If your church's doctrine says homosexuality is a sin, but your DC is gay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP how old is the DC? Is the DC going with you to church?

DC is a young adult, who attended the church and church schools and the family knew DC was gay in early teens, but still remained in the church.

[Anonymous]

I’d ask our gay priest but I think he’d be fine with it.

- Episcopalian

[Anonymous]

There are plenty of churches out there that are progressive and accepting. There is no reason to go to one that is not if you have a DC who is gay.

[Anonymous]

If its a more progressive congregation grappling with the issue then you get involved on making the church accepting. If there's no hope of that then you leave.

-Methodist whose church is in the Reconciling Ministries Network.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If its a more progressive congregation grappling with the issue then you get involved on making the church accepting. If there's no hope of that then you leave.

-Methodist whose church is in the Reconciling Ministries Network.

Nonsense. More conservative churches in liberal areas are atrophying and dying. A family leaving and no longer donating helps accelerate the process.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If its a more progressive congregation grappling with the issue then you get involved on making the church accepting. If there's no hope of that then you leave.

-Methodist whose church is in the Reconciling Ministries Network.

Nonsense. More conservative churches in liberal areas are atrophying and dying. A family leaving and no longer donating helps accelerate the process.

I don't get the 'nonsense'. My point is an individual family should leave a church if they don't think the church can be moved to accept (and embrace) a gay congregant. Obviously on a macro level this will change the church but I don't mean an individual family should stay in case enough other families leave to cause a culture change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Leaving a church means leaving more than the church - it means leaving a social network and support system. It's not like walking down the street and joining another church is going to bring that back.

It not like they can get the love of a son at a church like that, either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the translation is incorrect. I joined a religion not a cult I don’t have to believe everything they teach.

I have a daughter and I don’t think she should “defer” to men.

I don't think you have really joined the religion if you don't believe the doctrine is true. You just joined a social club.

I’m not religious but it seems to me you can be part of a religion and disagree with how current leaders are incorrectly interpreting the religion’s rules in some ways. It’s not like these things are immutable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:seriously? You would consider picking the church over your child?

I’m not sure what you are getting at here. People’s beliefs don’t magic things into existence. If people who practice homosexuality and are unrepentant about it cannot go to Heaven, it doesn’t really matter whether or not you, I, or anyone else believes it. It is what it is.

[Anonymous]

My family left a church after they shunned my sister for being gay. In truth my mom has admitted it was overdue and that the environment toxic. They are much happier in their new church.

[Anonymous]

Leave the Church.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think the translation is incorrect. I joined a religion not a cult I don’t have to believe everything they teach.

I have a daughter and I don’t think she should “defer” to men.

I don't think you have really joined the religion if you don't believe the doctrine is true. You just joined a social club.

I’m not religious but it seems to me you can be part of a religion and disagree with how current leaders are incorrectly interpreting the religion’s rules in some ways. It’s not like these things are immutable.

This.

The religion is not guided by the few men with titles it is guided by the whole congregation. At one time divorced people were denied communion, but no more. Once biracial marriage was not allowed, but no more. Before abortions was not a sin, and again it will be seen as a medical procedure. Once birth control was fine but men changed the rules “because it is too hard for men to control themselves” (Vatican 2).

Religions are political instead of guided by the Holy Spirit and it’s up to us to help it back to the right path.

[Anonymous]

Friends of ours have a son who, as an adult, announced he was transgender and proceeded to transition. The parents were in shock (though not judgmental). They belong to a church that supported them and their child throughout with love and understanding. Seems to me, that’s the way it should be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’d ask our gay priest but I think he’d be fine with it.

- Episcopalian

This 🏳️‍🌈

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How does dc feel about it? Also, why is this even a question?

How would you feel if your parents belong to an organization that teaches that you are a sinner and going to he11? And they give money to that organization - that is against their own DC?

I don’t know that I would view it as “against.” It seems that way because you don’t believe it, but if you flip it around, and you do believe, then what else are these parents supposed to do?

If you honestly believed that your child was putting themselves in serious danger, what could you do but continue to work with whoever was going to help them and hope they would come around? Only a terrible parent would close their eyes to the danger in order to avoid an argument.