DH prefers private, I want public

[Anonymous]

The fact you said well regarded and rigorous in your OP makes me think you would actually be happier at private.
You have a preschooler and an infant and this is how you think….. you are a private school mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m pro “if I do all the work I have the final say” in public you have a strong local community in your neighborhood, private you spend hours on the road you will hate. If he takes all driving responsibility I would reconsider, but he cannot put that all on you

This. Do not agree to the private school if you have to do all of the driving. It makes no sense anyway. How do you think your DC will feel about driving that far every day?

[Anonymous]

Is DH going to drive kid to and from school each day? If not, this would be an absolute no for me. If the ES is good and has a strong neighbrhood feel, then go there and go to private when you both agree it's the best solution. There is such a benefit to being in a neighborhood school for ES especially.

[Anonymous]

Your glorification of the public school is delusional. Wait until you get a load of the violence and horrible behavior before you decide your public is “nurturing.” Lol.

I get that you don’t want to drive that much…that’s your only argument with merit.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your glorification of the public school is delusional. Wait until you get a load of the violence and horrible behavior before you decide your public is “nurturing.” Lol.

I get that you don’t want to drive that much…that’s your only argument with merit.

Houses in our school zone start at $2mm, and there is 0% free lunch population. I am not worried about violence or dangerous behavior.

Materialism and bullying perhaps, but I imagine these issues are also present at the private school. Probably even more so, since the parents live in an area like this and still choose to shell out $50k/yr per kid for the private school experience.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your glorification of the public school is delusional. Wait until you get a load of the violence and horrible behavior before you decide your public is “nurturing.” Lol.

I get that you don’t want to drive that much…that’s your only argument with merit.

Houses in our school zone start at $2mm, and there is 0% free lunch population. I am not worried about violence or dangerous behavior.

Materialism and bullying perhaps, but I imagine these issues are also present at the private school. Probably even more so, since the parents live in an area like this and still choose to shell out $50k/yr per kid for the private school experience.

I’m a mental health professional. Do you seriously think that children of the wealthy don’t display violent or dangerous behaviors? My mind is blown.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your glorification of the public school is delusional. Wait until you get a load of the violence and horrible behavior before you decide your public is “nurturing.” Lol

I get that you don’t want to drive that much…that’s your only argument with merit.

Houses in our school zone start at $2mm, and there is 0% free lunch population. I am not worried about violence or dangerous behavior.

Materialism and bullying perhaps, but I imagine these issues are also present at the private school. Probably even more so, since the parents live in an area like this and still choose to shell out $50k/yr per kid for the private school experience.

Haha. You’re in for a little wake up call, unfortunately.

Let me guess, this is your first kid and you haven’t been in a public school since you graduated, right?

[Anonymous]

If you can afford to, do private- not even a question. Kids are not cute little kindergartners forever and the warm and fuzzy environment you describe does not last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your glorification of the public school is delusional. Wait until you get a load of the violence and horrible behavior before you decide your public is “nurturing.” Lol.

I get that you don’t want to drive that much…that’s your only argument with merit.

Houses in our school zone start at $2mm, and there is 0% free lunch population. I am not worried about violence or dangerous behavior.

Materialism and bullying perhaps, but I imagine these issues are also present at the private school. Probably even more so, since the parents live in an area like this and still choose to shell out $50k/yr per kid for the private school experience.

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You are in for a shock

[Anonymous]

Time is money, and no kid should spend that much time in the car if there's an option closer by.
We lived minutes away from school, now a mile away. Not happy about it.
The long commutes in US should have never been made normal.

[Anonymous]

My daughter is in a public elementary school in DC, and it is absolutely wonderful! Don’t listen to these people who say it’s impossible for a public school to be a good experience.

[Anonymous]

If kid goes to private, husband does drop off and pick up. He'll change his mind soon enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your glorification of the public school is delusional. Wait until you get a load of the violence and horrible behavior before you decide your public is “nurturing.” Lol.

I get that you don’t want to drive that much…that’s your only argument with merit.

Houses in our school zone start at $2mm, and there is 0% free lunch population. I am not worried about violence or dangerous behavior.

Materialism and bullying perhaps, but I imagine these issues are also present at the private school. Probably even more so, since the parents live in an area like this and still choose to shell out $50k/yr per kid for the private school experience.

Talk about privilege.

[Anonymous]

Do these posters claiming that all public elementaries are violent and terrible have actual experiences with public?

We have a 2nd grader in a "well-regarded" public school and have never encountered any violent or troubling behavior. We had one teacher we didn't love and that year was tough, but private schools also have a range of teachers and not all of them are the right fit for your child. Overall our experience at the public school has been really great and we like the teachers, administrators, other families and the kids themselves.

I'm sure private schools offer better services in some respects and they may be more responsive to parents since, after all, you are paying them. We'd consider private if we were ever unhappy with the public option, and we're certainly looking seriously at it for MS because I understand there are behavioral issues at our IB MS.

But after 2+ years in public, I can say honestly that it has in fact been a nurturing, positive environment, and we're glad for the school community in the neighborhood, and our kid has lots of wonderful friends. And we've saved thousands of dollars over going the private route, and that's not nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Do these posters claiming that all public elementaries are violent and terrible have actual experiences with public?

We have a 2nd grader in a "well-regarded" public school and have never encountered any violent or troubling behavior. We had one teacher we didn't love and that year was tough, but private schools also have a range of teachers and not all of them are the right fit for your child. Overall our experience at the public school has been really great and we like the teachers, administrators, other families and the kids themselves.

I'm sure private schools offer better services in some respects and they may be more responsive to parents since, after all, you are paying them. We'd consider private if we were ever unhappy with the public option, and we're certainly looking seriously at it for MS because I understand there are behavioral issues at our IB MS.

But after 2+ years in public, I can say honestly that it has in fact been a nurturing, positive environment, and we're glad for the school community in the neighborhood, and our kid has lots of wonderful friends. And we've saved thousands of dollars over going the private route, and that's not nothing.

Yes, I do (with three DC). All 3 attended our local elementary school which was fine- but middle school and above- yikes!! Not good.

OP’s DH may have a valid point about entering private in K, if they plan to eventually go the private school route.

I feel OP is only thinking in the short term, and not considering the long term (which is what her DH is trying to do, as well as some of the other responses).