I didn't grow up with my birth family because of the Baptists

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old are you, OP? My understanding is that while they still preach abstinence, most of these churches are not giving up babies anymore. They hate the sin, forgive the sinner, so that they can be assured that the child will be raised in the church (and not aborted). There are tons of kids with single parents in those communities now. So I don’t think your denouncing them will have the effect you desire—they will agree it was wrong for girls to give babies up and wish you were still in the fold.

I am in my 50s. I want revenge, I just have to figure out the right way to exact it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you, OP? My understanding is that while they still preach abstinence, most of these churches are not giving up babies anymore. They hate the sin, forgive the sinner, so that they can be assured that the child will be raised in the church (and not aborted). There are tons of kids with single parents in those communities now. So I don’t think your denouncing them will have the effect you desire—they will agree it was wrong for girls to give babies up and wish you were still in the fold.

I am in my 50s. I want revenge, I just have to figure out the right way to exact it.

What if you go down there, make a big scene in the church and no one cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you, OP? My understanding is that while they still preach abstinence, most of these churches are not giving up babies anymore. They hate the sin, forgive the sinner, so that they can be assured that the child will be raised in the church (and not aborted). There are tons of kids with single parents in those communities now. So I don’t think your denouncing them will have the effect you desire—they will agree it was wrong for girls to give babies up and wish you were still in the fold.

I am in my 50s. I want revenge, I just have to figure out the right way to exact it.

What if you go down there, make a big scene in the church and no one cares?

If you are in your 50s the adults who your mother didn't want to know she was pregnant with you may no longer be alive. Your mother did what she thought was best. Please try to find a way to get closure in a peaceful way. God loves you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you, OP? My understanding is that while they still preach abstinence, most of these churches are not giving up babies anymore. They hate the sin, forgive the sinner, so that they can be assured that the child will be raised in the church (and not aborted). There are tons of kids with single parents in those communities now. So I don’t think your denouncing them will have the effect you desire—they will agree it was wrong for girls to give babies up and wish you were still in the fold.

I am in my 50s. I want revenge, I just have to figure out the right way to exact it.

What if you go down there, make a big scene in the church and no one cares?

That is possible. That is why I need to think about it.

Also, my family is quite well known in the small town they have been there a long time.

And I am a big secret
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[Anonymous]

The other side of the coin is, the same faith that made your mom give you up for adoption is the faith that stopped her from aborting you. You have to take the positive with the negative, OP.

So. Is your birth mom still there? Are you seriously considering going and outing your birth mom?

[Anonymous]

Op you sound insane. Why don't you at least meet your birth mom in person first and listen to her story?

[Anonymous]

OP your anger is astounding. How do you know your birth mother’s story? You hate her family so much yet you feel deprived that weren’t part of this family?
Do you see how illogical that is?
And I’m speaking as the daughter of an adopted woman.

[Anonymous]

Why not channel all your energy into writing your story, getting it out there and sharing it with the world? The hypocrisy of the Baptist cult and its effect on innocent children.

I would read it.

[Anonymous]

OP not the same circumstances but I am also someone who was done harm because of the Baptist church.

For years, I wanted to find some way to expose them or damage them or make them wake up and see the harm they do.

But after a lot of therapy I have come to accept that this is not an institution interested in changing and not one that lives in fear of being damaged or exposed in some way. They will always have enough followers and enough money to shrug it off and blame “the enemy” (Satan).

For me the healing came when I was able to find distance, to not let them impact my life anymore. I think they are deeply dangerous, but I no longer give them the energy of my anger.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP not the same circumstances but I am also someone who was done harm because of the Baptist church.

For years, I wanted to find some way to expose them or damage them or make them wake up and see the harm they do.

But after a lot of therapy I have come to accept that this is not an institution interested in changing and not one that lives in fear of being damaged or exposed in some way. They will always have enough followers and enough money to shrug it off and blame “the enemy” (Satan).

For me the healing came when I was able to find distance, to not let them impact my life anymore. I think they are deeply dangerous, but I no longer give them the energy of my anger.

sounds like pretty good advice. First stop: Therapy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other side of the coin is, the same faith that made your mom give you up for adoption is the faith that stopped her from aborting you. You have to take the positive with the negative, OP.

So. Is your birth mom still there? Are you seriously considering going and outing your birth mom?

Was abortion even an option?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are you, OP? My understanding is that while they still preach abstinence, most of these churches are not giving up babies anymore. They hate the sin, forgive the sinner, so that they can be assured that the child will be raised in the church (and not aborted). There are tons of kids with single parents in those communities now. So I don’t think your denouncing them will have the effect you desire—they will agree it was wrong for girls to give babies up and wish you were still in the fold.

I am in my 50s. I want revenge, I just have to figure out the right way to exact it.

You write like someone in their early 20's. It sounds like you have arrested development. I strongly suggest you seek therapy to run this by a licensed therapist and get their opinion and assistance sorting out the details of your plan. Let's say you're 15, and your mom was 15 when she had you. She's 65 now. Let's say her parents were 20 when they had her - that makes them 85 now. If they're alive. You are going to go "confront" a senior citizen? And you think that will revolutionize the entire Baptist community? It won't. I'm sorry your life didn't turn out well but at some point, it's up to YOU what your life is.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The other side of the coin is, the same faith that made your mom give you up for adoption is the faith that stopped her from aborting you. You have to take the positive with the negative, OP.

So. Is your birth mom still there? Are you seriously considering going and outing your birth mom?

What is positive about this? I would much rather not have been born that be born into a family that didn't want me. What is wrong with you?

[Anonymous]

Didn't they do you a favor though, OP? The alternative would have been to grow up in that family of "moral" people.

[Anonymous]

It was your mom’s decision. She could have chosen to be disowned. And you don’t know how your life would have turned out if she had not placed you for adoption. My mom was catholic and chose to keep her baby, but who knows, maybe I would have been better off adopted. Your mom did what she thought was best at the time, as did mine. No one can know the future when making these decisions. I’m sorry it didn’t turn out better for you.