I am thinking about divorcing a Trump supporter

[Anonymous]

I was going to put this in the relationship section, but it is political.

my husband always leaned right. former law enforcement/military. that's fine. I am left of center. we didn't agree on most policies, but it wasn't a big deal.

now - with trump's indictments? he is off the deep end with conspiracy theories (we are not on social media. he gets his info from YouTube). and I really cannot tolerate it.

he wants to move close to his parents who are flag waving trumpers. like if they weren't so old they probably would've participated in J6.

I just can't do it anymore. and I don't want our children around such fear mongering, race hating bigots.

[Anonymous]

This isn't politics.

[Anonymous]

Do it unless you want your children to grow up like him.

I wanted my children to grow up to be compassionate critical thinkers. They are now young adults and I’m proud of them.

There is so much off the wall crazy on YouTube and no way to report it. All I want from YouTube is tutorials on how to fix my sink.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was going to put this in the relationship section, but it is political.

my husband always leaned right. former law enforcement/military. that's fine. I am left of center. we didn't agree on most policies, but it wasn't a big deal.

now - with trump's indictments? he is off the deep end with conspiracy theories (we are not on social media. he gets his info from YouTube). and I really cannot tolerate it.

he wants to move close to his parents who are flag waving trumpers. like if they weren't so old they probably would've participated in J6.

I just can't do it anymore. and I don't want our children around such fear mongering, race hating bigots.

If your spouse is dumb enough to still support any Republican or Democratic politician after what those parties have done to our country in recent decades, you should divorce them. Enough is truly enough.

it's like living in the twilight zone. truly. and I will say - if JB or HB committed crimes, they should be investigated and prosecuted. Can you say the same for Trump or his associates?

just get gaslighted.

it's horrible.

Yes, anyone and everyone should be held to the same standard of law and order before the court. What does this have to do with this person's circumstance of considering divorce due to our awful political situation?

[Anonymous]

ok, then go. I bet you don't though

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't politics.

+1

[Anonymous]

YouTube is social media too. It might be even worse because people will just passively watch/listen for hours on end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was going to put this in the relationship section, but it is political.

my husband always leaned right. former law enforcement/military. that's fine. I am left of center. we didn't agree on most policies, but it wasn't a big deal.

now - with trump's indictments? he is off the deep end with conspiracy theories (we are not on social media. he gets his info from YouTube). and I really cannot tolerate it.

he wants to move close to his parents who are flag waving trumpers. like if they weren't so old they probably would've participated in J6.

I just can't do it anymore. and I don't want our children around such fear mongering, race hating bigots.

If you divorce him, would he get partial custody? If he does, your kids will not only still be around " fear mongering, race hating bigots. ", but you won't be there to intercept those views, either.

This is a tough one.

Does he get angry? Verbally abusive? Document, document, document, and make the case for getting sole custody.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was going to put this in the relationship section, but it is political.

my husband always leaned right. former law enforcement/military. that's fine. I am left of center. we didn't agree on most policies, but it wasn't a big deal.

now - with trump's indictments? he is off the deep end with conspiracy theories (we are not on social media. he gets his info from YouTube). and I really cannot tolerate it.

he wants to move close to his parents who are flag waving trumpers. like if they weren't so old they probably would've participated in J6.

I just can't do it anymore. and I don't want our children around such fear mongering, race hating bigots.

If you divorce him, would he get partial custody? If he does, your kids will not only still be around " fear mongering, race hating bigots. ", but you won't be there to intercept those views, either.

This is a tough one.

Does he get angry? Verbally abusive? Document, document, document, and make the case for getting sole custody.

thanks. that's what I am trying to do (document). it's so disgusting and disturbing. I am physically sick about it.

yes to getting angry. no to violent. but tries to pull the kids in as referees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This isn't politics.

Disagree.

[Anonymous]

OP, can you hang in there a little longer. I do think some of the shine is going to come off and some hardcore Trump supporters will move on (even if they don’t fully repudiate him).

Also I think I read something how families have hired cult de-programmers to help with family members down the Trump conspiracy hellhole. I wonder if you could hire someone to help. They say definitely don’t fight them by giving facts but there are tactics in asking questions.

Do you share a computer? Can you block certain people, watch a few balanced videos to hope his algorithm shows him some other content?

But if this is your new reality, I’m not sure I could stay.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was going to put this in the relationship section, but it is political.

my husband always leaned right. former law enforcement/military. that's fine. I am left of center. we didn't agree on most policies, but it wasn't a big deal.

now - with trump's indictments? he is off the deep end with conspiracy theories (we are not on social media. he gets his info from YouTube). and I really cannot tolerate it.

he wants to move close to his parents who are flag waving trumpers. like if they weren't so old they probably would've participated in J6.

I just can't do it anymore. and I don't want our children around such fear mongering, race hating bigots.

The only solution to that last problem is to divorce him and grant him 100% custody.

That's be brave, and prove how much you care about your kids.

[Anonymous]

I would not move with the kids, he can move by himself if he wants to.

Honestly, if he doesn't wise up in the next few months, I would start preparing for divorce. It's one thing to support a particular political party, but it's unhealthy to make it your whole personality. Not a good example for your kids, and doesn't teach them to be critical thinkers.

I would not move to live near a bunch of extreme right wingers or extreme left wingers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, can you hang in there a little longer. I do think some of the shine is going to come off and some hardcore Trump supporters will move on (even if they don’t fully repudiate him).

Also I think I read something how families have hired cult de-programmers to help with family members down the Trump conspiracy hellhole. I wonder if you could hire someone to help. They say definitely don’t fight them by giving facts but there are tactics in asking questions.

Do you share a computer? Can you block certain people, watch a few balanced videos to hope his algorithm shows him some other content?

But if this is your new reality, I’m not sure I could stay.

It does not get better. My afflicted relative is not my spouse, but it does not get better.

[Anonymous]

Could be a troll, but it is an appropriate warning for those who are making politics the main thing in their lives, instead of family or spouse or kids or even their job. Get some non political hobbies people.