Shocking 6 yo behavior at playground

[Anonymous]

Please tell me this is not normal behavior for a 5/6 yo. I took my dd, 5, to the neighborhood playground this afternoon and there was another mom there from our neighborhood with her two kids, girl about 4 and boy about 6. The 6 yo boys language and behavior was so disturbing. At one point his sister was climbing the jungle gym and the mom told her to be careful and the little boy goes ‘I don’t care if she falls, I want her to die!’ Then at another point, the boy tossed his little sisters baby doll stroller onto the ground and the mom took him aside to scold him I presume, and he yells out ‘Shut up you’re a dumbie!’ The last straw was when he pulled out a nerf gun, pointed it as his sister and shot her with the nerf.

All through this, the mother mostly stood oblivious (except for attempted stroller incident scolding). In this day and age, how do you let your kid act that way. I’m just hoping he won’t be in my kids school.

[Anonymous]

Wow, you live a sheltered existence. Clutch those pearls a little tighter.

[Anonymous]

I mean, get used to it. But you don't have to invite kids like that over for a playdate if you don't want to.

[Anonymous]

Maybe the first, I'd raise my eyebrows at, but the other two are within the range of normal even if not within the range of desirable behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you live a sheltered existence. Clutch those pearls a little tighter.

Eh. Mom of 2 boys (now teens) here. All 3 of that in one outing? No. His aggression and anger at his sister’s existence would have taken us home after episode 2.

[Anonymous]

Who cares? Parent the way you sees fit for your child and family. I always like to put myself in other peoples shoes. Maybe the kid has some behavioral or attitude problems. Maybe the playground is the only breather mom can get from her kids at the moment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you live a sheltered existence. Clutch those pearls a little tighter.

Eh. Mom of 2 boys (now teens) here. All 3 of that in one outing? No. His aggression and anger at his sister’s existence would have taken us home after episode 2.

Sorry I meant him being a brat would have taken us home after episode 2. Yes it punishes the sister too, but she could do something fun once home. Which he would not get to do.

[Anonymous]

I have a boy and girl. My son never behaved like that. My daughter did. I was used to my sweet boy and had to adapt my parenting for my feisty girl!


Yes, it’s within the range of normal.

[Anonymous]

This is a PP and I should have said OP, this is not shocking. Just wait

[Anonymous]

You obviously have a daughter and never been in a group of boys playing. My very sweet sensitive 5yo boy will beat the sh!t out of DH if we let him. He loves his swords and nerf guns. And Taekwondo has been great for him. Except now he knows the proper way to kick and punch his friends when they start roughhousing.

I think saying he wants her to fall is just attention seeking. DS will say stuff like that just to see us react. Yes, he should be reminded that it’s not nice to say things like that. But it’s not a sign he actually wants that to happen or is some future serial killer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I have a boy and girl. My son never behaved like that. My daughter did. I was used to my sweet boy and had to adapt my parenting for my feisty girl!


Yes, it’s within the range of normal.

You call it feisty, I call it abusive (and yes 6 up’s can be both verbally and physically abusive). And no it’s not normal; your daughter has a serious problem you should address.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, you live a sheltered existence. Clutch those pearls a little tighter.

+1. None of this is out of the ordinary for a 6 YO having a bad day. Better brace yourself OP. Your angels will have days like this too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I have a boy and girl. My son never behaved like that. My daughter did. I was used to my sweet boy and had to adapt my parenting for my feisty girl!


Yes, it’s within the range of normal.

You call it feisty, I call it abusive (and yes 6 up’s can be both verbally and physically abusive). And no it’s not normal; your daughter has a serious problem you should address.

Ha ha! She’s 11 now and her teachers love her because she’s a model of good behavior. She used to be seated next to the problem boys in elementary because she was a calming influence.

You just have no clue, do you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You obviously have a daughter and never been in a group of boys playing. My very sweet sensitive 5yo boy will beat the sh!t out of DH if we let him. He loves his swords and nerf guns. And Taekwondo has been great for him. Except now he knows the proper way to kick and punch his friends when they start roughhousing.

I think saying he wants her to fall is just attention seeking. DS will say stuff like that just to see us react. Yes, he should be reminded that it’s not nice to say things like that. But it’s not a sign he actually wants that to happen or is some future serial killer.

This is OP, I actually do have a 10 yo son and two nephews and I live in the world where 50% of children are boys and I’ve never seen a kid be so nasty repeatedly towards another child (not just a once off frustrated comment but like snickering and evil). I guess my standards for boys are higher than you all. I was just more concerned about violent, targeted behavior of a younger sibling and the fact this kid would likely be in my kids school and be violent and abusive. People brushing off behavior as boys will be boys is why schools are in the situations they are in now with violence and shootings.

[Anonymous]

DS has never behaved this way. We would have left after incident-#1. Agree with PP’s though, many parents do not parent their child early on. Then they wonder how things got so out of hand.

However, you don’t know what is going on with that family or that child. There certainly may be certain circumstances that are outside the norm. Personally, if someone else is behaving this way I would take my kids and leave. I don’t need to invite them over to a play date nor do I need to expose five and six-year-old children to that type of behavior. No need to make a big deal out of it but you can ‘remember’ you had a fun game at home you wanted to play today.