Charging people to attend a home holiday party

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel for your OP, this happened to me once and I had no idea until I showed up! I offered to pay my friend's DH through the pants as they say and they waived my fee. I've never been back.

You offered to perform a sex act on the host at a holiday party?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel for your OP, this happened to me once and I had no idea until I showed up! I offered to pay my friend's DH through the pants as they say and they waived my fee. I've never been back.

You offered to perform a sex act on the host at a holiday party?!

Not at the party but another time. He kept contacting me for a few weeks after but I never responded. He was tall and hot though so somtimes I wish I had.

[Anonymous]

I would decline. Charging for a home party is beyond “tacky” and frankly, it’s rude.

[Anonymous]

I've never heard of someone doing this. Absolutely ridiculous when, as the host, you can choose a time and party format that work for your budget. The only time our friend group has done cash contributions for a party was when we moved our usual annual restaurant dinner to someone's house due to covid concerns, and we all split the catering bill.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been asked to pay to attend a home holiday party for the first time. I don’t know how different this is from splitting a bill with a group of friends.

Is this common?

Maybe just new for me.

The only exception I can think of to this being absolutely weird and a no-go is if the event is a fundraiser and the “cover charge” is meant to go to the charity being honored.

But for a regular get-together with friends? So I’m supposed to pay a fee, everyone is driving to you while you take our money to strongarm the menu, drink, and atmosphere, and once there I would still be expected to act like a normal thoughtful houseguest because after all, we’re not at a restaurant. Even if I tried to go along with this, I would definitely somehow end up offending you because we’re just not going to be on the same page about what is expected of everybody!

[Anonymous]

Is this a party oriented around a holiday activity (baking, crafts etc and charging for supplies)? That could vaguely make sense, although not something I would ever do.

Otherwise- entirely bizarre. I would not attend.

[Anonymous]

That is incredibly tacky. Don't go.

[Anonymous]

Tacky. Reminds me of chipping in for a keg in high school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel for your OP, this happened to me once and I had no idea until I showed up! I offered to pay my friend's DH through the pants as they say and they waived my fee. I've never been back.

You offered to perform a sex act on the host at a holiday party?!

Not at the party but another time. He kept contacting me for a few weeks after but I never responded. He was tall and hot though so somtimes I wish I had.

Well this took a turn.

[Anonymous]

Come back, OP! I need to know more!

[Anonymous]

I'd way rather stay inside in my jammies.

I also don't do potlucks anymore. Host or dont, but dont ask me to fund the party at your house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My cousin and his friends did this, but it was a huge party and they would rent a venue, buy gifts for the kids, invite more than 50 people, etc.[/quote

Still a nope for me! Have a party if you want to throw a party. Don't charge me to come.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel for your OP, this happened to me once and I had no idea until I showed up! I offered to pay my friend's DH through the pants as they say and they waived my fee. I've never been back.

"through the pants" ... never have I heard that!!!

[Anonymous]

We were invited to a party and asked to pay. I’m not offended. They serve really good food, but it’s expensive and none of us are rich. I’d rather pay a little money to be able to spend a fun evening with friends over good food and drink than stay home in front of the tv.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I feel for your OP, this happened to me once and I had no idea until I showed up! I offered to pay my friend's DH through the pants as they say and they waived my fee. I've never been back.

You offered to perform a sex act on the host at a holiday party?!

Not at the party but another time. He kept contacting me for a few weeks after but I never responded. He was tall and hot though so somtimes I wish I had.

You’re both trashy so that evens things out.