Student loan forgiveness has made me even more distant from my father

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, you and your dad don't have the same values. His are harmful to your family -- not just the loan thing but your spouse and many other issues his candidate supports. And it sounds like this mismatch in values pre-dates Trump (you mention him not helping you earlier in life, which is his right but is not in accord with your values).

It's okay to keep your distance. Being related to somebody doesn't mean you need to like them, respect them, or spend time with them.

If OP was Pell eligible, her dad didn’t have a lot of money laying around. She’s mad he didn’t pay for a car or her education…which Pell families typically can’t afford. She should be grateful some of her education was through a grant and doesn’t all need to be repaid. She sounds entitled and spoiled. I’m a Democrat, and I can’t stand this whining. Not everyone is going to like every damn program that benefits another family member. Maybe it’s not about you, OP, but about the fact that your dad feels financially pinched (which his history suggests). Since he hasn’t ponied up to your expectations, by all means, keep your distance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son has a great deal of student loan debt (medical school) and I am against the $10,000 forgiveness plan. I don’t think it is up to the American taxpayers to pay his debts. Debt reduction also doesn’t solve the problem. College tuition has increased exponentially greater than inflation. The schools are still making their money.

This thread is not about you, do you often make everything about you?

[Anonymous]

How is it fair that college-educated people are being subsidized by taxpayers who never went to college, chose a less expensive college, or who have already paid off their loans?

[Anonymous]

Your hate for Trump supersedes your love for your father. So what if he's a Trump supporter. It bothers you that much ?
Real love accepts differences. Isn't that what liberals scream about daily ?
Your post says more about you than him and his wife.
Maybe you need to distance your pity puss self away from them. Then everything can be about you.
Good Luck.
Just for giggles, I love Trump and want everyone's student loan debt or any debt gone.
We all deserve to be free of that illegal thievery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, you and your dad don't have the same values. His are harmful to your family -- not just the loan thing but your spouse and many other issues his candidate supports. And it sounds like this mismatch in values pre-dates Trump (you mention him not helping you earlier in life, which is his right but is not in accord with your values).

It's okay to keep your distance. Being related to somebody doesn't mean you need to like them, respect them, or spend time with them.

If OP was Pell eligible, her dad didn’t have a lot of money laying around. She’s mad he didn’t pay for a car or her education…which Pell families typically can’t afford. She should be grateful some of her education was through a grant and doesn’t all need to be repaid. She sounds entitled and spoiled. I’m a Democrat, and I can’t stand this whining. Not everyone is going to like every damn program that benefits another family member. Maybe it’s not about you, OP, but about the fact that your dad feels financially pinched (which his history suggests). Since he hasn’t ponied up to your expectations, by all means, keep your distance.

Op here. You would have a point if my Dad didn't blow money on drugs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your dad sucks. You wish you had a 1/2 decent dad. You don’t.

It was true before trump, it’s true now.

Just don’t see or talk to him unless absolutely necessary.

The problem is your boundaries.

Op here. I have good boundaries. I see him about once a year and only if he visits us out of state. He's still actively doing drugs, and I don't support that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your dad sucks. You wish you had a 1/2 decent dad. You don’t.

It was true before trump, it’s true now.

Just don’t see or talk to him unless absolutely necessary.

The problem is your boundaries.

Op here. I have good boundaries. I see him about once a year and only if he visits us out of state. He's still actively doing drugs, and I don't support that.

Good job! F him,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your dad sucks. You wish you had a 1/2 decent dad. You don’t.

It was true before trump, it’s true now.

Just don’t see or talk to him unless absolutely necessary.

The problem is your boundaries.

Op here. I have good boundaries. I see him about once a year and only if he visits us out of state. He's still actively doing drugs, and I don't support that.

Good job! F him,

+1 Kudos to you OP for standing your ground, and most importantly creating a life of value. Use your SL forgiveness proudly and make it matter to the world.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your dad sucks. You wish you had a 1/2 decent dad. You don’t.

It was true before trump, it’s true now.

Just don’t see or talk to him unless absolutely necessary.

The problem is your boundaries.

Op here. I have good boundaries. I see him about once a year and only if he visits us out of state. He's still actively doing drugs, and I don't support that.

Good job! F him,

+1 Kudos to you OP for standing your ground, and most importantly creating a life of value. Use your SL forgiveness proudly and make it matter to the world.

I'm not sure it's going to come through. I am actually in my last semester right now, studying social work. I took a break from college after two years and accumulated about 20k in debt. That was back in 2008, and I went to a state college. Biden initially said the 10k would help folks who didn't finish college, and most have about 10k in debt. Ironically, I am graduating this semester, and loan forgiveness may come through for something I started 14 years ago! I stopped college after two years because I couldn't work full time and go to college full time.

[Anonymous]

Student loan forgiveness isn’t the issue that I’d write anyone off over. So many politicians and those that follow actively try to tear apart gay families with kids. That’s a hill to die on. But when it comes to money, both sides of the aisle support policies that affect the pocketbook of others negatively. That’s just money.

[Anonymous]

Two things here:

1. You can believe in general principles even though they have immediate negative impact on yourself or your children, such as paying more taxes so that the government can pay for more services, like universal healthcare, affordable life-saving medications, bringing down the national debt. It's a virtue to look past your immediate self-interest to the greater good. So yes, I would, and I have, voted against my own interests and that of my family.

2. I agree that Trump supporters have something deeply wrong with them. I am fine with conservative beliefs, but Trump is a very disturbed and dangerous individual and should not be supported by anyone with half a brain.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How is it fair that college-educated people are being subsidized by taxpayers who never went to college, chose a less expensive college, or who have already paid off their loans?

+10

[Anonymous]

So wait you’re saying if Trump had a policy that would improve your finances, say, a subsidy with your specific profession, you would vote for Trump, and to not do so would be a betrayal of your kid’s interest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son has a great deal of student loan debt (medical school) and I am against the $10,000 forgiveness plan. I don’t think it is up to the American taxpayers to pay his debts. Debt reduction also doesn’t solve the problem. College tuition has increased exponentially greater than inflation. The schools are still making their money.

Your son will easy pay off his loans once he finishes training so kindly sit down.

[Anonymous]

What's with 'dad this' and 'dad that'? Do you live in the same house? Who cares what he thinks. You have a husband and kids. Time to let the old generation go.