Do you think cotillion is racist?

[Anonymous]

Yes.

It is the hallmark of unearned white privilege.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Classist, misogynist, and not inclusive of anyone in the LGBTQ community. Parents should be ashamed for sending their kids.

Troll

Try to refute any of the statements above.

[Anonymous]

The only people I ever knew who sent their kids to Cotillion were Black.

[Anonymous]

I went to a small town cotillion. It’s not always a debutante ball. We just went to a dance every month. We wore a nice day dress, listened to a manners lesson, took a dance lesson, then danced with the other middle schoolers. No different than any other after school activity.

In the partner dance world, it’s very common for members of the lgbtq community to learn to both lead and follow. In dances, I’d occasionally dance with someone of the same gender. The teachers referred to leaders and followers for this reason. It was nbd.

[Anonymous]

I was, perhaps naively, surprised when I sent my kid to cotillion and she was one of three non-white kids there. I don't know that the activity itself is racist, but it's very white.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was, perhaps naively, surprised when I sent my kid to cotillion and she was one of three non-white kids there. I don't know that the activity itself is racist, but it's very white.

Adding, I sent her because I met a family where all the kids had beautiful manners and their mother chalked it up to cotillion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes.

It is the hallmark of unearned white privilege.

what a strange comment. what then is "earned white privilege" exactly?

[Anonymous]

Interesting. OP here. I sent my kids. My oldest actually really enjoyed it. My youngest is doing it a little begrudgingly.

I really just sent them to learn how to handle themselves publicly and not stress when they sit down to a place setting with multiple spoons and forks. (That’s one example of why.) I felt like such an idiot the first time I had to attend formal dinners. Or having to greet adults.

I never had exposure to those things growing up but now I do.

But I was also listening to a podcast tonight coincidentally about how etiquette classes are racist. So thought I’d ask the community their opinion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Classist, misogynist, and not inclusive of anyone in the LGBTQ community. Parents should be ashamed for sending their kids.

So you want Wellesley College cancelled too!?

HAHHAHAHAHA...you have never once been to Wellesley College.....HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Classist, misogynist, and not inclusive of anyone in the LGBTQ community. Parents should be ashamed for sending their kids.

So you want Wellesley College cancelled too!?

HAHHAHAHAHA...you have never once been to Wellesley College.....HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

How can an all woman college be permitted? Seriously?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Classist, misogynist, and not inclusive of anyone in the LGBTQ community. Parents should be ashamed for sending their kids.

So you want Wellesley College cancelled too!?

HAHHAHAHAHA...you have never once been to Wellesley College.....HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

How can an all woman college be permitted? Seriously?

Same reason that HBCUs exist:
Because they (women, black people) were originally banned from all the elite colleges by white men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Classist, misogynist, and not inclusive of anyone in the LGBTQ community. Parents should be ashamed for sending their kids.

So you want Wellesley College cancelled too!?

HAHHAHAHAHA...you have never once been to Wellesley College.....HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

How can an all woman college be permitted? Seriously?

Same reason that HBCUs exist:
Because they (women, black people) were originally banned from all the elite colleges by white men.

Sorry but in 2023; they have no place and must allow men to attend.

[Anonymous]

If you must have a chip on your shoulders, sure, I guess. Just like anything can be twisted to be racist or classist or whatever. If you want to ban cotillons, you might as well get rid of Jack and Jill. The black communities have their own forms of classism and racism too.

If you're normal, it's just something some people like to do. Let and live.

[Anonymous]

I had never heard of the practice before moving to NOVA. My DD wasn't interested, so it never came up. I have no idea if it's racist, but judging from the photos I saw on FB of kids at my DD's school who attended, it looked white and UMC.

[Anonymous]

Cotillion is southern, and anything southern is RaCiSt.

/s