Fed up with isolation and newborn

[Anonymous]

Omg all these people are mean. It’s so isolating to have a newborn already, and now this! You do need to stay isolated, but do some FT dates and outdoor walls with friends. It’s hard!

[Anonymous]

Newborn life is so rough op, especially in the winter even without a pandemic you still weren’t really bringing baby to stores. Don’t throw caution to the wind because like others said if your newborn gets a fever they are automatically hospitalized with spinal tap. They just don’t mess around with newborns and take all precautions. And as a NICU mom (full term baby but with breathing problems) believe me, the newborn period can get even worse when you add in that stuff. That being said - DO find a happy medium to take care of yourself. Walks every day, can you walk to a coffee shop? Go in quickly with baby in wrap close to you, order and walk out when it warms up in a week or two find some places to eat outside with your husband. And do you have family willing to be careful so they can still see you? And see some friends outside (baby in wrap against you will be plenty warm). So sorry op. If it’s any consolation my first was a pre-pandemic baby (second was pandemic) and I felt the exact same way - this is motherhood?? It wasn’t what I imagined at all. But it gets SO much more fun and more like you imagine soon.

And yes definitely even worse without being able to go in person to support groups. But there were pre-pandemic things that were worse too (like husbands going back to work with terrible long traffic commutes at two weeks etc.) so with my second baby I had in the pandemic it helped to try to remember the things that truly were better because of the isolation.

[Anonymous]

Pp here and just want to say I re-read my post and didn’t mean for it to sound like “it was hard pre-pandemic too! Wah wah” what you are experiencing is SO hard because the newborn period is already incredibly isolating, what I meant more is that what you are experiencing is a very very normal feeling, pandemic or not. And it doesn’t help, it does get better. Hang in there. I hate the newborn period if I’m being honest

[Anonymous]

OP, just writing to say hang in there. I had a baby in June 2020 and the uncertainties around the virus made the newborn period even more stressful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp here and just want to say I re-read my post and didn’t mean for it to sound like “it was hard pre-pandemic too! Wah wah” what you are experiencing is SO hard because the newborn period is already incredibly isolating, what I meant more is that what you are experiencing is a very very normal feeling, pandemic or not. And it doesn’t help, it does get better. Hang in there. I hate the newborn period if I’m being honest

Yes, isolating prepandemic too, especially for winter babies. It's just a really hard time for many moms, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp here and just want to say I re-read my post and didn’t mean for it to sound like “it was hard pre-pandemic too! Wah wah” what you are experiencing is SO hard because the newborn period is already incredibly isolating, what I meant more is that what you are experiencing is a very very normal feeling, pandemic or not. And it doesn’t help, it does get better. Hang in there. I hate the newborn period if I’m being honest

Agree, my winter with a newborn in 2018-2019 was horrible and rough. I planned my second baby for a spring birth - but seriously, hang in there. You can definitely use rapid tests and arrange some visits or strategic outings. Or visitors. See if you can find a lunch place with heat lamps on a warmer day. It’s tough but even a couple outings can help a lot. Also, try leaving the baby with someone and seeing a friend or something. There are low risk activities you can do.

[Anonymous]

Yeah this is having a baby during a pandemic, albeit better than those of us 2020ers who had no choice, because nothing was open (now pregnant again and even with omicron it’s a much more freeing time). Give yourself til 8 weeks. That’s the general newborn-isolation guidance anyway. Then go do whatever you need to do.

[Anonymous]

Get out and walk every day.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Losing my sanity isolating with my husband and newborn to avoid omicron. Anyone just said forget it and started going about your life like normal with the newborn (stores, restaurants, friends, family)? We are vaxxed but obviously baby is not. Scared to throw caution to the wind (having even a mild case of covid sounds miserable while caring for a newborn not to mention unknown risks to baby), but this is nothing like what I thought new motherhood would be like. Even the mom groups are all virtual!

I had a pandemic baby back in August 2020, and it really sucked. I feel for you, OP. But this current wave is so much worse in terms of transmissibility. You definitely should not just say screw it and go back to normal life. Hell, pre-pandemic doctors would warn against taking your newborn out too much during flu season. Stick it out until this wave dies down or until it gets warmer (or both) then go nuts with outdoor activities.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Losing my sanity isolating with my husband and newborn to avoid omicron. Anyone just said forget it and started going about your life like normal with the newborn (stores, restaurants, friends, family)? We are vaxxed but obviously baby is not. Scared to throw caution to the wind (having even a mild case of covid sounds miserable while caring for a newborn not to mention unknown risks to baby), but this is nothing like what I thought new motherhood would be like. Even the mom groups are all virtual!

You thought new motherhood would be different in a pandemic with a baby born in the winter? Not to mention two recent snowstorms?

What an ugly thing to do, crapping on a new mom so you can get your superiority fix in. Go isolate under your troll bridge.

OP, you need some real social connection and don’t feel bad about it. We just saw our family with the baby and it was wonderful. We took several tests throughout the week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You don’t get to be “fed up”, OP, you’re a mother now. We’re in the middle of a huge peak of a new covid variant. The cases are multiplying rapidly and this time children are being hospitalized. You can hold off for another couple weeks.

I had a baby last Jan. You sound ridiculous, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Losing my sanity isolating with my husband and newborn to avoid omicron. Anyone just said forget it and started going about your life like normal with the newborn (stores, restaurants, friends, family)? We are vaxxed but obviously baby is not. Scared to throw caution to the wind (having even a mild case of covid sounds miserable while caring for a newborn not to mention unknown risks to baby), but this is nothing like what I thought new motherhood would be like. Even the mom groups are all virtual!

You thought new motherhood would be different in a pandemic with a baby born in the winter? Not to mention two recent snowstorms?

What an ugly thing to do, crapping on a new mom so you can get your superiority fix in. Go isolate under your troll bridge.

OP, you need some real social connection and don’t feel bad about it. We just saw our family with the baby and it was wonderful. We took several tests throughout the week.

Not PP but come on! Getting pregnant during the only pandemic of our lifetimes with over 800,000 Americans dying and people wearing masks everywhere is kinda a tip off that this isn’t going to he a typical post pregnancy.

[Anonymous]

Seriously? Come on now OP you had a baby during a pandemic. What did you expect?

[Anonymous]

It sucks OP, and so do some of these responses. Go for walks without the baby if at all possible. Do the virtual mom's group(s). This can't last forever...... right??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sucks OP, and so do some of these responses. Go for walks without the baby if at all possible. Do the virtual mom's group(s). This can't last forever...... right??

For next 2-3 years...certainly.