My DD has been stealing at school

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she an only child? Theft is a denial of ownership. Most kids learn this early if they have siblings. At home, I would start defining clear property boundaries. Ask for permission to play with her doll, make her ask for permission to play with mama‘s makeup brushes. She needs to understand that she may not touch other people’s things without their consent.

I was an only child and I guarantee you that most only children understand the concept of ownership by the time they start school. If anything, they are probably more particular about it because they haven’t had to share as much. In this case, OPs daughter wssn’t confused about boundaries. If she had been, she would have just grabbed the objectd and been confused when the owner protested. OPs daughter was fully aware she wasn’t supposed to touch things without consent which is why she plotted to do so in secret and why she returned an item when she feared discovery.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not be okay with backpack searching. Yes your DD was wrong but I would address this with the principal as it’s a violation of privacy.

It wasn't a violation of privacy because the teacher had reasonable suspicion about the child taking the items.

[Anonymous]

Are these kids' own stuffed animals from home? That they are presumably very attached to?

Your DD needs to learn the consequences of her actions and how badly they are hurting other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not be okay with backpack searching. Yes your DD was wrong but I would address this with the principal as it’s a violation of privacy.

No it isn't. Schools have long had the right to search lockers, backpacks, etc. The Supreme Court ruled on this in 1985. The school just needs a reasonable suspicion which they had due to OP's DD's behavior and circumstantial evidence. If OP says this to the principal she is going to look like an idiot and That Parent, trying to deflect a serious problem with her child by attacking others over nothing.

[Anonymous]

How is this a question? Yes, you come down hard. No friends/no activities/no electronics for a week. Written apology to the teacher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is she an only child? Theft is a denial of ownership. Most kids learn this early if they have siblings. At home, I would start defining clear property boundaries. Ask for permission to play with her doll, make her ask for permission to play with mama‘s makeup brushes. She needs to understand that she may not touch other people’s things without their consent.

Wow, only's know this. You are nasty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are these kids' own stuffed animals from home? That they are presumably very attached to?

Your DD needs to learn the consequences of her actions and how badly they are hurting other people.

Yes, she stated the kids get to sometimes bring stuffed animals to school as a reward, and her DD was stealing them.

[Anonymous]

How did she get away with this for so long? I’d be concerned about supervision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How did she get away with this for so long? I’d be concerned about supervision.

Read the OP- she was going to the restroom right before lunch then slipping back into the classroom to grab her lunchbox and steal.

[Anonymous]

I would have her write notes of apology to those she stole from. No need to embarrass her in front of the class. I’d punish with no electronics for a week.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not be okay with backpack searching. Yes your DD was wrong but I would address this with the principal as it’s a violation of privacy.

GTFO

[Anonymous]

OP here, My DD said today she helped the teacher sort out whose stuff was whose while the class was at specials and the teacher did not tell the students she stole the stuff. She did however have to eat in the principals office at lunch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not be okay with backpack searching. Yes your DD was wrong but I would address this with the principal as it’s a violation of privacy.

GTFO

Maybe it’s the fact that it was the student teacher who searched the backpack?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not be okay with backpack searching. Yes your DD was wrong but I would address this with the principal as it’s a violation of privacy.

GTFO

Maybe it’s the fact that it was the student teacher who searched the backpack?

That doesn't matter.

[Anonymous]

An apology not to each child she took something from along with a verbal I'm sorry to each one. She knew she was making her classmates cry and kept doing in. She was not sorry she did it. She is sorry she got caught.