It is so much easier to be a good parent when not working

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:And you haven't had the permanent loss of adult interaction, satisfaction, intellectual interest, maybe prestige that comes from work. And your DH hasn't gotten lazy and started treating you like a maid, secretary, and taskrabbit. Believe me, temporary PTO is nothing like the challenges of long term SAHM.

Why so so many women believe that other women aren't adults? Raising a child doesnt mean being locked in a basement.

You do you, but I isn't as fun as temporary PTO.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

I’m a SAH and I love it, but I have enough resources to still get personal time and the option to go back to work if/when I want.

I don’t talk about how much I like it with other people because it’s a sensitive topic and not an accomplishment. Arguably it suggests I’m low capacity or unambitious, both of which are probably true but I don’t see why I would be out discussing that.

[Anonymous]

Of course. I don’t know I would have felt this way from 0 to 3. I was glad I had the time but also work was a good mix when everything was so new.

Now that they are older I’m trying to figure out when to deploy a big career shift or switch to SAHM. I want to time it right- don’t want to wait until they are too old and most of the new excitement of life/sweetness is gone. But another couple years of work would be good for the family budget.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're not worrying about a paycheck/single income.
You haven't been the default parent 24/7 long enough to feel burnt out.
You're still in the honeymoon phase.

+100000

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is 100% true even if stay at home moms love to pretend it’s not. Because their life is just sooooooo hard.

Only losers engage in contests about having hard lives. Being able to set up your life to be easy and fun is bragworthy.

I know right? I don’t know why so many sahms like to make it out like their lives are so difficult

[Anonymous]

I wpuld want to stay home or be PR now. That both kids are in ES. Get them from school and do activities, do whatever in the summer. 0-5 is a grind. Love my kids but they needed someone with them much more patient than me during those years which they got. I was still there in the am and home by 4:30/5 everyday.

[Anonymous]

Not for me. I’m great on weeknights but shit on weekends. I am definitely not cut out for full time parenting.

[Anonymous]

This is so true. I had a week off work recently and even tho the kids were at school and still needed regular pickup and stuff done - I felt like I was on amazing vaca and had so much me time which was awesome for mental health

[Anonymous]

Absolutely. Maternity leave was the most relaxed period of my entire life since I was a student

[Anonymous]

I have done both and hate staying at home with young kids. When they’re older, maybe.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is so true. I had a week off work recently and even tho the kids were at school and still needed regular pickup and stuff done - I felt like I was on amazing vaca and had so much me time which was awesome for mental health

You don’t have young kids.

[Anonymous]

I was a SAHM for almost 10 years, and then I started working part time. It’s hard to compare apples to apples, because I stayed at home until my youngest was in preschool, but I think part-time gig is the best. Staying home completely for years definitely has a lot of perks and makes some things easier, but I think mental health wise it can really be tough on the parent. It’s hard when you have that feeling of no other purpose except being a mom. I really struggled with that personally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is so true. I had a week off work recently and even tho the kids were at school and still needed regular pickup and stuff done - I felt like I was on amazing vaca and had so much me time which was awesome for mental health

You don’t have young kids.

100%
But this is why I always think it’s such a joke when sahms of school aged kids say they can’t work bc they don’t have time. There’s nothing but time!

[Anonymous]

Well, no matter you are a SAHM or stay at office mom, neither is easy. This debate is stupid.

Its only easy if you've a maid, day and night nannies, a house manager, supportive husband, four involved grandparents and a well paying flexible job.