Do you have an ex living rent free in your head?

[Anonymous]

I wonder if I’m in anyone’s head. Pretty sure I visit my ex from right out of college a lot. Tumultuous relationship. And I’m the one who got away from my ex that didn’t want to marry me until he did. Old flame from HS occupies space in my head and a friend from college who I never gave a chance for some stupid reason. He’s fun to fantasize about.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The ex-OW is still living in my head. She won’t leave.

Ditto… 14 years. I’ve seen her twice in 14 years. First time was brutally painful. Second time was much easier.

And they didn’t think of us once. Life is not fair.

Life is much easier for those with no conscience, empathy, morals or remorse. They just destroy and cause trauma and never think of their role in causing it.

[Anonymous]

Ex-W lives on in my spank-bank.
Ex-GF is living in my head, but she will eventually graduate to the spank-bank.

[Anonymous]

Yes, he's been there a while. I just accept it now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The ex-OW is still living in my head. She won’t leave.

Ditto… 14 years. I’ve seen her twice in 14 years. First time was brutally painful. Second time was much easier.

And they didn’t think of us once. Life is not fair.

Life is much easier for those with no conscience, empathy, morals or remorse. They just destroy and cause trauma and never think of their role in causing it.

Ex AP’s wife lives in mine. She has everything I wanted and he’s devoted to her. I’m regularly haunted by the confrontation I had with her.

[Anonymous]

Nope. I love hard but when I'm done, I am truly done.
I delete all numbers, throw away pictures, remove from social media, stay away for a long while.

And there was a always a good reason we broke up. Why dwell on something that would not have worked out?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The ex-OW is still living in my head. She won’t leave.

Ditto… 14 years. I’ve seen her twice in 14 years. First time was brutally painful. Second time was much easier.

And they didn’t think of us once. Life is not fair.

Life is much easier for those with no conscience, empathy, morals or remorse. They just destroy and cause trauma and never think of their role in causing it.

Ex AP’s wife lives in mine. She has everything I wanted and he’s devoted to her. I’m regularly haunted by the confrontation I had with her.

Yuck. She has a cheater you mean? LOL she doesn't have squat and you should see that and move on. Seriously stop wasting oxygen.

I wasted oxygen for a year when my ex died. Not because I wished I was with him, but because I realized if we were still together he would still be alive. Long story, but I couldn't reason with him and ended up divorcing him. He was only married about 4 years, but she was just like him. I was on top of stuff, and on his own he neglected his health and ignored the fact his sibling tested positive for a BRCA2 gene. Obviously that didn't end well, but I would have made sure he got tested and had the necessary surgery BEFORE he got the cancer. IMO if you have a spouse that takes good care of you that's a good spouse. He didn't appreciate all he had.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The ex-OW is still living in my head. She won’t leave.

Ditto… 14 years. I’ve seen her twice in 14 years. First time was brutally painful. Second time was much easier.

"Time cast a spell on you but you won't forget me
I know I could've loved you but you would not let me
I'll follow you down 'til the sound of my voice will haunt you
...you'll never get away from the sound of the woman that loves you"

[Anonymous]

No, he pays rent. He’s my motivator and my reminder to never go to that place of placating ever again. I like him there.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The ex-OW is still living in my head. She won’t leave.

Ditto… 14 years. I’ve seen her twice in 14 years. First time was brutally painful. Second time was much easier.

And they didn’t think of us once. Life is not fair.

Life is much easier for those with no conscience, empathy, morals or remorse. They just destroy and cause trauma and never think of their role in causing it.

Ex AP’s wife lives in mine. She has everything I wanted and he’s devoted to her. I’m regularly haunted by the confrontation I had with her.

Yuck. She has a cheater you mean? LOL she doesn't have squat and you should see that and move on. Seriously stop wasting oxygen.

I wasted oxygen for a year when my ex died. Not because I wished I was with him, but because I realized if we were still together he would still be alive. Long story, but I couldn't reason with him and ended up divorcing him. He was only married about 4 years, but she was just like him. I was on top of stuff, and on his own he neglected his health and ignored the fact his sibling tested positive for a BRCA2 gene. Obviously that didn't end well, but I would have made sure he got tested and had the necessary surgery BEFORE he got the cancer. IMO if you have a spouse that takes good care of you that's a good spouse. He didn't appreciate all he had.

I was a cheater too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How long have they been an ex and how do you plan on evicting them?

years and no. I've tried.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The ex-OW is still living in my head. She won’t leave.

Ditto… 14 years. I’ve seen her twice in 14 years. First time was brutally painful. Second time was much easier.

And they didn’t think of us once. Life is not fair.

What do you know. I think about what I did to her every day. I am in constant emotional pain and tell myself it is because of and incomparable to what I did to her. I haven’t seen him since 2013 or spoken to him since 2015 and still think of him, and her, constantly. I’ve thought about sending her a note just to tell her that it really is over and if she still thinks about me she shouldn’t. But I don’t want to bother her.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The ex-OW is still living in my head. She won’t leave.

Ditto… 14 years. I’ve seen her twice in 14 years. First time was brutally painful. Second time was much easier.

And they didn’t think of us once. Life is not fair.

Life is much easier for those with no conscience, empathy, morals or remorse. They just destroy and cause trauma and never think of their role in causing it.

Ex AP’s wife lives in mine. She has everything I wanted and he’s devoted to her. I’m regularly haunted by the confrontation I had with her.

How did the confrontation come to pass? What happened?

[Anonymous]

Yes sometimes he's there but I've heard that he and the skank OW are typically a few months behind on the mortgage payment so he needs to live rent free somewhere.

[Anonymous]

All day, every day. 13 years.