I disconnected my direct deposit

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because I wanted another baby, being a mother is the joy of my life. My kids will be very well loved no matter what happens.

You should downsize your house and other expenses now. Your dh's hobby job salary will have to support you all for a long time, apparently. Good luck.

I offered to move back into a rental house we own to lower our expenses. He declined.

This is a pretty poor troll attempt. Concept isn't bad but execution is awful

[Anonymous]

That's not "quiet quitting", by the way. Quiet quitting is still doing your job, just not going crazy over-and-above your job. Sounds like you're just quitting (or wanting to - which you can't do by just disconnecting your direct deposit...which is another separate issue).

[Anonymous]

To the people who are struggling to understand the concept of disconnect my direct deposit, I meant from our joint account. I connected an account that is in my name only.

[Anonymous]

It's really unclear what your focus is here, op. The crappy job or the crappy husband. That's why people were confused.

[Anonymous]

What has the husband actually done wrong? Also, what “hobby job” has a sabbatical?

This is clearly a troll.

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand the direct deposit thing?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's not "quiet quitting", by the way. Quiet quitting is still doing your job, just not going crazy over-and-above your job. Sounds like you're just quitting (or wanting to - which you can't do by just disconnecting your direct deposit...which is another separate issue).

I am typing from my phone so that I don’t type this from my work computer, and so I’m taking shortcuts.

I connected a personal account instead of joint account, and yes I will still do my job, but if I get a message from daycare that my daughter smeared poop in the bathroom, I am going to stop what I am doing and research OTs and make an appointment and take her. I am going to shower once a day and do my nails. I am going to meal plan and grocery shop. And if my work performance drops I am not going to worry about it or care about my annual performance review.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's really unclear what your focus is here, op. The crappy job or the crappy husband. That's why people were confused.

Agree the post is totally confusing but since she put it in the relationship forum I am going with crappy husband, exacerbated by what appear to be pregnancy hormones exposing a high level of nastiness.

[Anonymous]

"I am done subsidizing his hobby job."

.....So instead you decided to have another child with him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:To the people who are struggling to understand the concept of disconnect my direct deposit, I meant from our joint account. I connected an account that is in my name only.

Check the laws of the state you’re in, but generally income earned during marriage is considered marital assets that would have to be split upon divorce. So this isn’t the fast one you think you pulled.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What has the husband actually done wrong? Also, what “hobby job” has a sabbatical?

This is clearly a troll.

I am not a troll. My husband is a professor. To me this is a hobby job because he could 3-10x his income in the private sector if he felt like it. But he doesn’t feel like it when I make everything possible at the expense of my health and ability to be a good parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That's not "quiet quitting", by the way. Quiet quitting is still doing your job, just not going crazy over-and-above your job. Sounds like you're just quitting (or wanting to - which you can't do by just disconnecting your direct deposit...which is another separate issue).

I am typing from my phone so that I don’t type this from my work computer, and so I’m taking shortcuts.

I connected a personal account instead of joint account, and yes I will still do my job, but if I get a message from daycare that my daughter smeared poop in the bathroom, I am going to stop what I am doing and research OTs and make an appointment and take her. I am going to shower once a day and do my nails. I am going to meal plan and grocery shop. And if my work performance drops I am not going to worry about it or care about my annual performance review.

Lol you think moms who work and do a good job at work don't shower every day, do their nails, or cook? You really shouldn't be raising children, you sound like an incompetent idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What has the husband actually done wrong? Also, what “hobby job” has a sabbatical?

This is clearly a troll.

I am not a troll. My husband is a professor. To me this is a hobby job because he could 3-10x his income in the private sector if he felt like it. But he doesn’t feel like it when I make everything possible at the expense of my health and ability to be a good parent.

Feel so bad for your children. You are NOT a good parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:To the people who are struggling to understand the concept of disconnect my direct deposit, I meant from our joint account. I connected an account that is in my name only.

Check the laws of the state you’re in, but generally income earned during marriage is considered marital assets that would have to be split upon divorce. So this isn’t the fast one you think you pulled.

Oh and even if you actual quit, the court can infer income potential and make you pay the lower earning spouse spousal support in many states. I’m not doubting that he’s a bum, but you’re not being smart about this. Try to rise above the pregnancy hormones and go talk to a lawyer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because I wanted another baby, being a mother is the joy of my life. My kids will be very well loved no matter what happens.

Being "well loved" is not enough any good parent knows that.

You have to be a troll