Would you stay in a marriage with separate finances?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP again, to clarify he basically said he will pay all expenses and I can save my paycheck. However, I will have no claim to his or to our house that he bought before marriage.

Are you on the title for your shared house? Do you have a pre-nup specifying what happens to assets acquired before marriage? He seems to think he's so smart for pulling a fast one on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP again, to clarify he basically said he will pay all expenses and I can save my paycheck. However, I will have no claim to his or to our house that he bought before marriage.

Are you on the title for your shared house? Do you have a pre-nup specifying what happens to assets acquired before marriage? He seems to think he's so smart for pulling a fast one on you.

I’m not on the title or mortgage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Absolutely not except if he has good reason to be concerned with your spending. That's not a marriage. That's not a marriage.

My spending isn’t crazy although I’ve incurred some late penalties on taxes before. I do have goals that I’d need his income to achieve in terms of house, college funds, private school, vacations (I work FT and make about 25% of HHI). He is not into funding my dreams.

Not into finding your dreams? Or that of your child’s apparently. Sounds like a selfish jerk. Isn’t that part of marriage? Supporting each other?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You are better off divorcing and getting childsupport and alimony.

I am so, so, so sorry that you had a kid with this POS.

Why do call him this without knowing all the facts?

God you are stupid.

[Anonymous]

I would be wondering why he wants this all of a sudden. Is he preparing for an actual divorce? Trying to hide assets? Could he be having an affair? I would get a PI.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would be wondering why he wants this all of a sudden. Is he preparing for an actual divorce? Trying to hide assets? Could he be having an affair? I would get a PI.

I think it is just a control thing for him.

[Anonymous]

Why is he bringing this up now? Do you suspect an affair?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is he bringing this up now? Do you suspect an affair?

No I do not. I think he just wants more control.

[Anonymous]

We've always had separate finances so the process alone won't put me off. What I find offputting about your situation is that it used to be joint and now he wants to separate financially.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We've always had separate finances so the process alone won't put me off. What I find offputting about your situation is that it used to be joint and now he wants to separate financially.

He makes a lot more money now than he used to.

[Anonymous]

What's in it for you? No.

[Anonymous]

Do you have bad money spending habit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What's in it for you? No.

He seems to think that not having any living expenses and confusing to have a relationship with him
And whatever he chooses to provide is desirable.

[Anonymous]

^”continuing” not confusing. Although it is also confusing!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m in a marriage with “separate” finances, but we share all expenses and have logins for each other’s accounts. It’s mostly laziness.

This is not that.