Do visiting family REALLY expect ‘cocktail hour’ on night SIX of a visit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who TF says cocktail hour?

Boomers, as a way to cover up their excessive drinking. Both my parents and my ILs do this.

They act like everyone puts on a big show at 5 p.m. every night. Um, no, DH and I maybe have a drink at home once a week. We don’t put on an elaborate ritual every night to make binge drinking seem civilized.

Shut up about boomers, lazy millennial who hates her parents. Sick of you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am so over hosting my ILs! They’re still here, which I wouldn’t mind so much, but they are very much still in “we expect to be hosted” mode. DH is at work and doesn’t get home until 6:30. I’m phoning in dinner with a Stouffer’s lasagna, a salad, and some breadsticks.

ILs asked “what are you planning to serve for cocktail hour.” Um, nothing. There’s beer and wine if you want to help yourself. You can scrounge around and make yourself cheese and crackers if you want to. But like, the nights of shrimp and full service are over. Thank goodness they leave tomorrow. Who expects to be fully hosted after so much time parked in someone else’s home?

They need to drink because they have spent too much time with your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who TF says cocktail hour?

Boomers, as a way to cover up their excessive drinking. Both my parents and my ILs do this.

They act like everyone puts on a big show at 5 p.m. every night. Um, no, DH and I maybe have a drink at home once a week. We don’t put on an elaborate ritual every night to make binge drinking seem civilized.

Shut up about boomers, lazy millennial who hates her parents. Sick of you!

Do you even know when the Millennial generation begins and ends, without Googling? Doubt it.

[Anonymous]

My DH isn’t allowed to work days that his parents are visiting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH isn’t allowed to work days that his parents are visiting.

Oh, so your DH is a surgeon, too? You’re welcome, by the way, that he’s here when you and your family need him. -OP

[Anonymous]

Wow, even by DCUM standards, this thread degenerated fast.

[Anonymous]

When we have overnight guests my husband will host the bar the first night and then after that he just tells everyone to make themselves at home and let him know if we are getting low on something. It works all the time. He does it very politely and everyone seems happy with it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who TF says cocktail hour?

Boomers, as a way to cover up their excessive drinking. Both my parents and my ILs do this.

They act like everyone puts on a big show at 5 p.m. every night. Um, no, DH and I maybe have a drink at home once a week. We don’t put on an elaborate ritual every night to make binge drinking seem civilized.

Yes. Also grew up like this. 5 p.m every day. Cocktails - usually scotch or martinis - and some small snacks. Wine with dinner.

They're all still alive. Pickled, but alive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^ Who are these people who expect busy working parents and professionals to host their retired a**es

Meet my Mil! She acts like a college kid home for winter break in my house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My DH isn’t allowed to work days that his parents are visiting.

Aren't you a pleasure.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Who TF says cocktail hour?[/quote]

Boomers, as a way to cover up their excessive drinking. Both my parents and my ILs do this.

They act like everyone puts on a big show at 5 p.m. every night. Um, no, DH and I maybe have a drink at home once a week. We don’t put on an elaborate ritual every night to make binge drinking seem civilized. [/quote]

Says the old man whose wife never worked a minute in her life and was ready at the door to promptly start cocktail hour at 5 pm every single day if her uneventful life with him. 😆

Shut up about boomers, lazy millennial who hates her parents. Sick of you![/quote]

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am so over hosting my ILs! They’re still here, which I wouldn’t mind so much, but they are very much still in “we expect to be hosted” mode. DH is at work and doesn’t get home until 6:30. I’m phoning in dinner with a Stouffer’s lasagna, a salad, and some breadsticks.

ILs asked “what are you planning to serve for cocktail hour.” Um, nothing. There’s beer and wine if you want to help yourself. You can scrounge around and make yourself cheese and crackers if you want to. But like, the nights of shrimp and full service are over. Thank goodness they leave tomorrow. Who expects to be fully hosted after so much time parked in someone else’s home?

You, in 25 years.

Not OP, but learning how not to behave is one of the silver linings of dealing with my parents and ILs.

[Anonymous]

I'm sorry. Five days is a long time to host. I would have put out some wine with crackers and cheese. When my parents visit they watch the kids so we can have a date night. My dad helps my husband with his list of home maintenance. They're helpful. I hope to do the same one day. And stay in a hotel.

[Anonymous]

I love it when people have cocktail hours. I’m not a huge drinker, so it seems fun and unique.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Who TF says cocktail hour?

Boomers, as a way to cover up their excessive drinking. Both my parents and my ILs do this.

They act like everyone puts on a big show at 5 p.m. every night. Um, no, DH and I maybe have a drink at home once a week. We don’t put on an elaborate ritual every night to make binge drinking seem civilized.

Yep 🤣 my parents and ILs also. “Cocktail hour” “nightcap” etc. Just a way to make drinking more socially acceptable and civilized.

OP, if it were my parents or ILs I’d just point them toward the liquor cabinet and tell them there are crackers and such in the pantry. I’d also tell them to let DH know if they need anything picked up from the store.