Boyfriend dumped me and I don’t know why
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Anonymous
I agree this is the likely explanation, I'm sorry. |
Anonymous
OP, these two sentences together are probably your answer and unfortunately they also mean he isn't likely to give you more explanation. He's already prone to be "standoffish" about emotional intimacy. You had all the other components of a good thing in place -- mutual interests, mutual sense of humor, friendship, good sex. But if he was starting to "let you in more," he might have gotten scared off by the fact he was becoming more vulnerable with you. Some people can have all the other components there but once they realize that the other person (in this case, you) is starting to access their emotions, fears, vulnerabiliites, they shut down again. It's fear on their part. They fear letting others, especially the person they love, see their emotions. Some couples get through this with therapy or a lot of work on their own, but since he chose to break things off rather than stay, I'd say to let it go. I'm so sorry. But you may be much better off without him. If you want a relationship with deeper intimacy and openness about emotions, all the great sex and shared interests in the world won't make up for a lack of that type of intimacy. I also wonder about the timing. Did he break up shortly after you met his parents? He may have realized that the whole "She. Met. My. Parents." moment felt like a leap toward commitment and toward integrating you in his past as well as his present and future, and he wasn't ready to go there, even if he seemed happy on the surface about introducing you. After the fact, the meeting might have loomed large for him as feeling like too big a deal--not because of you, OP! But because he's not open to merging his whole life with your relationship. I'd move on. |
Anonymous
DP from above. This is always the knee-jerk response on this forum. Sure, it can be true, absolutely. But people do break up for reasons other than having a side piece. Even breaking up with no explanation does not automatically translate as "he's seeing someone else." Sounds likelier that he is scared off by the increasing emotional intimacy and the introduction to his parents made him see things are getting more serious than he wants at this point. It was immature of him, especially to give OP no explanation and simply to cut things off. |
Anonymous
This is what happened to me when I was in my 20's. He came back to me to try to make up about six months later but I just said I was busy and wished him well. Later I found out he had been seeing someone else for about a month before ghosting me. He's successful now but travels most of the year going on over a decade leaving his wife alone a lot. Friends of friends keep up with them. I'm guessing they have a comfortable life but not intimate one. Who knows if he's faithful or not. I just know I would have never trusted him again. |
Anonymous
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Dodged a bullet for sure!!
Block and move on, this kind of behavior negates everything else and is the biggest red flag of all. |
Anonymous
| Women dump men all the time so I have taken to saying that every time a man dumps a woman, and angel gets his wings. |
Anonymous
This or else his family didn’t approve of you because of your race or religion. |
Anonymous
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Wow.
You dated for a YEAR and he broke up with you via text? You definitely deserve an in person break up. And if you want to push for an in person convo and he does not agree, he's REALLY a dick. My guess is either his parents did not like you (or one of them is weird and doesnt want him getting married) or he met someone else or got back together with an ex. I am very sorry. |
Anonymous
| I've been there. I think he is scared and ran like a little boy. You dodged a bullet and do not let him think he can pull this crap with you again. Turn the corner and don't look back. |
Anonymous
+1 There’s really no excuse to mistreat you like this and not offer some sort of reasoning. Not to discuss and argue about it (nor should you!), but anything. Even if it’s a lie is better than a text with no explanation. |
Anonymous
And he doesn’t have the balls to say he met someone else. Wants to leave Op on the back burner or “nice mysterious guy” persona. |
Anonymous
| Agree with PPs you dodged a bullet. Only a coward would break up by text. Block him and move on. Please. |
Anonymous
If you aren't aware that this is just casual misogyny and likely why you are alone or unfulfilled in your relationship, let this be the wakeup call. |
Anonymous
| His ex came back into the picture and wants to try again. |
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What's happening on his socials?
What do you see when you go around his place? Have you asked his friends? Call the police for a welfare check? |