of their way to make it harder but those same states never made it easy in the first place. For example, some of those states had one clinic-one. Let’s say that place was 3 hours from the person who needed it-it’s just as much work for them to go there as it is to drive over to another state where it’s easier.

Fun fact-I had an abortion when I was 17. In NC when you needed parent authorization at that time. I actually drove to DC to get it. And that was way before Roe was reversed. Just something to think about. it’s not like it was always super easy before.

In fairness, that’s not what it’s for. Volunteers are used to encourage supporters to vote and donate, not to persuade undecided voters.

I cavass some years but this year I’m too busy and frankly stressed out with other stuff and if the OP were in my life and on my case about it, I would be really mad. Especially letter writing seems like just the campaigns coming up with activities for people to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You sound like an extremist lunatic. Please leave him alone

+1

[Anonymous]

Let’s imagine if this post was written by a Trump-supporting DH about his wife. People would calling him crazy and abusive and they would be right.

[Anonymous]

OP, your anxiety about this can dictate how YOU donate your time and efforts right now. But you don’t get to dictate how your DH spends his time.

He might be trying to stay even keeled bc he can sense you are only getting more ramped up.

You are not alone with your election anxiety. Thank you for volunteering. But also please take a few steps back and a few deep breaths. Being mad at your spouse, who supports your candidate, is only adding fuel to your already sensitive nerves. Also, maybe stop consuming information for a few days. We have way too much constant outrage fodder. Sometimes it’s best to shut it off for a bit.

[Anonymous]

I’m anxious too but am too depressed to actually do anything, combined with some work/health stress I have right now.

But I think the bigger issue might be that he’s not being empathetic enough or validating your feelings? But at this point we’re so close—we’ll know in a week whether he was right to say “it’s fine, she’s going to win.”

[Anonymous]

Maybe he disagrees with your political choices and is being polite and avoiding drama with you?