Parents of transgender teens in private school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For those parents who have a transgender high school student at Maret or GDS, would you mind sharing your experience? Does your child feel accepted and respected by students and staff? Please only respond if this question pertains to you. Thank you.

This is supposed to be an anonymous forum. Why are you asking people to out themselves? Transgenderism is so incredibly rare.

Do you even have a clue? Or any kind of empathy for OP? The OP is looking for information for their kid, and asking the question doesn’t out anyone. And not everyone is in the closet—that’s an archaic way of thinking about it. Maybe some parents/kids have good experiences and don’t mind sharing. Maybe they are out at their school and happy there, and happy to share. And exactly—it’s anonymous. And no one has to respond if they are worried about people knowing who they are.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP-I know that Burke has been a very positive and accepting place for transgender students.

Thank you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a gay cis gender son at gds. I can't speak directly about the trans experience, but based on what we see of support for LGBTQ generally, I am certain the school goes out of its way to accommodate. That doesn't mean, of course, that all peers are 100% accepting.

Thank you for the info!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think you would do better to call the schools and ask if you can speak to parents about their experiences directly or if you could network your way to one of the parents. There are just not that many transgender students at these schools and I'm not sure that those parents would feel comfortable discussing something that is so identifiable to them on this forum. Just my two cents.

This. Ask if the school would pass your contact info on to one or two parents of transgender students. The school will understand that this is a very specific, personal, and sensitive concern and will likely do the best they can to help you find answers for your questions.

The above is correct based on personal experience at a different school. When you call be very clear as to whether you are asking about a trans boy or a trans girl. Their experiences can be very different on the same school. Also, if your child is “non-binary” do not say they are “trans.” Very different and different parents the school may put you in touch with.

Does transgender mean a person whose gender identity does not correspond with the sex registered for them at birth? Last I checked, doctors weren’t assigning non-binary on birth certificates. Are you next going to say that only trans kids who’ve fully transitioned are worth the conversation with the school? Or are you admitting that the plethora of tween/teen girls that now identify as they/them at local progressive schools is a fad or social contagion?

People that are nonbinary are also considered transgender but not every nonbinary person is comfortable using the term transgender to describe themselves. This is especially true for those that do not medically transition in any way. Many nonbinary people experience gender dysphoria but in ways different than binary trans people and will transition with hormones but have different goals they’re trying to achieve with their transition.

[Anonymous]

Look at GDS, Field, Burke.

[Anonymous]

SSSAS is very welcoming of transgender students. Acceptance and support of all gender and sexual identities is written into the school’s statement at the beginning of the student handbook, and they definitely back it up. It’s not just words on a page.

[Anonymous]

Look into the Field School. This is right down their alley.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those parents who have a transgender high school student at Maret or GDS, would you mind sharing your experience? Does your child feel accepted and respected by students and staff? Please only respond if this question pertains to you. Thank you.

There have been a few transgender kids at NCS and they are accepted and it appears to be a non issue with students and staff.

In regards to OP’s question GDS for sure is a very open and accepting school in this regard and I assume Maret would be as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For those parents who have a transgender high school student at Maret or GDS, would you mind sharing your experience? Does your child feel accepted and respected by students and staff? Please only respond if this question pertains to you. Thank you.

This is supposed to be an anonymous forum. Why are you asking people to out themselves? Transgenderism is so incredibly rare.

Do you even have a clue? Or any kind of empathy for OP? The OP is looking for information for their kid, and asking the question doesn’t out anyone. And not everyone is in the closet—that’s an archaic way of thinking about it. Maybe some parents/kids have good experiences and don’t mind sharing. Maybe they are out at their school and happy there, and happy to share. And exactly—it’s anonymous. And no one has to respond if they are worried about people knowing who they are.

I have more than a clue. Look, this is so incredibly rare that it’s likely many of these schools don’t have any at all or if they did it’s one child total. So essentially asking those people to share experiences in an “anonymous” forum and yet it isn’t hard to deduce who they are. Which violates the child’s privacy.

I realize that with all the culture war stuff it might sound like transgenderism is common or normal but it’s actually so incredibly deviant from the norm that when it does occur it’s really obvious. I suppose the appetite to share publicly probably varies from person to person but in this instance you’re essentially calling out known people. Not cool.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:For those parents who have a transgender high school student at Maret or GDS, would you mind sharing your experience? Does your child feel accepted and respected by students and staff? Please only respond if this question pertains to you. Thank you.

This is supposed to be an anonymous forum. Why are you asking people to out themselves? Transgenderism is so incredibly rare.

Do you even have a clue? Or any kind of empathy for OP? The OP is looking for information for their kid, and asking the question doesn’t out anyone. And not everyone is in the closet—that’s an archaic way of thinking about it. Maybe some parents/kids have good experiences and don’t mind sharing. Maybe they are out at their school and happy there, and happy to share. And exactly—it’s anonymous. And no one has to respond if they are worried about people knowing who they are.

I have more than a clue. Look, this is so incredibly rare that it’s likely many of these schools don’t have any at all or if they did it’s one child total. So essentially asking those people to share experiences in an “anonymous” forum and yet it isn’t hard to deduce who they are. Which violates the child’s privacy.

I realize that with all the culture war stuff it might sound like transgenderism is common or normal but it’s actually so incredibly deviant from the norm that when it does occur it’s really obvious. I suppose the appetite to share publicly probably varies from person to person but in this instance you’re essentially calling out known people. Not cool.

I graduated from high school frequently discussed here 30 years ago, long before anyone was talking about being trans. There were, not surprisingly, no openly trans kids while I was in school. But of the couple dozen people I keep in touch with, out of a graduating class of 125, two are now openly trans.

By those numbers, we can expect at least a handful of trans students in each grade at each school -- and these days, they are likely to be open about it.

[Anonymous]

I’d reach out to Maret

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those parents who have a transgender high school student at Maret or GDS, would you mind sharing your experience? Does your child feel accepted and respected by students and staff? Please only respond if this question pertains to you. Thank you.

This is supposed to be an anonymous forum. Why are you asking people to out themselves? Transgenderism is so incredibly rare.

Do you even have a clue? Or any kind of empathy for OP? The OP is looking for information for their kid, and asking the question doesn’t out anyone. And not everyone is in the closet—that’s an archaic way of thinking about it. Maybe some parents/kids have good experiences and don’t mind sharing. Maybe they are out at their school and happy there, and happy to share. And exactly—it’s anonymous. And no one has to respond if they are worried about people knowing who they are.

I have more than a clue. Look, this is so incredibly rare that it’s likely many of these schools don’t have any at all or if they did it’s one child total. So essentially asking those people to share experiences in an “anonymous” forum and yet it isn’t hard to deduce who they are. Which violates the child’s privacy.

I realize that with all the culture war stuff it might sound like transgenderism is common or normal but it’s actually so incredibly deviant from the norm that when it does occur it’s really obvious. I suppose the appetite to share publicly probably varies from person to person but in this instance you’re essentially calling out known people. Not cool.

It's problematic that you think you have more of a clue than this parent. Again you never addressed the point that there could be out kids who like their school and do not mind sharing, which would be great info for the OP. Your need to speak up for the trans community isn't bad, but your criticism is misplaced. (And your term, "deviant from the norm," while not necessarily statistically inaccurate, is totally dehumanizing.) So, again, get a clue. No one has to chime in, and those who want to, can. No one is trying to call out anyone. No one has to respond. And I agree that it is archaic to assume that all trans kids are closeted.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those parents who have a transgender high school student at Maret or GDS, would you mind sharing your experience? Does your child feel accepted and respected by students and staff? Please only respond if this question pertains to you. Thank you.

This is supposed to be an anonymous forum. Why are you asking people to out themselves? Transgenderism is so incredibly rare.

Do you even have a clue? Or any kind of empathy for OP? The OP is looking for information for their kid, and asking the question doesn’t out anyone. And not everyone is in the closet—that’s an archaic way of thinking about it. Maybe some parents/kids have good experiences and don’t mind sharing. Maybe they are out at their school and happy there, and happy to share. And exactly—it’s anonymous. And no one has to respond if they are worried about people knowing who they are.

I have more than a clue. Look, this is so incredibly rare that it’s likely many of these schools don’t have any at all or if they did it’s one child total. So essentially asking those people to share experiences in an “anonymous” forum and yet it isn’t hard to deduce who they are. Which violates the child’s privacy.

I realize that with all the culture war stuff it might sound like transgenderism is common or normal but it’s actually so incredibly deviant from the norm that when it does occur it’s really obvious. I suppose the appetite to share publicly probably varies from person to person but in this instance you’re essentially calling out known people. Not cool.

It's problematic that you think you have more of a clue than this parent. Again you never addressed the point that there could be out kids who like their school and do not mind sharing, which would be great info for the OP. Your need to speak up for the trans community isn't bad, but your criticism is misplaced. (And your term, "deviant from the norm," while not necessarily statistically inaccurate, is totally dehumanizing.) So, again, get a clue. No one has to chime in, and those who want to, can. No one is trying to call out anyone. No one has to respond. And I agree that it is archaic to assume that all trans kids are closeted.

I won't name the school, but DD is at a Catholic all girls school with a rather large portion of trans/non-binary students. It's not just one or two and if it is being accepted at a religious school, I suspect it is a non-issue at secular schools.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those parents who have a transgender high school student at Maret or GDS, would you mind sharing your experience? Does your child feel accepted and respected by students and staff? Please only respond if this question pertains to you. Thank you.

This is supposed to be an anonymous forum. Why are you asking people to out themselves? Transgenderism is so incredibly rare.

Do you even have a clue? Or any kind of empathy for OP? The OP is looking for information for their kid, and asking the question doesn’t out anyone. And not everyone is in the closet—that’s an archaic way of thinking about it. Maybe some parents/kids have good experiences and don’t mind sharing. Maybe they are out at their school and happy there, and happy to share. And exactly—it’s anonymous. And no one has to respond if they are worried about people knowing who they are.

I have more than a clue. Look, this is so incredibly rare that it’s likely many of these schools don’t have any at all or if they did it’s one child total. So essentially asking those people to share experiences in an “anonymous” forum and yet it isn’t hard to deduce who they are. Which violates the child’s privacy.

I realize that with all the culture war stuff it might sound like transgenderism is common or normal but it’s actually so incredibly deviant from the norm that when it does occur it’s really obvious. I suppose the appetite to share publicly probably varies from person to person but in this instance you’re essentially calling out known people. Not cool.

It's problematic that you think you have more of a clue than this parent. Again you never addressed the point that there could be out kids who like their school and do not mind sharing, which would be great info for the OP. Your need to speak up for the trans community isn't bad, but your criticism is misplaced. (And your term, "deviant from the norm," while not necessarily statistically inaccurate, is totally dehumanizing.) So, again, get a clue. No one has to chime in, and those who want to, can. No one is trying to call out anyone. No one has to respond. And I agree that it is archaic to assume that all trans kids are closeted.

I won't name the school, but DD is at a Catholic all girls school with a rather large portion of trans/non-binary students. It's not just one or two and if it is being accepted at a religious school, I suspect it is a non-issue at secular schools.

Stone Ridge.

[Anonymous]

In my extremely limited experience, if the kid starts at the school dressing and behaving as their “new” (?) gender, the other kids might not realize the person is trans.