Fed up with isolation and newborn

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Anonymous wrote:Let’s remember that we’re talking about a NEWBORN here. It wasn’t like any reputable pediatrician thought it was wise to take a newborn into crowded indoor places in the dead of winter before covid!

Further, we are in a viral surge right now. If there was a vicious cold going around, the recommendation for a newborn would be to keep them away from people.

I'm very unconcerned about COVID but begrudgingly agree with you here (however, walking outside = not a risk so you can still do that! even with a friend, esp if masked!). I had my baby (now toddler) right before the pandemic and ped said no big groups or restaurants or flights in first 2 months, before first vaccines. It was during flu season

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Come on now OP you had a baby during a pandemic. What did you expect?

Get over yourself pp. When op conceived the baby (presumably last spring) vaccines had been rolled out, most were optimistic and she probably expected, as most people did and public officials kept touting, that we would be in a very different place right now.

I can't believe people are not having kids over a virus with 99.6% survival rate. That is totally insane. How do these people drive on a highway without having a panic attack?

I'm not saying that at all - what I'm saying is that if you are having a baby - what did you expect? We knew vaccines weren't rolling out. We knew that a newborn should not be exposed even of the situation was "better." I think the OP needs to stop having some kind of revisionist history in her mind. This is exactly the reality that she signed up for. I say this as someone that had a baby in May 2020. I didn't sign up for a COVID baby. But we dealt with it and put our health first.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Come on now OP you had a baby during a pandemic. What did you expect?

Get over yourself pp. When op conceived the baby (presumably last spring) vaccines had been rolled out, most were optimistic and she probably expected, as most people did and public officials kept touting, that we would be in a very different place right now.

I can't believe people are not having kids over a virus with 99.6% survival rate. That is totally insane. How do these people drive on a highway without having a panic attack?

I'm not saying that at all - what I'm saying is that if you are having a baby - what did you expect? We knew vaccines weren't rolling out. We knew that a newborn should not be exposed even of the situation was "better." I think the OP needs to stop having some kind of revisionist history in her mind. This is exactly the reality that she signed up for. I say this as someone that had a baby in May 2020. I didn't sign up for a COVID baby. But we dealt with it and put our health first.

NP but how is any first time mom supposed to know “what to expect”? You can’t until you’ve really experienced it. My son was born pre-covid and I was stunned by how isolated I felt. I didn’t know until I was in the throes of it. I’m sorry OP is going through this. New motherhood can be really hard. Try to go for lots of walks and remember, the season will change soon. It’s hard to internalize when you’re in the thick of it but the worst part is really a short phase of your life in the grand scheme of things.

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Another family in our preschool had a newborn who caught a respiratory virus (not-Covid) and the baby had to be intubated. The hospital gave the baby drugs so it would be paralyzed from the neck down so they could intubate and the baby was on a ventilator and in the hospital for over a month. When it went home, it cried all night long because it had withdrawal from the morphine it was on to alleviate the pain from the intubation. The family also had to withdraw from daycare because their pediatrician said their newborn would not make it if she caught another virus that winter.

Please just hang in there. It's a hard time but it will go by fast with Netflix and Amazon Prime.

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Anonymous wrote:Seriously? Come on now OP you had a baby during a pandemic. What did you expect?

Get over yourself pp. When op conceived the baby (presumably last spring) vaccines had been rolled out, most were optimistic and she probably expected, as most people did and public officials kept touting, that we would be in a very different place right now.

I can't believe people are not having kids over a virus with 99.6% survival rate. That is totally insane. How do these people drive on a highway without having a panic attack?

I'm not saying that at all - what I'm saying is that if you are having a baby - what did you expect? We knew vaccines weren't rolling out. We knew that a newborn should not be exposed even of the situation was "better." I think the OP needs to stop having some kind of revisionist history in her mind. This is exactly the reality that she signed up for. I say this as someone that had a baby in May 2020. I didn't sign up for a COVID baby. But we dealt with it and put our health first.

It’s pretty close to what you are saying. It was only OK to have a baby this year in your book unless you vowed not to leave your house and see no one. Because otherwise you are definitely getting covid. And no complaining ever because that means you aren’t cut out to be a parent.

OP, the sanctimommy competition can be bad in any year and unfortunately with covid, it’s much, much worse.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who would go to the trouble of making a rude comment on this thread is not someone I would take seriously…

Posters aren’t being rude, PP, they are telling OP the truth. This is not the time to get “fed up” and “throw caution to the wind” with a baby. OP and you both need to take them seriously. You can’t poor-momma when she’s talking about exposing her newborn baby to covid because it’s not what she thought it would be like. Baby has to come first.

Lol. Laughing at the fact that you’re trying to pass as if the omicron variant warrants a new behavior for you. No, you have been commenting the same thing since March 2020 and will be commenting the same thing in March 2024. You COVID loons have lost all sense of reality and empathy because you haven’t had human connection in 2 years.

Look up Covid+RSV or Covid+croup and get back to us

They named the child Navy. Yeesh

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who would go to the trouble of making a rude comment on this thread is not someone I would take seriously…

Posters aren’t being rude, PP, they are telling OP the truth. This is not the time to get “fed up” and “throw caution to the wind” with a baby. OP and you both need to take them seriously. You can’t poor-momma when she’s talking about exposing her newborn baby to covid because it’s not what she thought it would be like. Baby has to come first.

Maybe she feels better complaining and getting a little commiseration and instead she's getting finger wagging.

OP is contemplating, in her words, “throw caution to the wind” and it is scary.

You know what scares me? It's not the couple dozen newborns in the NICU with covid nationwide, it is the 20% increase in childhood obesity in one year of the pandemic, the mental health dumpster fire and the two years of lost academics that the most vulnerable will never recover, all from over-reacting to a virus with 99.6% survival. And the fact that we seem to keep doubling and tripling down.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who would go to the trouble of making a rude comment on this thread is not someone I would take seriously…

Posters aren’t being rude, PP, they are telling OP the truth. This is not the time to get “fed up” and “throw caution to the wind” with a baby. OP and you both need to take them seriously. You can’t poor-momma when she’s talking about exposing her newborn baby to covid because it’s not what she thought it would be like. Baby has to come first.

Maybe she feels better complaining and getting a little commiseration and instead she's getting finger wagging.

OP is contemplating, in her words, “throw caution to the wind” and it is scary.

You know what scares me? It's not the couple dozen newborns in the NICU with covid nationwide, it is the 20% increase in childhood obesity in one year of the pandemic, the mental health dumpster fire and the two years of lost academics that the most vulnerable will never recover, all from over-reacting to a virus with 99.6% survival. And the fact that we seem to keep doubling and tripling down.

Ok but if you don’t care about the safety of newborns why would the OP take your advice about…the safety of her newborn?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who would go to the trouble of making a rude comment on this thread is not someone I would take seriously…

Posters aren’t being rude, PP, they are telling OP the truth. This is not the time to get “fed up” and “throw caution to the wind” with a baby. OP and you both need to take them seriously. You can’t poor-momma when she’s talking about exposing her newborn baby to covid because it’s not what she thought it would be like. Baby has to come first.

Maybe she feels better complaining and getting a little commiseration and instead she's getting finger wagging.

OP is contemplating, in her words, “throw caution to the wind” and it is scary.

You know what scares me? It's not the couple dozen newborns in the NICU with covid nationwide, it is the 20% increase in childhood obesity in one year of the pandemic, the mental health dumpster fire and the two years of lost academics that the most vulnerable will never recover, all from over-reacting to a virus with 99.6% survival. And the fact that we seem to keep doubling and tripling down.

There is no obesity in NEWBORNS, idiot.

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Straight up a-holes on this thread.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone who would go to the trouble of making a rude comment on this thread is not someone I would take seriously…

Posters aren’t being rude, PP, they are telling OP the truth. This is not the time to get “fed up” and “throw caution to the wind” with a baby. OP and you both need to take them seriously. You can’t poor-momma when she’s talking about exposing her newborn baby to covid because it’s not what she thought it would be like. Baby has to come first.

Maybe she feels better complaining and getting a little commiseration and instead she's getting finger wagging.

OP is contemplating, in her words, “throw caution to the wind” and it is scary.

You know what scares me? It's not the couple dozen newborns in the NICU with covid nationwide, it is the 20% increase in childhood obesity in one year of the pandemic, the mental health dumpster fire and the two years of lost academics that the most vulnerable will never recover, all from over-reacting to a virus with 99.6% survival. And the fact that we seem to keep doubling and tripling down.

You know a lot of newborns who are obese, depressed, and missing academics?!

Newborns. OP is talking about her newborn.

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Anonymous wrote:Straight up a-holes on this thread.

Are you the poster worried about obesity and depression in OP’s newborn?

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Even during in a non Covid year this would be the time to closet away your newborn. Sorry OP try to find other outlets. Walks outside would help.

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Ugh. It's really, really hard OP. I had a December baby last year and there were legitimately some dark days. That being said, I framed it like this: there are so few times in life that you can really focus, really zero in on what's truly important. This is one of those times. For right now, respiratory diseases like flu, RSV, covid etc are super dangerous for your baby. Their airways are tiny and their immune systems are just getting started. Do what you can to avoid them for this brief period of your baby's life. You will never regret it. Your mental health would be in a much darker place if your baby was hospitalized (which has happened to a few of my friends despite their best efforts).

Your mental health is extremely important, for both you and the baby. Find friends that you can speak candidly to--tell them your good, bad and ugly. It really does help. If you don't have those friends, get a virtual therapist. Everything you are going through is completely normal in a totally abnormal time in the world. It is temporary. Take walks, take breaks when your partner can help you, watch all the movies you ever wanted to watch, order good food, have a glass of wine. You can do this.

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Anonymous wrote:You don’t get to be “fed up”, OP, you’re a mother now. We’re in the middle of a huge peak of a new covid variant. The cases are multiplying rapidly and this time children are being hospitalized. You can hold off for another couple weeks.

OP I give you permission to feel sorry for yourself. Omicron sucks.

+2. It’s hard enough bring a new mom. Add a global pandemic to the mix and you deserve to feel a little sorry for yourself and frustrated with the situation.