Want my new daughter in law’s family to start spending holidays with us

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Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. Good luck. Best way to start having relationships with your in laws go down hill rapidly. No you don’t get first dibs because you have only one child.

Strongly disagree. That said, OP's demands sound a bit extreme.

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Sorry you get the one year they get them the next.

[Anonymous]

Highly doubt her sisters want to spend every holiday at your place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You must be trolling because no one would actually think this is remotely reasonable.

This

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No, it does not make any kind of sense.

Her family has her own traditions. Rather than upend them to suit your needs, why don't you agree to split Holidays like normal people?

I hope you're trolling, OP.

[Anonymous]

If you all lived in the same area, maybe this would seen like a reasonable request. They live across the country!!!

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Anonymous wrote:My new DIL’s family lives in Portland and we would like her family (her 2 sisters and parents) to spend the holidays at our house in Maryland. We have the space and it just makes sense that they stay here. There’s some pushback from her parents about this and I feel like they need to understand I have an only child and am not okay with splitting up holidays between her family and ours. My son and DIL are fine with this plan but the parents are the ones not being agreeable. Any advice dealing with difficult conversations surrounding this?

That's lovely to invite them but they may want to spend the holidays at their home. Maybe start by inviting them another time. However, they may not have the money to pay the plane tickets or want to fly out with covid. I loved my MIL and would stay at her house but I don't like staying at other people's homes. Its just very uncomfortable to me.

They don't know you. Have you offered a visit with them in Portland?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hahaha. Good luck. Best way to start having relationships with your in laws go down hill rapidly. No you don’t get first dibs because you have only one child.

Strongly disagree. That said, OP's demands sound a bit extreme.

Ha. People are cray.

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OP, you better get it together or you won’t be seeing your grandkids that much. You sound clueless and entitled. I am cringing for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you all lived in the same area, maybe this would seen like a reasonable request. They live across the country!!!

Yes, but one of the sisters lives in New York so it’s much easier for her to travel to us.

[Anonymous]

Sure this happened.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you all lived in the same area, maybe this would seen like a reasonable request. They live across the country!!!

Yes, but one of the sisters lives in New York so it’s much easier for her to travel to us.

You should travel up there!

[Anonymous]

I am an only child. I love my parents and wish I could spend every holiday with them. But they did only have one kid, so I assume they knew by that choice they’d be alone a lot.

My solution has been every other thanksgiving. And for Christmas I host. In-laws are not okay with me hosting Christmas. They refuse to come and upset my parents get every Christmas. So maybe your son could host?

[Anonymous]

OP, what if one of your DIL's sisters marries someone who is an only child and they try this nonsense. Would you spend Christmas at that family's house? Seriously, you are being absurd.

[Anonymous]

HAHAHA, either you are an Internet troll or you are just a general troll. Either way, back off, old hag.