Drop the guilt over teen being lazy?

[Anonymous]

I would probably not let her sleep too much past noon but not bc she’s being lazy and needs to be productive, mostly bc I wouldn’t want her sleep schedule to get too wonky, which will be painful to adjust on vacation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our 13yo’s summer camps has ended and we have a little less than two weeks until we leave for vacation. All of her friends are out of town with family or on vacation, which has resulted in her being a total bum for the past week. She’s still sleeping. I’ve gone in to wake her twice. The thing is, she’s not missing anything if she was to wake. I’m WFH and accelerate my day so I’m done before 4pm, and then we spend the evening together. But I feel so much guilt that she’s being so lazy. In two weeks we will be spending two weeks very active and busy. Anyone else experiencing this?

Your guilt is a you problem, not a teen problem. Seek therapy because you don't have to be productive every minute of your life.

[Anonymous]

That was my entire summer when I was 13 (and 11 and 12 and 14 and 15). I'd wake up and watch The Price is Right at 11am and eat cereal while watching it. I might walk to the pool in the afternoon or not. If I didn't, I'd watch TV, read books, lay out in the backyard. Those were some great summers!

[Anonymous]

The extra sleep will promote a growth spurt, so leave her be.

[Anonymous]

No guilt here. My kids are lazy in the summer. Get up late, stay up late. Hang out with friends. Too old for camp. They have summer jobs but come home and lounge around. They will be 18 soon and will have college and internships. Real life will start soon for them. I’m letting them enjoy their childhood. No guilt whatsoever. Period.

[Anonymous]

My 14yo has been sleeping unti 2-3 PM pretty much daily since May and staying up until 4 AM.

No guilt and I have a very happy kid.

[Anonymous]

She might grow a foot if you let her sleep.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 14yo has been sleeping unti 2-3 PM pretty much daily since May and staying up until 4 AM.

No guilt and I have a very happy kid.

My DS stays up until 2 and sleeps until noon. She's been depressed so I'm going to encourage to stay up a couple of hours later.

[Anonymous]

It’s ok to feel guilty that you don’t usually let your child rest enough. The important thing is that she’s getting it now. Know better, do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A lot of people on dcum are really terrified of down time.

+1. Let her enjoy two weeks of downtime before life ramps back up.

[Anonymous]

lol. This is my 14-year-old’s entire summer. He works his butt off during the year, he might as well have a lazy summer if that’s what he wants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would probably not let her sleep too much past noon but not bc she’s being lazy and needs to be productive, mostly bc I wouldn’t want her sleep schedule to get too wonky, which will be painful to adjust on vacation

This.

I’d be concerned why a 13 hr old is wanting to sleep past 1pm. I’d rule out her being up on electronics in the middle of night for hours. Do you know what time she is going to sleep?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 14yo has been sleeping unti 2-3 PM pretty much daily since May and staying up until 4 AM.

No guilt and I have a very happy kid.

What is your 14 yr old doing until 4am?

[Anonymous]

Let her rest for two weeks!

[Anonymous]

I've got no problem letting my kid be lazy in the summer, but everyone has to be up by 9am in our house.