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Anonymous wrote:Don’t do that, just buy your own. Talk about oblivious.

See, I KNEW someone would say this. But I don’t see the point of buying food I don’t want. I just want to eat my food at the same time she’s eating hers, instead of 20 minutes later.

DP. I don’t understand this at all, how does when she’s eating affect you?

Sigh. Because they’re all sitting there hungry, watching one rude person eat. If she wasn’t clueless, she’d have noticed this the first time they went out and either stopped ordering appetizers or asked for it to come with everyone’s meals.

Then OP needs to eat a snack so she’s not hangry enough to insult a friend over something stupid like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:YTA

Can’t be the A if they haven’t said anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t do that, just buy your own. Talk about oblivious.

See, I KNEW someone would say this. But I don’t see the point of buying food I don’t want. I just want to eat my food at the same time she’s eating hers, instead of 20 minutes later.

DP. I don’t understand this at all, how does when she’s eating affect you?

Sigh. Because they’re all sitting there hungry, watching one rude person eat. If she wasn’t clueless, she’d have noticed this the first time they went out and either stopped ordering appetizers or asked for it to come with everyone’s meals.

Then OP needs to eat a snack so she’s not hangry enough to insult a friend over something stupid like this.

How is it an insult?

[Anonymous]

I wish the hell someone would tell me (or even jokingly imply) not to order an appetizer or to ask for it to come out with the entrees. You're not a toddler, you can certainly wait for 5 to 10 minutes for your meal to come out. If you just can't wait then ask for your entree to come out with her appetizer. If you say anything you will come off as rude and petty.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:YTA

Can’t be the A if they haven’t said anything.

She’s the A hole just for thinking about saying something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We go out to dinner quite frequently with another couple. Generally my husband, the other husband, and I just get an entree, but the other wife often gets an appetizer. When asked if she’d like it to come out first or with the rest of the food, she always requests that it come out first. This leads to the rest of us sitting around watching her eat as we wait for our dinner. I think this is fairly oblivious behavior and I’m a little over it. I think between friends I can say nicely, “Frances, do you mind if your app comes with the rest of the food? I’m pretty hungry!” My husband thinks this is rude and I shouldn’t say anything. I think if stated cheerfully it’s a perfectly polite request and will gently nudge her to realize that maybe making everyone else wait for their food isn’t the most thoughtful behavior. What do you think?

How is she making you wait for your food?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:We go out to dinner quite frequently with another couple. Generally my husband, the other husband, and I just get an entree, but the other wife often gets an appetizer. When asked if she’d like it to come out first or with the rest of the food, she always requests that it come out first. This leads to the rest of us sitting around watching her eat as we wait for our dinner. I think this is fairly oblivious behavior and I’m a little over it. I think between friends I can say nicely, “Frances, do you mind if your app comes with the rest of the food? I’m pretty hungry!” My husband thinks this is rude and I shouldn’t say anything. I think if stated cheerfully it’s a perfectly polite request and will gently nudge her to realize that maybe making everyone else wait for their food isn’t the most thoughtful behavior. What do you think?

How is she making you wait for your food?

Ordering an appetizer obviously delays the preparation of the entrees.

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

Ask for your entree to come out during her apps

[Anonymous]

Ask for some bread

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We go out to dinner quite frequently with another couple. Generally my husband, the other husband, and I just get an entree, but the other wife often gets an appetizer. When asked if she’d like it to come out first or with the rest of the food, she always requests that it come out first. This leads to the rest of us sitting around watching her eat as we wait for our dinner. I think this is fairly oblivious behavior and I’m a little over it. I think between friends I can say nicely, “Frances, do you mind if your app comes with the rest of the food? I’m pretty hungry!” My husband thinks this is rude and I shouldn’t say anything. I think if stated cheerfully it’s a perfectly polite request and will gently nudge her to realize that maybe making everyone else wait for their food isn’t the most thoughtful behavior. What do you think?

How is she making you wait for your food?

Ordering an appetizer obviously delays the preparation of the entrees.

If OP wants her food to come out together with her friends' app then she should say "can you bring my entree out at the same time as Becky's appetizer". That's her own fault for not speaking up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask for your entree to come out during her apps

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask for your entree to come out during her apps

Is that a thing?

[Anonymous]

Eat a mint and drink some water. Go to the restroom. Go outside. Make a phone call. Literally anything would be better than telling your “friend” not to eat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We go out to dinner quite frequently with another couple. Generally my husband, the other husband, and I just get an entree, but the other wife often gets an appetizer. When asked if she’d like it to come out first or with the rest of the food, she always requests that it come out first. This leads to the rest of us sitting around watching her eat as we wait for our dinner. I think this is fairly oblivious behavior and I’m a little over it. I think between friends I can say nicely, “Frances, do you mind if your app comes with the rest of the food? I’m pretty hungry!” My husband thinks this is rude and I shouldn’t say anything. I think if stated cheerfully it’s a perfectly polite request and will gently nudge her to realize that maybe making everyone else wait for their food isn’t the most thoughtful behavior. What do you think?

How is she making you wait for your food?

Ordering an appetizer obviously delays the preparation of the entrees.

If OP wants her food to come out together with her friends' app then she should say "can you bring my entree out at the same time as Becky's appetizer". That's her own fault for not speaking up.

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