Shocking 6 yo behavior at playground

[Anonymous]

Yeah, that’s bad. I have three boys who are wild and have way too much energy but none would have behaved that way at any age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I have a boy and girl. My son never behaved like that. My daughter did. I was used to my sweet boy and had to adapt my parenting for my feisty girl!


Yes, it’s within the range of normal.

You call it feisty, I call it abusive (and yes 6 up’s can be both verbally and physically abusive). And no it’s not normal; your daughter has a serious problem you should address.

Clearly you know nothing about child development.

[Anonymous]

This is what happens when parents let their kids watch the crap shows that they market to kids these days. We’re very strict about what our kids watch. We need to be!

[Anonymous]

Maybe the child has special needs? Don’t rush to judgement.

[Anonymous]

Kids say the darndest things, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what happens when parents let their kids watch the crap shows that they market to kids these days. We’re very strict about what our kids watch. We need to be!

That is exactly what it is. And you are such a phenomenal parent for realizing that and doing something about it!

My god some of you people are insufferable.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like this kid is going through an intense day or period of sibling rivalry. I don't let my kids hurt each other but perhaps she is using a strategy of heaping attention on the "victim" rather than paying any attention to the aggressor. There are different parenting strategies for this type of behavior, OP. Not everyone rewards the acting-out kid with attention and consequences. You really are very judgmental with a young child's jealous acting out behavior toward his sibling, a very normal phenomenon. This isn't violence. It's not even close.

[Anonymous]

Some children are just violent by nature. I’m a nanny to a child who talks about killing / hurting people. It’s hard to change who someone is deep inside.
Yes you try and correct the behavior but in my experience it’s usually met with an even bigger wow statement. Example. Child says I hope you get hurt. Larlo that’s not nice you shouldn’t say that. Then larlo says I hope everyone dies I want to kill everyone. Sometimes correcting the behavior causes it to escalate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Some children are just violent by nature. I’m a nanny to a child who talks about killing / hurting people. It’s hard to change who someone is deep inside.
Yes you try and correct the behavior but in my experience it’s usually met with an even bigger wow statement. Example. Child says I hope you get hurt. Larlo that’s not nice you shouldn’t say that. Then larlo says I hope everyone dies I want to kill everyone. Sometimes correcting the behavior causes it to escalate.

you don't respond to a child's angry statement by saying "That's not nice and you shouldn't say that." You respond by probing why the child is so angry.

[Anonymous]

“ I don’t care if she falls I want her to die” is not normal. I would not allow my kids to talk like this about each other. Also, if either of my kids called me dumb or a dumbie it would be the first and last time. This type of disrespect is terrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some children are just violent by nature. I’m a nanny to a child who talks about killing / hurting people. It’s hard to change who someone is deep inside.
Yes you try and correct the behavior but in my experience it’s usually met with an even bigger wow statement. Example. Child says I hope you get hurt. Larlo that’s not nice you shouldn’t say that. Then larlo says I hope everyone dies I want to kill everyone. Sometimes correcting the behavior causes it to escalate.

you don't respond to a child's angry statement by saying "That's not nice and you shouldn't say that." You respond by probing why the child is so angry.

Child’s response; I’m angry because your so stupid and I hate you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Some children are just violent by nature. I’m a nanny to a child who talks about killing / hurting people. It’s hard to change who someone is deep inside.
Yes you try and correct the behavior but in my experience it’s usually met with an even bigger wow statement. Example. Child says I hope you get hurt. Larlo that’s not nice you shouldn’t say that. Then larlo says I hope everyone dies I want to kill everyone. Sometimes correcting the behavior causes it to escalate.

you don't respond to a child's angry statement by saying "That's not nice and you shouldn't say that." You respond by probing why the child is so angry.

Child’s response; I’m angry because your so stupid and I hate you.

"That must be a very lonely way to feel." It's very hard to respond to an angry child with empathy and caring. But punishing a child for anger is not a solution.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“ I don’t care if she falls I want her to die” is not normal. I would not allow my kids to talk like this about each other. Also, if either of my kids called me dumb or a dumbie it would be the first and last time. This type of disrespect is terrible.

Ok, tough guy, how do you fix it with one swoop?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Who cares? Parent the way you sees fit for your child and family. I always like to put myself in other peoples shoes. Maybe the kid has some behavioral or attitude problems. Maybe the playground is the only breather mom can get from her kids at the moment.

THIS! Judgey parents are not helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You obviously have a daughter and never been in a group of boys playing. My very sweet sensitive 5yo boy will beat the sh!t out of DH if we let him. He loves his swords and nerf guns. And Taekwondo has been great for him. Except now he knows the proper way to kick and punch his friends when they start roughhousing.

I think saying he wants her to fall is just attention seeking. DS will say stuff like that just to see us react. Yes, he should be reminded that it’s not nice to say things like that. But it’s not a sign he actually wants that to happen or is some future serial killer.

This is OP, I actually do have a 10 yo son and two nephews and I live in the world where 50% of children are boys and I’ve never seen a kid be so nasty repeatedly towards another child (not just a once off frustrated comment but like snickering and evil). I guess my standards for boys are higher than you all. I was just more concerned about violent, targeted behavior of a younger sibling and the fact this kid would likely be in my kids school and be violent and abusive. People brushing off behavior as boys will be boys is why schools are in the situations they are in now with violence and shootings.

Oh, the classic OP-comes-back-with-more-"true details"-when-a-thread-isn't-going-her-way.