Drop the guilt over teen being lazy?
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Anonymous
| Our 13yo’s summer camps has ended and we have a little less than two weeks until we leave for vacation. All of her friends are out of town with family or on vacation, which has resulted in her being a total bum for the past week. She’s still sleeping. I’ve gone in to wake her twice. The thing is, she’s not missing anything if she was to wake. I’m WFH and accelerate my day so I’m done before 4pm, and then we spend the evening together. But I feel so much guilt that she’s being so lazy. In two weeks we will be spending two weeks very active and busy. Anyone else experiencing this? |
Anonymous
| Should be fine. Extra time to sleep might even support a growth spurt. |
Anonymous
| So only two weeks this summer of being lazy?? It’s fine! Many teens are doing much much less than yours.! |
Anonymous
| WTF, it's two weeks. Who cares if she is a bum for two weeks. |
Anonymous
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I'd covid test her just to make sure the extreme fatigue isn't a sign of that.
And make sure she has an annual meds visit and screen for depression, thyroid, etc. Otherwise, don't worry about it. it's fine for a teen to be lazy for two weeks. |
Anonymous
| Yes drop the guilt. |
Anonymous
Well, it’s been a little over a week already. But I get what you’re saying! |
Anonymous
| Maybe she is afraid to get up and do things. Does she have anxiety? |
Anonymous
| Resting isn't the same as being lazy. Let her be! |
Anonymous
| A lot of people on dcum are really terrified of down time. |
Anonymous
| My child came home from camp last year totally exhausted. A couple weeks later, he had a sore knee. It turned out to be Lyme. If it's true fatigue -- as opposed to staying up late and sleeping late -- consider getting a Lyme test. |
Anonymous
Eh. Was she ins FCPS middle school? My 14 year old has been sleeping a ton this summer but he has been really sleep deprived over the last two years and I think he just needs to catch up. Also, 13 is often a big growth year for girls and growth spurts always come with extra growth needs. Absent anything else, I do not see any reason for medical concerns at this point. Sounds like she had a busy first half of the summer. Let her be lazy. |
Anonymous
| Let them rest! When she wakes up, a walk or something in some sunlight will help refresh her body clock - I sometimes worry about my teens becoming nocturnal and a walk or sunlight when they get up helps somehow. |
Anonymous
| Lazy summer 🏝️ staycation, no guilt! |
Anonymous
| Is she staying up until 4 AM or is she sleeping 18 hours a day? |