Divorced family discrimination at college presentation

[Anonymous]

The fact you used the word “ woke” in your OP makes me think you have an agenda.
Take a step back.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's not discrimination. Discrimination would be stating that they will not admit your student if they do not come from an intact family.

The person who stated that is just stating that the data shows that students from intact families are more likely to have the stats that will get them admitted.

So if she said that she noticed being white, black or Asian meant you got in, that would be cool?

No of course not, but that is nothing close to what she said. She stated a fact about how a child's environment -- on average -- affects academic success in high school. Your example is referencing immutable racial characteristics. Completely different.

She said absolutely nothing about academic achievement.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is stirring the pot. Ex must have the kids this weekend hit the sauce early this morning. Don't feed this nonsense people.

No I was with my kid, who comes from a "broken home" and glad probably wasn't paying attention at that moment.

Mimosas or Bloodies this morning?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact you used the word “ woke” in your OP makes me think you have an agenda.
Take a step back.

I do - which is I get it, you won't be making comments on gender or race, but family status apparently is not in the protected crowd.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I was absolutely floored yesterday to hear this not only said aloud by the person presenting but repeated. I thought it was a joke until she repeated it.

The words were - "I tell parents the one thing that will get their kid into college is staying married"

So all these colleges are woke about everything else but it's still cool to throw shade at family status?

My guess is there is statistical evidence to back that statement up as fact.

-- Divorced dad whose children are both in college, but it was a rough adolescence.

I have to agree. It wasn’t the most sensitive comment to make, but unfortunately it wasn’t inaccurate.

- divorced mom who recognizes the divorce and, more importantly, co parenting stress on DC greatly affected them

*when people get divorced because they’re ’not in love’ anymore or similar, it infuriates me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact you used the word “ woke” in your OP makes me think you have an agenda.
Take a step back.

I do - which is I get it, you won't be making comments on gender or race, but family status apparently is not in the protected crowd.

Legally, it isn’t. So you’re just stating the obvious.

I don’t think this is as big a deal as you think it is. You may have gotten your feelings hurt, but this isn’t the federal case you think it is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact you used the word “ woke” in your OP makes me think you have an agenda.
Take a step back.

I do - which is I get it, you won't be making comments on gender or race, but family status apparently is not in the protected crowd.

Legally, it isn’t. So you’re just stating the obvious.

I don’t think this is as big a deal as you think it is. You may have gotten your feelings hurt, but this isn’t the federal case you think it is.

I'm not looking to sue the school just call them out on their bullsh&t double standards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact you used the word “ woke” in your OP makes me think you have an agenda.
Take a step back.

I do - which is I get it, you won't be making comments on gender or race, but family status apparently is not in the protected crowd.

Legally, it isn’t. So you’re just stating the obvious.

I don’t think this is as big a deal as you think it is. You may have gotten your feelings hurt, but this isn’t the federal case you think it is.

I'm not looking to sue the school just call them out on their bullsh&t double standards.

Double standards for what? Why are you so sensitive? I mean, people should be thinking about how divorce affects their children long term, uncomfortable as that may be. Im divorced and honestly at times I have regrets for my kids- not me- and I absolutely know those stats are real, and I can easily see how it happens. Sharing custody is hard on kids, even when you hold for all the obvious other facts- reduced resources, etc

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was absolutely floored yesterday to hear this not only said aloud by the person presenting but repeated. I thought it was a joke until she repeated it.

The words were - "I tell parents the one thing that will get their kid into college is staying married"

So all these colleges are woke about everything else but it's still cool to throw shade at family status?

My guess is there is statistical evidence to back that statement up as fact.

-- Divorced dad whose children are both in college, but it was a rough adolescence.

+100

Sounds like OP doesn’t like facts that hurt their feelings.

-college educated child of divorced parents.

[Anonymous]

OP, maybe look at this another way. We know that the better the family's financial situation, the more likely they are to attend college, yes? I haven't looked at data, but I'm under the impression that there is also some data correlation between family wealth and parents married vs divorced, with divorced families being more prevalent at lower wealth levels.

I agree that the remark was not delivered in a sensitive way, but I don't think it was intended as a personal slight.

[Anonymous]

Agree with most posts here. There is data to back this up. It is not discriminatory. It may be insensitive especially given the context. With that said, I think it is better that people hear this and consider this factor in your divorce.


I do think there are many good reasons to divorce, and staying together may not be the best thing for DC overall.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact you used the word “ woke” in your OP makes me think you have an agenda.
Take a step back.

I do - which is I get it, you won't be making comments on gender or race, but family status apparently is not in the protected crowd.

Legally, it isn’t. So you’re just stating the obvious.

I don’t think this is as big a deal as you think it is. You may have gotten your feelings hurt, but this isn’t the federal case you think it is.

I'm not looking to sue the school just call them out on their bullsh&t double standards.

Awww, who’s the “woke” special snowflake, then, really? Why so sensitive?

[Anonymous]

OP doesn’t know what discrimination is. And didn’t understand what this person was saying.

They were merely commenting on statistics. Statistics that are pretty irrefutable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP doesn’t know what discrimination is. And didn’t understand what this person was saying.

They were merely commenting on statistics. Statistics that are pretty irrefutable.

They don’t teach statistics on Fox News.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is stirring the pot. Ex must have the kids this weekend hit the sauce early this morning. Don't feed this nonsense people.

No I was with my kid, who comes from a "broken home" and glad probably wasn't paying attention at that moment.

Oh, come on, OP, did they really say "broken home?" This sounds like the person was observing correlation but you in inferred it to be admissions criterion in and of itself.

I'm with PP, put down the gin and quit stirring the pot.