I am thinking about divorcing a Trump supporter

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be a troll, but it is an appropriate warning for those who are making politics the main thing in their lives, instead of family or spouse or kids or even their job. Get some non political hobbies people.

It’s also a good warning if you think you possess some special truth that others just can’t see, like OP’s husband likely does.

[Anonymous]

Did he always support Trump or is this new, OP?

If he always supported Trump, the issue is that he's gone full conspiracy crazy. Not that he supports Trump. It's important to have a clear problem statement if you want to find a good solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was going to put this in the relationship section, but it is political.

my husband always leaned right. former law enforcement/military. that's fine. I am left of center. we didn't agree on most policies, but it wasn't a big deal.

now - with trump's indictments? he is off the deep end with conspiracy theories (we are not on social media. he gets his info from YouTube). and I really cannot tolerate it.

he wants to move close to his parents who are flag waving trumpers. like if they weren't so old they probably would've participated in J6.

I just can't do it anymore. and I don't want our children around such fear mongering, race hating bigots.

I don't get divorced often, but when I do, I make sure to ask the hivemind of DCUM for their opinion on all things Trump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was going to put this in the relationship section, but it is political.

my husband always leaned right. former law enforcement/military. that's fine. I am left of center. we didn't agree on most policies, but it wasn't a big deal.

now - with trump's indictments? he is off the deep end with conspiracy theories (we are not on social media. he gets his info from YouTube). and I really cannot tolerate it.

he wants to move close to his parents who are flag waving trumpers. like if they weren't so old they probably would've participated in J6.

I just can't do it anymore. and I don't want our children around such fear mongering, race hating bigots.

I don't get divorced often, but when I do, I make sure to ask the hivemind of DCUM for their opinion on all things Trump.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did he always support Trump or is this new, OP?

If he always supported Trump, the issue is that he's gone full conspiracy crazy. Not that he supports Trump. It's important to have a clear problem statement if you want to find a good solution.

At this point, any Trump supporter is full conspiracy delusional. There are no sane or reasonable Trump supporters.

[Anonymous]

I would try to treat it like you have a relative with dementia. Don't engage with or encourage him to spout off his irrational thoughts.

Like, let's say you're at the dinner table and he starts expounding and not letting anyone else get a word in edgewise.

Try something like, let's all tell the positives and negatives of our days. Larla, what happened today that was fun? What was hard?

If he tries to bring it up one on one, say something like, "Honey, you've got a right to your own opinions. Can we not talk about that right now though? It's kind of giving me a headache." Or "It's making me feel really anxious."

That's what I do with my mom. And I agree with her opinions, I just don't always want to hear her give a lecture about her issue of the day at the dinner table.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure you're a troll, but it is an interesting dilemma you are posing so I will respond. Is DH all out MAGA? If so, then you are dealing with a cult member and that's a whole other story.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Did he always support Trump or is this new, OP?

If he always supported Trump, the issue is that he's gone full conspiracy crazy. Not that he supports Trump. It's important to have a clear problem statement if you want to find a good solution.

At this point, any Trump supporter is full conspiracy delusional. There are no sane or reasonable Trump supporters.

If what you're saying is true, think of the wider implications. Roughly 33-50% (because the definition of Trump supporters is shifting with competition in the primary) is insane and unreasonable. Wouldn't that just make being insane a normative condition and not an illness at all? Maybe we can just back off all these SSRIs and such.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was going to put this in the relationship section, but it is political.

my husband always leaned right. former law enforcement/military. that's fine. I am left of center. we didn't agree on most policies, but it wasn't a big deal.

now - with trump's indictments? he is off the deep end with conspiracy theories (we are not on social media. he gets his info from YouTube). and I really cannot tolerate it.

he wants to move close to his parents who are flag waving trumpers. like if they weren't so old they probably would've participated in J6.

I just can't do it anymore. and I don't want our children around such fear mongering, race hating bigots.

I don't get divorced often, but when I do, I make sure to ask the hivemind of DCUM for their opinion on all things Trump.

Double

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Husband should file, get custody and go live closer to his parents. OP doesn’t seem to understand her role.

But he won't, because he's too far down the rabbit hole and you don't have time to take care of kids if you spend all your time on politics and conspiracy.

Which begs the question, how on earth do 98% of DCUM posters take care of their kids or do anything else productive with their lives?
DP

[Anonymous]

I know of four marriages in my circle that ended over trump support (and lots more friendships). And I’d divorce my husband too. It was initially about their values but with increasing cult behavior, it became about their sanity too. I can’t respect anyone who thinks the guy is anything other than a vile human and con man and I sure won’t be married to one. Fortunately my previously life long R husband became an independent when the gop nominated the carnival barker.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Could be a troll, but it is an appropriate warning for those who are making politics the main thing in their lives, instead of family or spouse or kids or even their job. Get some non political hobbies people.

Good luck saying such obvious 101 things in DC.

People will call you a Nazi Hitler and then wonder why their suffer from panaroia and deep anxiety............

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Husband should file, get custody and go live closer to his parents. OP doesn’t seem to understand her role.

But he won't, because he's too far down the rabbit hole and you don't have time to take care of kids if you spend all your time on politics and conspiracy.

Which begs the question, how on earth do 98% of DCUM posters take care of their kids or do anything else productive with their lives?
DP

Most of us aren't foaming at the mouth and moving because of our political beliefs. This is actually a parenting forum. I come here when I have time, but I'm not watching YouTube conspiracy videos all day.

And, yes, we happen to live in DC, but the vast majority of us don't have political jobs, even if we work for the government. There is more to life than politics and hating other people. We also have families, and other things to do.

[Anonymous]

The post doesn't have the quality I was expecting for an obvious troll post, to the point where I am wondering if it is real and the real objection is to moving.

[Anonymous]

My mother was a rabid supporter and watched Fox all day everyday. So sad my time with her during her last two years was spent deflecting and redirecting our conversations away from politics. Her anger towards me for not sharing her views made it even more difficult.